Empowered AF Podcast

So you get divorced or need help with your marriage, and you go to a friend or someone you trust who’s been there before. What happens when that doesn’t help? You try couples counseling and individual therapy and feel like your wheels are spinning. You’re rehashing the past – but you’re not going anywhere. Where do you go, and what do you do?

In this episode, Mark commiserates with men in this position because he’s been there. But he’s also figured out where to go when it’s time to get a Return On Investment on all those tears. The Empowered Man will teach you how to harness your masculinity and learn to start hitting the ‘me’ button and stop hitting the ‘she’ button. Becoming the CEO of your life starts here!

“We call you out so that we can call you into your greatness.”

– Mark Santiago 

In This Episode:

– Mark describes likely scenarios of what you’ve tried when your relationship is in trouble

– Where most men end up after therapy (how to stop talking about the past)

– Neutralizing the power that your wife has over you

– Setting boundaries, taking ownership – becoming the CEO of your life

– Remembering that the power lies in your perspective

– Real men don’t go hunting alone – the power of the Thrive program

Join the Thrive Program:

– Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

Take the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge:

– Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/order-form1651254400260

Connect with the Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

– Questions? Email support@empoweredman.co

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

As men, we think there is no reason to be vulnerable or open ourselves up because we SUCK at emotions. We suck at DEALING with them, and we suck at letting other people in. There is something in the male DNA that says if a guy can figure it out on his own, he’s a REAL man. But this week, Mark is showing you why that is NOT the case. 

VULNERABILITY is one of the SEXIEST aspects to women. They want to know that you’re not just some strong leader, but you’re also a man of HEART and somebody who can be VULNERABLE. So WHY are so many men still closing themselves off from their wives and dealing with sh*t ALONE? It’s time to change. In this episode, Mark is calling you INTO manhood and showing you why YOU have what it takes to make a change. Find out why so many men SUCK at relying on other people, and how to STOP seeking validation for transformation and START taking control of your life.

“Just because you ask for help, doesn’t mean you’re a bad guy. Doesn’t mean you’re less of a man. It makes you more of a man.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– THIS is the hardest thing for most men to realize when it comes to their marriage

– Find out the REAL reason your wife wants to walk away from the marriage

– Discover where the idea of not needing anyone else comes from and how this has shown up in Mark’s life

– THIS is what happens when you are in a place of PRIDE and ARROGANCE…

– Mark shares how he developed the habit of working things out on his own.

– THIS is what TRUE leadership looks like…

– Learn how to see where YOU are seeking validation in your life

– Validation does NOT give you transformation. Here’s why…

And much more…

 

Join the Thrive Program:

-Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

 

Take the Empowered Man 5 Day Challenge:

–Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/order-form1651254400260

Connect with the Empowered Man:

– Call to Book:

https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

– Questions? Email support@empoweredman.co

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

Have you ever wondered what pushes women to FINALLY take the plunge and END a long-lasting marriage? These decisions don’t just happen overnight, they are usually the last resort. This week on the show, Mark is joined by a woman – and not just ANY woman – the most special woman he knows: his WIFE, Amy Santiago. Amy has remarried but joins Mark this week to talk about her experience of divorce. MEN, take note: she didn’t WANT to get a divorce, she would RATHER have stayed married, but it ultimately wasn’t possible.

Amy had a marriage that was rocky, full of toxicity, and one that fell apart as a result. This week’s episode is a great case study of what you guys should NOT be doing if you want to create a new marriage with your wife. Tune in to hear Amy’s overview of her first marriage and the demise of it. You’ll learn what she feels were HER responsibilities in the failure of the marriage, what she really wanted from her husband that she never got, and her advice to all you men out there whose wives are wanting to separate or get a divorce.

