Empowered AF Podcast

So many of you facing separation and divorce are saying and doing the WRONG things, and pushing your spouse FURTHER away. This poor communication and lack of leadership and ownership are contributing to the BREAKDOWN of your marriage. Mark sees so many men going through this, so this week, he’s doing something he has NEVER done on the show before, and he’s tearing down a reality TV relationship breakdown between Kim and Barry Plath from Welcome to Plathville. 

It doesn’t matter if the show is real or not. In the scene Mark shares, Kim tells Barry how she FEELS, and he does not know how to listen to her or make her feel heard and understood. This is so common among men who come to Mark for support and it HAS to change. Listen in this week to hear a step-by-step breakdown of the conversation between Kim and Barry, how Barry SHOULD have responded, what he’s doing WRONG, and what he needs to do to fix it. And if you think this sounds like you, hear how to apply Mark’s advice to YOUR relationship.

“If you don’t take the opportunity to listen and help her feel heard and understood, you are blowing it. You are losing your chance to be better.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– Find out WHY people behave selfishly and how to ensure YOU don’t

– You can’t change what she does or how she behaves, there is only ONE thing you can change. This is it…

– Why you have to be SECURE in yourself if you want to hear and understand what your wife is saying

– Mark shares one of the most ARROGANT statements he has heard anybody say

– Discover your greatest superpower as an EMPOWERED man

– Mark is sharing, and how HE would respond in the circumstances

– THIS is the problem with you not accepting responsibility and accountability for your actions…

And much more…

 

Resources Mentioned:

– Welcome to Plathville

 

Join the Thrive Program:

– Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

 

Take the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge:

– Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/order-form1651254400260

Connect with the Empowered Man:

– Call to Book:

https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

– Questions? Email support@empoweredman.co

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

So many of you don’t treat your relationship as an ASSET, you treat it as a LIABILITY. This is a PROBLEM. So many of you are so focused on thinking about HER and saving the marriage, that you miss what’s possible for YOU and YOUR growth. This is a PROBLEM. These are some of the truths Mark is bringing you this week in this week’s Ask Me Anything episode.

 Are you wondering how to deal with the PAIN of getting a divorce? Do you need guidance about what to say and what NOT to say to your wife during difficult times? Do you need help letting her go and don’t know where to turn? Mark is bringing you this week’s episode LIVE from inside the 5-day challenge and he’s answering YOUR questions on becoming an EMPOWERED man. If you’re not in the Thrive Community or 5-day challenge yet, you are MISSING OUT. Get in there now and take RESPONSIBILITY for your own growth.

“Full ownership is recognizing the problem, acknowledging, creating a plan and executing the plan. That is full ownership.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– Mark shares one of the most HUMBLING statements you can ever say to yourself

– Being with your wife is like an ADDICTION. This is why…

– Find out why so many of you LOSE your identity in the process of being married to a woman

– THIS is the ONLY way you can focus on and work on yourself…

– Discover what full ownership really looks like

– THIS is how the THRIVE community can help you get your POWER back…

– Your story is NO different from anyone else’s story. Here’s why…

And much more…

 

Resources Mentioned:

– Episode 2: Don’t Let the Affair Define You: https://empoweredman.co/episode2/

 

Join the Thrive Program:

– Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

 

Take the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge:

– Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/order-form1651254400260

Connect with the Empowered Man:

– Call to Book:

https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

– Questions? Email support@empoweredman.co

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

Is your EGO killing your relationship? Lots of successful men have a hard time in their relationships, but they don’t realize that, in most cases, it’s because of their EGO. Men are so focused on DEFENDING themselves and PROTECTING their ego when it comes to separation or divorce, but this is KILLING your marriage and stopping you from being EMPOWERED.

If you want to be a truly EMPOWERED man, you need to KILL your ego. Andrew and Mark are back with an Empowered Man Top Pick episode this week to share why so many men make the mistake of PROTECTING their egos and how to FIX the problem once and for all. Discover how to see where YOUR ego is holding you back, how to STOP protecting your ego in an unhealthy way, and some tips for KILLING your ego and becoming EMPOWERED.

“Anytime a man has to minimize or maximize himself at the fault or stake of another person, that’s ego. That’s you not being mature with who you are.”

