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How to Become a High-Value Husband with David Frey – Part One

There is ONE underlying human trait that we are ALL born with, and it underlies every single divorce. There are various studies and evidence that list the reasons why people have problems or issues in their relationships, but this ONE trait is behind them ALL. And this week’s guest joins Mark to share what that is, and how to see if it is showing up in YOUR relationship.

David Frey has been marketing for 22 years, but after the discovery of a genetic disease in 2013, he realized that he has a FINITE amount of time left on this planet and he wants to spend it doing something worthwhile. He transitioned to become a marriage coach and he now helps people in what he believes is the most important thing in their lives: their MARRIAGES and relationships. He has dedicated the rest of his life to helping men improve their marriages and joins Mark on the show this week to show you how to STOP wrecking your marriage and START becoming a high-value husband.

“As men, we judge what one person does as worse than what we do. We hit the ‘she’ button instead of the ‘me’ button.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– David shares what he believes is the CORE reason or source of ALL marriage problems and divorce

– Egotism and pride are manifested in ONE word. Find out what it is…

– Mark shares how what he learned from David is the genesis of all the marketing he currently does

– Wondering how to spot a narcissist? Here are some common traits…

– Find out why getting a divorce was the BEST thing that ever happened to Mark

– Hear some questions to ask yourself to see if YOU are wrecking your marriage

– David shares what he sees as pride and how it manifests in relationships

– There are TWO things you can do with tragedy. Here’s what they are…

– Learn what boomerang blaming is and how to tell if you are doing it

And much more…

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– Questions? Email support@empoweredman.co

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

Connect with David Frey:

– Book: https://www.amazon.com/301-Ways-High-Value-Husband/dp/1931740003

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/thedavidfrey/

– Twitter: https://twitter.com/David_Frey

The Alter Ego Effect with Todd Herman – Part Two

We have so many characteristics and attributes available to us, but we all put LABELS on ourselves and define ourselves by ONE thing. We’re an introvert, we’re divorced, we’re weak. But this is a DANGEROUS thing to do. You are not just ONE thing. There is a source code of qualities and attributes available to you, and using The Alter Ego Effect can help you tap into these. This concept can help you play BIGGER, get out of your own way, and be the man you truly want to be.

Last week Mark welcomed Todd Herman onto the podcast, and this week you’ll hear part two of their conversation, where Mark and Todd dive deeper into the concept of The Alter Ego Effect. Todd shares the history of the concept, how it has helped HUNDREDS of thousands of people throughout history, and some proven, science-backed tweaks and methods YOU can use to start shifting results in your own life right now.

“You don’t have to do everything differently to become an alter ego. Just pick one thing and start with that.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– It is very important to know what we want as an outcome. Here’s why…

– Learn what moments of impact are, and where these show up in both Todd’s and Mark’s lives

– Humans have one greatest superpower above all other species. Here’s what it is…

– There is nothing that is ALWAYS good. Here’s why…

– Todd shares one of the main pillars that holds up The Alter Ego Effect

– There is ONE thing that sets elite people apart from other people. Here’s what that is…

And much more…

Join the Thrive Program:

– Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

Take the Empowered Man 5 Day Challenge:

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– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

– Questions? Email support@empoweredman.co

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

Connect with Todd Herman:

– Website: https://alteregoeffect.com/

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/toddhermanconnect

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/todd_herman/?hl=en

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/toddherman1

The Alter Ego Effect with Todd Herman – Part One

Performance is something we ALL do. We all show up in some role or environment in our lives to get a result. Empowered AF 2.0 is about YOU evolving as a MAN, not just in the context of separation and divorce, but in ALL things in your life. And to evolve, you need to change your mindset using TRIED and TESTED principles and strive for PEAK performance. This week’s guest has figured out a way to make these principles REAL and TANGIBLE and incorporate them into your life.

Todd Herman is a performance coach for athletes, leaders, and public figures and the author of The Alter Ego Effect. He joins Mark to talk more about peak performance and what impacts it the most, as well as the concept of The Alter Ego and the role it plays in your performance. What does peak performance have to do with YOU as a man in the midst of separation or divorce? The answer is EVERYTHING. When you understand this concept, not only will you take it into your marriage, but also your business, family, and EVERY area of your life. In this episode, hear some of the alter egos Todd has helped build, how he has brought this method into people’s lives, and how YOU can use this concept to show up as the man you TRULY want to be in your marriage.