“Telling your wife you’re going to get a six-pack of abs isn’t getting her back. If you’re showing up as a little boy, it won’t move the needle.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– Find out what a HEALTHY woman is looking for in a relationship

– A female perspective on why a man should join Thrive

– THIS is why your wife wants to divorce you…

– Amy shares some examples of how she tried to get her healthy needs met in an unhealthy way

– Discover how long Amy had been considering divorce before she finally instigated it

– Hear the BIGGEST difference between how Amy showed up in her first marriage compared with how she shows up in her marriage to Mark

– Learn the real reason women instigate divorce or separation

And much more…

  

Join the Thrive Program:

– Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

 

Take the Empowered Man 5 Day Challenge:

– Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/order-form1651254400260

Connect with the Empowered Man:

– Call to Book:

https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

– Questions? Email support@empoweredman.co

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

So many of you facing separation and divorce are saying and doing the WRONG things, and pushing your spouse FURTHER away. This poor communication and lack of leadership and ownership are contributing to the BREAKDOWN of your marriage. Mark sees so many men going through this, so this week, he’s doing something he has NEVER done on the show before, and he’s tearing down a reality TV relationship breakdown between Kim and Barry Plath from Welcome to Plathville. 

It doesn’t matter if the show is real or not. In the scene Mark shares, Kim tells Barry how she FEELS, and he does not know how to listen to her or make her feel heard and understood. This is so common among men who come to Mark for support and it HAS to change. Listen in this week to hear a step-by-step breakdown of the conversation between Kim and Barry, how Barry SHOULD have responded, what he’s doing WRONG, and what he needs to do to fix it. And if you think this sounds like you, hear how to apply Mark’s advice to YOUR relationship.

“If you don’t take the opportunity to listen and help her feel heard and understood, you are blowing it. You are losing your chance to be better.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– Find out WHY people behave selfishly and how to ensure YOU don’t

– You can’t change what she does or how she behaves, there is only ONE thing you can change. This is it…

– Why you have to be SECURE in yourself if you want to hear and understand what your wife is saying

– Mark shares one of the most ARROGANT statements he has heard anybody say

– Discover your greatest superpower as an EMPOWERED man

– Mark is sharing, and how HE would respond in the circumstances

– THIS is the problem with you not accepting responsibility and accountability for your actions…

And much more…

 

Resources Mentioned:

– Welcome to Plathville

 

Join the Thrive Program:

– Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

 

Take the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge:

– Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/order-form1651254400260

Connect with the Empowered Man:

– Call to Book:

https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

– Questions? Email support@empoweredman.co

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

So many of you don’t treat your relationship as an ASSET, you treat it as a LIABILITY. This is a PROBLEM. So many of you are so focused on thinking about HER and saving the marriage, that you miss what’s possible for YOU and YOUR growth. This is a PROBLEM. These are some of the truths Mark is bringing you this week in this week’s Ask Me Anything episode.

 Are you wondering how to deal with the PAIN of getting a divorce? Do you need guidance about what to say and what NOT to say to your wife during difficult times? Do you need help letting her go and don’t know where to turn? Mark is bringing you this week’s episode LIVE from inside the 5-day challenge and he’s answering YOUR questions on becoming an EMPOWERED man. If you’re not in the Thrive Community or 5-day challenge yet, you are MISSING OUT. Get in there now and take RESPONSIBILITY for your own growth.

“Full ownership is recognizing the problem, acknowledging, creating a plan and executing the plan. That is full ownership.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– Mark shares one of the most HUMBLING statements you can ever say to yourself

– Being with your wife is like an ADDICTION. This is why…

– Find out why so many of you LOSE your identity in the process of being married to a woman

– THIS is the ONLY way you can focus on and work on yourself…

– Discover what full ownership really looks like

– THIS is how the THRIVE community can help you get your POWER back…

– Your story is NO different from anyone else’s story. Here’s why…

And much more…

 

Resources Mentioned:

– Episode 2: Don’t Let the Affair Define You: https://empoweredman.co/episode2/

 

Join the Thrive Program:

– Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

 

Take the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge:

– Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/order-form1651254400260

Connect with the Empowered Man:

– Call to Book:

https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

– Questions? Email support@empoweredman.co

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

Is your EGO killing your relationship? Lots of successful men have a hard time in their relationships, but they don’t realize that, in most cases, it’s because of their EGO. Men are so focused on DEFENDING themselves and PROTECTING their ego when it comes to separation or divorce, but this is KILLING your marriage and stopping you from being EMPOWERED.