                                                               – Mark Santiago      

In This Episode:

– Is your EGO getting in the way of your marriage? Here’s how to tell…

– Find out what it means to PROTECT your ego in an unhealthy way

– Discover how EGO and EMOTIONS tie in together…

– Mark shares why men get so defensive when letting go of their ego

– THIS is what every man wishes he could articulate…

– How to know what your ego is, be able to put it aside, and live authentically

– You need to KILL your ego if you want to SAVE your marriage. Here’s why…

And much more…

 

Join the Thrive Program:

-Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

 

Take the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge:

–Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/order-form1651254400260

Connect with the Empowered Man:

– Call to Book:

https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

– Questions? Email: support@empoweredman.co

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

Do you use BREVITY in your marriage? Brevity is a CONCISE and EXACT use of words in writing or speech. So often, we’re used to explaining ourselves, we WORD VOMIT and we overspill. But with no CLEAR direction of your words, you cannot hope to save your marriage. Being MESSY with your words is not serving you. You need BREVITY.

This week, you’ll hear another of Mark’s favorite episodes, where he lays the foundations of BREVITY. Brevity is LEADERSHIP and choosing your words CAREFULLY is key to being an EMPOWERED man. Using BREVITY will make you a safe space. Using BREVITY will make your wife feel HEARD. Using BREVITY will disarm toxicity. If you have hit a fork in the road and know you’ve got to make decisions, you need to listen in this week. Mark is diving deeper into the power of BREVITY, showing you when you should use it and when you shouldn’t, and explaining how to use brevity to create a NEW marriage.

“Brevity disarms toxicity. Brevity and not just throwing everything out there will help you.”

                                                                   – Mark Santiago   

In This Episode:

– Find out why you CANNOT control what SHE does in the relationship, and what you CAN control…

– THIS is what your wife REALLY needs from you in your marriage…

– Why you should only LEAD with focused, concise speech when trying to save your marriage

– This is a KEY distinction that every man needs to learn…

– Find out when you should use BREVITY and when you shouldn’t

– Learn why you DON’T need your wife to be happy

– Here are some reasons men struggle with brevity…

– THIS is why brevity is so important if you want to save your marriage…

And much more…

 

Join the Thrive Program:

-Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

 

Take the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge:

–Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/order-form1651254400260

Connect with the Empowered Man:

– Call to Book:

https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

– Questions? Email: support@empoweredman.co

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

There is all this talk of EMPOWERING yourself, but what does it actually mean to make that change? We all live in the same SHAME and INSECURITY but too many men fall into the habit of scapegoating and absorbing information as a distraction from their problems. If you want to become an EMPOWERED man, you need to hear the simple (but not easy!) steps to get there. Over the next few weeks on the podcast, you’ll hear some of Mark’s FAVORITE episodes of all time to help you.

In this week’s episode, Mark revisits the 7 ways that the empowered man RISES from the crowd of boys and learns how to start taking ACTION in a sea of information. Hear the differences between living life as an EMPOWERED and a DISEMPOWERED man, and the ONE thing you need to focus on every day to push through the struggles and RISE from the ashes.

“The best time to invest in yourself was yesterday, the next best time to invest in yourself is today.”

                                                                 – Mark Santiago            

In This Episode:

– Find out what a disempowered man focuses on and how it’s different to what an EMPOWERED man focuses on…

– Learn the differences between empowered and disempowered men

– THIS is where true freedom comes from…

– If you want to be empowered, you have to invest in your future today. Here’s why…

– As men, we want to feel STRONG and POWERFUL. Here’s how to get there…

– Learn how to apply these principles to YOUR life so you can focus on getting to the next stage in your life

– Empowered men play to WIN. Here’s what that means…

 And much more…

 

Join the Thrive Program:

-Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

 

Take the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge:

–Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/order-form1651254400260

Connect with the Empowered Man:

– Call to Book:

https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

– Questions? Email: support@empoweredman.co

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

Are you setting yourself up for RESENTMENT with your wife? What are you doing that INFLUENCES what she does? Last week, Mark and David talked about the PROBLEMS in marriage and the ONE thing that underlies EVERY divorce, but this week, they’re talking about the SOLUTIONS. How do you FIX those issues in your marriage? How do you become a high-value man and husband?