“If you are facing separation or divorce, there is an alter ego you need in order to show up.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– There is one main reason people employ an alter ego. Here’s what it is…

– Hear how Todd built out The Alter Ego Effect™

– Find out what your field of play is and how to start showing up as you want to in it

– Todd shares one of the BIGGEST problems with the personal development and self-help world

– Discover the reason you DON’T know how to show up as a man and husband

– There is one tool that the best of the best have used to reach consistent levels of peak performance. It is this…

– Most people are not enjoying the results they’re getting in their life, but there is one thing they can control. Here’s what it is…

And much more…

Books Mentioned:

– Coaching the Mental Game: Leadership Philosophies and Strategies for Peak Performance in Sports and Everyday Life by Harvey A. Dorfman: https://www.amazon.com/Coaching-Mental-Game-Philosophies-Performance/dp/1589790111

– The Alter Ego Effect™ by Todd Herman: https://alteregoeffect.com/book/

Join the Thrive Program:

– Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

Take the Empowered Man 5 Day Challenge:

– Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/order-form1651254400260

Connect with the Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

– Questions? Email support@empoweredman.co

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

Connect with Todd Herman:

– Website: https://alteregoeffect.com/

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/toddhermanconnect

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/todd_herman/?hl=en

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/toddherman1

The True Cost of Free is Freedom

Freedom is NEVER free. We invest in things all the time. Yet, MEN struggle with investing in themselves not just financially but in a lot of ways. When going through a tough time, most guys choose to read, watch videos, or sit around and hope that their problems will disappear instead of investing in a company or someone who can help them. They haven’t realized there’s a cost to freedom – it isn’t FREE.

Fixing something costs something. It’s a process. Every moment you make a decision, there’s an opportunity cost attached to it. So just think about it, what are your choices costing you right now? If you’re tired of just being good and you’re FINALLY willing to invest in yourself to become an empowered man, then this episode is for you.

“A man that asks for help and is willing to invest in that help says something about what he values.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– Mark just invested $30K in Empowered Men. THIS is why he did it…

– Do you understand the concept of opportunity cost? What are your choices costing you right now?

– What are you willing to invest in exchange if you want to have confidence, power, and freedom?

– When spending money on something, are you truly investing in your future, or are you just masking the pain?

– HERE are some steps to begin investing in yourself

– Men have five POWER zones. Looking at each of them is the first thing we do to help you…

– THIS is how you should craft your Game Plan. No guessing game or some theoretical textbook approach.

And much more…

Join the Thrive Program:

– Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

Take the Empowered Man 5 Day Challenge:

– Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/order-form1651254400260

Connect with the Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

– Questions? Email support@empoweredman.co

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

THIS is Why Your Marriage is Breaking Down

There is all this information out there for MEN, telling MEN how THEY should show up in their marriages, what they should and shouldn’t do, but what about the WOMEN? There is not enough information out there about what a WOMAN does and how SHE should show up in the marriage, something this week’s guest knows all too well.

Teresa Young is the founder of The Respected Man, and she helps women understand that, yes, SEX and RESPECT are important for MEN in relationships but that, as a woman, you should also ADMIRE the man you love. It’s not about losing your identity or allowing him to dominate your life, but admiring him for who he is. She joins Mark on the show this week to share how she believes she burned THREE marriages to the ground, where she FAILED, and how it led her to search for how she could show up as a better WIFE. Hear the ONE thing she did to cause her marriages to break down, and her advice to men facing separation and divorce.

“Divorce is not the end of your life, it’s the end of a chapter.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– Teresa shares the difference between sex outside the marriage, and sex inside the marriage

– Hear why you should look for a woman who deeply ADMIRES you for what you do and are

– Teresa shares how she approaches parenting with her ex-husband

– Most women that file for divorce don’t want to be divorced, they want this…

– Discover how to create a life that attracts a person who RESPECTS you

– If you are struggling in your marriage, you need to do THIS…

And much more…

Join the Thrive Program:

– Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

Take the Empowered Man 5 Day Challenge:

– Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/order-form1651254400260

Connect with the Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

– Questions? Email support@empoweredman.co

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

Connect with Teresa Young:

– Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/therespectedmanpodcast

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the.respected.man/

– TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@teresalyoung?lang=en

– Podcast: https://therespectedmanpodcast.com/

Are You Ready To Do The Work?

Have you ever wondered what REALLY happens in the Thrive or Momentum programs? Guys join so that they can get HELP with getting out of the PAIN they are feeling. So how exactly do they do that, and learn to THRIVE in every aspect of their lives? It is a man’s RESPONSIBILITY to own his sh*t and take back his power, but to make a change, you HAVE to get to the point where you are READY to do the work.

Joey Wilder is the Client Success Director here at Empowered Man, and he joins Mark on the show this week to share some of the results he sees from men in Thrive, what it’s like for guys when they first come in, and some of the biggest A-HA! moments they experience inside the programs. If you are NOT ready to do the work, this program is NOT for you. But if you are sitting on the fence and wondering how you could benefit, you DON’T want to miss this episode!