If you want to be a truly EMPOWERED man, you need to KILL your ego. Andrew and Mark are back with an Empowered Man Top Pick episode this week to share why so many men make the mistake of PROTECTING their egos and how to FIX the problem once and for all. Discover how to see where YOUR ego is holding you back, how to STOP protecting your ego in an unhealthy way, and some tips for KILLING your ego and becoming EMPOWERED.

“Anytime a man has to minimize or maximize himself at the fault or stake of another person, that’s ego. That’s you not being mature with who you are.”

                                                               – Mark Santiago      

In This Episode:

– Is your EGO getting in the way of your marriage? Here’s how to tell…

– Find out what it means to PROTECT your ego in an unhealthy way

– Discover how EGO and EMOTIONS tie in together…

– Mark shares why men get so defensive when letting go of their ego

– THIS is what every man wishes he could articulate…

– How to know what your ego is, be able to put it aside, and live authentically

– You need to KILL your ego if you want to SAVE your marriage. Here’s why…

And much more…

 

Join the Thrive Program:

-Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

 

Take the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge:

–Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/order-form1651254400260

Connect with the Empowered Man:

– Call to Book:

https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

– Questions? Email: support@empoweredman.co

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

Do you use BREVITY in your marriage? Brevity is a CONCISE and EXACT use of words in writing or speech. So often, we’re used to explaining ourselves, we WORD VOMIT and we overspill. But with no CLEAR direction of your words, you cannot hope to save your marriage. Being MESSY with your words is not serving you. You need BREVITY.

This week, you’ll hear another of Mark’s favorite episodes, where he lays the foundations of BREVITY. Brevity is LEADERSHIP and choosing your words CAREFULLY is key to being an EMPOWERED man. Using BREVITY will make you a safe space. Using BREVITY will make your wife feel HEARD. Using BREVITY will disarm toxicity. If you have hit a fork in the road and know you’ve got to make decisions, you need to listen in this week. Mark is diving deeper into the power of BREVITY, showing you when you should use it and when you shouldn’t, and explaining how to use brevity to create a NEW marriage.

“Brevity disarms toxicity. Brevity and not just throwing everything out there will help you.”

                                                                   – Mark Santiago   

In This Episode:

– Find out why you CANNOT control what SHE does in the relationship, and what you CAN control…

– THIS is what your wife REALLY needs from you in your marriage…

– Why you should only LEAD with focused, concise speech when trying to save your marriage

– This is a KEY distinction that every man needs to learn…

– Find out when you should use BREVITY and when you shouldn’t

– Learn why you DON’T need your wife to be happy

– Here are some reasons men struggle with brevity…

– THIS is why brevity is so important if you want to save your marriage…

And much more…

 

Join the Thrive Program:

-Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

 

Take the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge:

–Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/order-form1651254400260

Connect with the Empowered Man:

– Call to Book:

https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

– Questions? Email: support@empoweredman.co

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

There is all this talk of EMPOWERING yourself, but what does it actually mean to make that change? We all live in the same SHAME and INSECURITY but too many men fall into the habit of scapegoating and absorbing information as a distraction from their problems. If you want to become an EMPOWERED man, you need to hear the simple (but not easy!) steps to get there. Over the next few weeks on the podcast, you’ll hear some of Mark’s FAVORITE episodes of all time to help you.

In this week’s episode, Mark revisits the 7 ways that the empowered man RISES from the crowd of boys and learns how to start taking ACTION in a sea of information. Hear the differences between living life as an EMPOWERED and a DISEMPOWERED man, and the ONE thing you need to focus on every day to push through the struggles and RISE from the ashes.

“The best time to invest in yourself was yesterday, the next best time to invest in yourself is today.”