Mark and David are having a DEEPER conversation this week to help you REFLECT on your own marriage, and consider what you are doing or NOT doing to THRIVE in your relationships. Discover the ONLY way a relationship will be successful, why you have to change your mindset and beliefs or you will always fall back into old habits, and some practical steps to help you become a high-value husband.

“There is a difference between fault and responsibility. Fault is more about shame, responsibility is about leadership.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– Hear some examples of what makes a selfless husband

– THIS is the first step in turning around your relationship…

– Find out the importance of being ACCOUNTABLE for your actions

– David shares the concept of The Better Next Time journal and how to use it

– Most of the time, your wife’s behavior is a reflection of something YOU did that influenced her. Here’s why…

– This is one of the GREATEST skills you can learn as an empowered man…

And much more…

Join the Thrive Program:

-Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

Take the Empowered Man 5 Day Challenge:

-Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/order-form1651254400260

Connect with the Empowered Man:

– Call to Book:https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

– Questions? Email: support@empoweredman.co

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

 

Connect with David Frey:

– Book: https://www.amazon.com/301-Ways-High-Value-Husband/dp/1931740003

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/thedavidfrey/   

– Twitter: https://twitter.com/David_Frey

There is ONE underlying human trait that we are ALL born with, and it underlies every single divorce. There are various studies and evidence that list the reasons why people have problems or issues in their relationships, but this ONE trait is behind them ALL. And this week’s guest joins Mark to share what that is, and how to see if it is showing up in YOUR relationship.

David Frey has been marketing for 22 years, but after the discovery of a genetic disease in 2013, he realized that he has a FINITE amount of time left on this planet and he wants to spend it doing something worthwhile. He transitioned to become a marriage coach and he now helps people in what he believes is the most important thing in their lives: their MARRIAGES and relationships. He has dedicated the rest of his life to helping men improve their marriages and joins Mark on the show this week to show you how to STOP wrecking your marriage and START becoming a high-value husband.

“As men, we judge what one person does as worse than what we do. We hit the ‘she’ button instead of the ‘me’ button.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– David shares what he believes is the CORE reason or source of ALL marriage problems and divorce

– Egotism and pride are manifested in ONE word. Find out what it is…

– Mark shares how what he learned from David is the genesis of all the marketing he currently does

– Wondering how to spot a narcissist? Here are some common traits…

– Find out why getting a divorce was the BEST thing that ever happened to Mark

– Hear some questions to ask yourself to see if YOU are wrecking your marriage

– David shares what he sees as pride and how it manifests in relationships

– There are TWO things you can do with tragedy. Here’s what they are…

– Learn what boomerang blaming is and how to tell if you are doing it

And much more…

Join the Thrive Program:

-Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

 

Take the Empowered Man 5 Day Challenge:

–Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/order-form1651254400260

Connect with the Empowered Man:

– Call to Book:

https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

– Questions? Email support@empoweredman.co

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

 

Connect with David Frey:

– Book: https://www.amazon.com/301-Ways-High-Value-Husband/dp/1931740003

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/thedavidfrey/   

– Twitter: https://twitter.com/David_Frey

 

We have so many characteristics and attributes available to us, but we all put LABELS on ourselves and define ourselves by ONE thing. We’re an introvert, we’re divorced, we’re weak. But this is a DANGEROUS thing to do. You are not just ONE thing. There is a source code of qualities and attributes available to you, and using The Alter Ego Effect can help you tap into these. This concept can help you play BIGGER, get out of your own way, and be the man you truly want to be.

Last week Mark welcomed Todd Herman onto the podcast, and this week you’ll hear part two of their conversation, where Mark and Todd dive deeper into the concept of The Alter Ego Effect. Todd shares the history of the concept, how it has helped HUNDREDS of thousands of people throughout history, and some proven, science-backed tweaks and methods YOU can use to start shifting results in your own life right now.

