Get the Rules of Engagement For When She’s Cheating, Says She Doesn’t Love You, or Filed for Divorce – https://training.empoweredman.co/30dvslyt?el=podcast
Join the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge! – https://www.empoweredman.co/5d-challenge?el=podcast
In this episode, Mark is joined by Sam Davis and they discuss Sam’s transformative journey post-divorce. From dissecting his ego’s role in the marriage to confronting his past behavior, they unearth the raw emotions and pivotal realizations. Sam’s heartfelt letter to his ego becomes a beacon of hope for self-acceptance and growth. His commitment to being a better father and breaking generational patterns shines through, offering a powerful lesson in personal evolution and parental guidance.
Episode Summary:
- Marriage, communication, and control. 0:03
- Host Mark Santiago introduces the next stage of his podcast, Empowered AF 2.0, focusing on healthy communication and lifestyle for men.
- Sam describes how his business travel and desire for control led to the end of his marriage, causing his wife to feel lonely and unhappy.
- Sam reflects on how his controlling behavior was a hindrance to his relationship, rather than a help, and how he wishes he could have seen his wife’s perspective earlier.
- Personal growth and self-awareness in a post-divorce context. 4:20
- Sam recognizes and takes ownership of his role in failing marriage after joining empowerment group.
- Sam realized he was raised with toxic masculinity and was taught to suppress emotions, leading to a desire to get his ex-wife back through the program.
- Sam’s initial motivation for joining the program was to change himself in hopes of getting his ex-wife back, but he eventually realized the importance of self-improvement and becoming a better person.
- Sam realized the importance of living in the moment and prioritizing his daughters, leading to increased happiness and fulfillment.
- Sam’s shift in focus allowed him to put his daughters first and experience the rewards of doing so.
- Fatherhood, marriage, and emotional intelligence. 11:48
- Sam reflects on missed opportunities with children, now prioritizing presence in their lives.
- Sam shares how they’ve learned to live in the present and enjoy his family, rather than focusing on the future and saving money.
- Mark appreciates the progress Sam has made in his communication and emotional intelligence, and notes that it’s opened his mind up to new realizations.
- Ego and marriage after a failed relationship. 15:33
- Ego and wounds played a significant role in the Sam’s failed marriage and subsequent decision-making.
- Sam admits to being an “embarrassing dick” to his partner during a difficult moment, revealing his ego’s defensive mechanisms.
- Sam reflects on his divorce and the idea that love is a fleeting emotion that can change over time, requiring work and commitment to maintain a successful marriage.
- Sam acknowledges that letting go of a loved one can be difficult, but it’s sometimes necessary for personal growth and happiness.
- Moving on from a past relationship. 23:46
- Sam reflects on his relationship with their ex-wife, realizing he was okay without her and finding happiness with his kids.
- Sam acknowledges his feelings of hurt and betrayal, but also expresses hope for the future and the need to move on without his ex-wife’s acceptance.
- Sam has been writing letters to his ex-wife, allowing himself to feel and process his emotions without needing her approval, and has started dating again.
- Empowering men to overcome personal issues and improve relationships. 28:45
- Sam shares his journey of overcoming personal issues to become a better father and husband, hoping to break the pattern of divorce in his family.
- Sam’s goal is for his children to break the trend of divorce and have healthier relationships in the future.
- Sam emphasizes the importance of teaching girls respect and how to be a good wife, while also respecting themselves and being happy.
- Mark appreciates the openness of the guest and the value of his work in empowering men.
Listen In!
YOUR journey of healing starts with trusting the Empowered Man process and a $27 buy-in. If you can’t afford that, then you are doing the wrong work. You are paid commensurate to your value — so create more value.