                                                                 – Mark Santiago            

In This Episode:

– Find out what a disempowered man focuses on and how it’s different to what an EMPOWERED man focuses on…

– Learn the differences between empowered and disempowered men

– THIS is where true freedom comes from…

– If you want to be empowered, you have to invest in your future today. Here’s why…

– As men, we want to feel STRONG and POWERFUL. Here’s how to get there…

– Learn how to apply these principles to YOUR life so you can focus on getting to the next stage in your life

– Empowered men play to WIN. Here’s what that means…

 And much more…

 

Join the Thrive Program:

-Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

 

Take the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge:

–Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/order-form1651254400260

Connect with the Empowered Man:

– Call to Book:

https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

– Questions? Email: support@empoweredman.co

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

Are you setting yourself up for RESENTMENT with your wife? What are you doing that INFLUENCES what she does? Last week, Mark and David talked about the PROBLEMS in marriage and the ONE thing that underlies EVERY divorce, but this week, they’re talking about the SOLUTIONS. How do you FIX those issues in your marriage? How do you become a high-value man and husband?

Mark and David are having a DEEPER conversation this week to help you REFLECT on your own marriage, and consider what you are doing or NOT doing to THRIVE in your relationships. Discover the ONLY way a relationship will be successful, why you have to change your mindset and beliefs or you will always fall back into old habits, and some practical steps to help you become a high-value husband.

“There is a difference between fault and responsibility. Fault is more about shame, responsibility is about leadership.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– Hear some examples of what makes a selfless husband

– THIS is the first step in turning around your relationship…

– Find out the importance of being ACCOUNTABLE for your actions

– David shares the concept of The Better Next Time journal and how to use it

– Most of the time, your wife’s behavior is a reflection of something YOU did that influenced her. Here’s why…

– This is one of the GREATEST skills you can learn as an empowered man…

And much more…

Join the Thrive Program:

-Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

Take the Empowered Man 5 Day Challenge:

-Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/order-form1651254400260

Connect with the Empowered Man:

– Call to Book:https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

– Questions? Email: support@empoweredman.co

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

 

Connect with David Frey:

– Book: https://www.amazon.com/301-Ways-High-Value-Husband/dp/1931740003

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/thedavidfrey/   

– Twitter: https://twitter.com/David_Frey

There is ONE underlying human trait that we are ALL born with, and it underlies every single divorce. There are various studies and evidence that list the reasons why people have problems or issues in their relationships, but this ONE trait is behind them ALL. And this week’s guest joins Mark to share what that is, and how to see if it is showing up in YOUR relationship.

David Frey has been marketing for 22 years, but after the discovery of a genetic disease in 2013, he realized that he has a FINITE amount of time left on this planet and he wants to spend it doing something worthwhile. He transitioned to become a marriage coach and he now helps people in what he believes is the most important thing in their lives: their MARRIAGES and relationships. He has dedicated the rest of his life to helping men improve their marriages and joins Mark on the show this week to show you how to STOP wrecking your marriage and START becoming a high-value husband.

“As men, we judge what one person does as worse than what we do. We hit the ‘she’ button instead of the ‘me’ button.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– David shares what he believes is the CORE reason or source of ALL marriage problems and divorce

– Egotism and pride are manifested in ONE word. Find out what it is…

– Mark shares how what he learned from David is the genesis of all the marketing he currently does

– Wondering how to spot a narcissist? Here are some common traits…

– Find out why getting a divorce was the BEST thing that ever happened to Mark

– Hear some questions to ask yourself to see if YOU are wrecking your marriage

– David shares what he sees as pride and how it manifests in relationships

– There are TWO things you can do with tragedy. Here’s what they are…

– Learn what boomerang blaming is and how to tell if you are doing it

And much more…

Join the Thrive Program:

-Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

 

Take the Empowered Man 5 Day Challenge:

–Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/order-form1651254400260

Connect with the Empowered Man:

– Call to Book:

https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

– Questions? Email support@empoweredman.co

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

 

Connect with David Frey:

– Book: https://www.amazon.com/301-Ways-High-Value-Husband/dp/1931740003

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/thedavidfrey/   

– Twitter: https://twitter.com/David_Frey