“You don’t have to do everything differently to become an alter ego. Just pick one thing and start with that.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– It is very important to know what we want as an outcome. Here’s why…

– Learn what moments of impact are, and where these show up in both Todd’s and Mark’s lives

– Humans have one greatest superpower above all other species. Here’s what it is…

– There is nothing that is ALWAYS good. Here’s why…

– Todd shares one of the main pillars that holds up The Alter Ego Effect

– There is ONE thing that sets elite people apart from other people. Here’s what that is…

And much more…

 

Join the Thrive Program:

– Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

 

Take the Empowered Man 5 Day Challenge:

– Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/order-form1651254400260

Connect with the Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

– Questions? Email support@empoweredman.co

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

Connect with Todd Herman:

– Website: https://alteregoeffect.com/

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/toddhermanconnect

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/todd_herman/?hl=en

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/toddherman1  

Performance is something we ALL do. We all show up in some role or environment in our lives to get a result. Empowered AF 2.0 is about YOU evolving as a MAN, not just in the context of separation and divorce, but in ALL things in your life. And to evolve, you need to change your mindset using TRIED and TESTED principles and strive for PEAK performance. This week’s guest has figured out a way to make these principles REAL and TANGIBLE and incorporate them into your life. 

Todd Herman is a performance coach for athletes, leaders, and public figures and the author of The Alter Ego Effect. He joins Mark to talk more about peak performance and what impacts it the most, as well as the concept of The Alter Ego and the role it plays in your performance. What does peak performance have to do with YOU as a man in the midst of separation or divorce? The answer is EVERYTHING. When you understand this concept, not only will you take it into your marriage, but also your business, family, and EVERY area of your life. In this episode, hear some of the alter egos Todd has helped build, how he has brought this method into people’s lives, and how YOU can use this concept to show up as the man you TRULY want to be in your marriage.

“If you are facing separation or divorce, there is an alter ego you need in order to show up.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– There is one main reason people employ an alter ego. Here’s what it is…

– Hear how Todd built out The Alter Ego Effect™

–  Find out what your field of play is and how to start showing up as you want to in it

– Todd shares one of the BIGGEST problems with the personal development and self-help world

– Discover the reason you DON’T know how to show up as a man and husband

– There is one tool that the best of the best have used to reach consistent levels of peak performance. It is this…

– Most people are not enjoying the results they’re getting in their life, but there is one thing they can control. Here’s what it is…

And much more…

Books Mentioned:

– Coaching the Mental Game: Leadership Philosophies and Strategies for Peak Performance in Sports and Everyday Life by Harvey A. Dorfman: https://www.amazon.com/Coaching-Mental-Game-Philosophies-Performance/dp/1589790111

– The Alter Ego Effect™ by Todd Herman: https://alteregoeffect.com/book/

Join the Thrive Program:

– Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

Take the Empowered Man 5 Day Challenge:

– Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/order-form1651254400260

Connect with the Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

– Questions? Email support@empoweredman.co

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

Connect with Todd Herman:

– Website: https://alteregoeffect.com/

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/toddhermanconnect

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/todd_herman/?hl=en

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/toddherman1  

Freedom is NEVER free. We invest in things all the time. Yet, MEN struggle with investing in themselves not just financially but in a lot of ways. When going through a tough time, most guys choose to read, watch videos, or sit around and hope that their problems will disappear instead of investing in a company or someone who can help them. They haven’t realized there’s a cost to freedom – it isn’t FREE. 

Fixing something costs something. It’s a process. Every moment you make a decision, there’s an opportunity cost attached to it. So just think about it, what are your choices costing you right now? If you’re tired of just being good and you’re FINALLY willing to invest in yourself to become an empowered man, then this episode is for you.

“A man that asks for help and is willing to invest in that help says something about what he values.”

– Mark Santiago

 

In This Episode:

– Mark just invested $30K in Empowered Men. THIS is why he did it…

– Do you understand the concept of opportunity cost? What are your choices costing you right now?

– What are you willing to invest in exchange if you want to have confidence, power, and freedom?

– When spending money on something, are you truly investing in your future, or are you just masking the pain?

– HERE are some steps to begin investing in yourself

– Men have five POWER zones. Looking at each of them is the first thing we do to help you…

– THIS is how you should craft your Game Plan. No guessing game or some theoretical textbook approach.

And much more…

Join the Thrive Program:

– Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

Take the Empowered Man 5 Day Challenge:

– Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/order-form1651254400260

Connect with the Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

– Questions? Email support@empoweredman.co

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/