“What if what your wife thinks and says about you is none of your business? That is detaching from the outcome.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– Find out what happens when guys FINALLY detach from the outcome, and how they show up differently

– There is ONE mistake a lot of guys make when doing this work. Here’s what it is…

– Learn why it is so hard for men to create safety for themselves

– Mark and Joey discuss the concept of the neutral woman

– Find out how to LIVE the life you feel called to live

– Learn what “going neutral” means and why it’s the very first thing Mark helps men do in the program

– You need to STOP holding onto something that is DEAD just because it’s comfortable. Here’s why…

– THIS ONE THING is the next level of leadership. Find out what it is…

And much more…

Join the Thrive Program:

-Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

Take the Empowered Man 5 Day Challenge:

-Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/order-form1651254400260

Connect with the Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

– Questions? Email support@empoweredman.co

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

Stop Asking The WRONG Questions

Questions lead to answers. If someone asks you a question, that will lead you to give some sort of response. If they ask the wrong QUESTION, they get the wrong ANSWER, and if they ask the RIGHT question, they’ll get the RIGHT answer. It’s THAT simple. So what is the difference between a DISEMPOWERING question and an EMPOWERING one?

Asking the wrong question comes from a place of SHAME. It disempowers us, and it is UNHEALTHY. But you can flip a question on its head and ask it in a DIFFERENT way and this can leave you feeling EMPOWERED. This week, Mark is sharing some examples of disempowering questions and how to replace them with the ones that will turn you into the man you TRULY want to be. It’s time to STOP focusing on what you’ve lost, START focusing on what you have to GAIN, change your language, and change your LIFE.

“Nobody can change anything by asking WHY.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– There is something EVERY woman wants. Here’s what it is…

– Discover what an afformation is and how it can empower you

– Learn what can cause toxicity and dysfunction in your marriage

– Find out why an area of friction in your marriage doesn’t have to be TOXIC, but why you make it so it is

– Mark shares the KEY to emotional connection in a relationship

– Shame-based thinking does NOT empower you. Here’s why…

– Hear why Mark ended up with an AMAZING girl due to changing his language

– Learn one of the BIGGEST communication issues in a marriage

And much more…

Book Mentioned:

– The Book of Afformations: Discovering the Missing Piece to Abundant Health, Wealth, Love, and Happiness by Noah St John: https://www.amazon.com/Book-Afformations-Discovering-Abundant-Happiness/dp/1401944140

Join the Thrive Program:

-Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

Take the Empowered Man 5 Day Challenge:

-Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/order-form1651254400260

Connect with the Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

– Questions? Email support@empoweredman.co

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

Ownership Is The Key To Freedom

Can you IMAGINE being involved in a domestic violence dispute and having a temporary restriction put on you?! Can you IMAGINE your marriage falling apart before your eyes and not being able to do ANYTHING about it? That’s what happened to this week’s guest and his story is PHENOMENAL.

Cameron recently graduated from the Empowered Man program and came to the program seeking someone to TALK to and help him TAKE OWNERSHIP of his life. He knew he needed to make a CHANGE, start OWNING what’s happening to him and INVEST in his own empowerment. He joins Mark this week to share his words of wisdom, and how the program led him to become an EMPOWERED man. If you’re on the fence or think the VIP program is a SCAM, you need to listen to this episode.

“Detach yourself from the outcome. Completely detach yourself from the outcome of wanting her back”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– Find out why WHINING doesn’t get you ANYWHERE

– Learn how to take OWNERSHIP of your situation

– Cameron shares what was going on in his life before he connected with Empowered Man

– Discover why joining the Empowered Man program made Cameron realize he was not ALONE

– You NEED to own your sh*t and TAKE CONTROL of your life. Here’s why…

– Hear why hitting the ‘she’ button isn’t serving you, and what to do instead

– There is only ONE way for our culture to heal. Here’s what it is…

And much more…

Join the Thrive Program:

-Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

Take the Empowered Man 5 Day Challenge:

-Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/order-form1651254400260

Connect with the Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

– Questions? Email support@empoweredman.co

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

You Are Responsible For Your Own Happiness

Life is NOT fair, whether you like it or not. But you can CHOOSE how you want to respond to things. Are you a VICTIM or a VICTOR? Whether you are experiencing separation or divorce, you do NOT have to let it DESTROY you. YOU are responsible for your own happiness, and who you are as a MAN and a LEADER comes from only one person: YOU. This week, Mark is showing you why understanding this will enable you to live from a place of FREEDOM.

Maybe you don’t have what it takes to save your marriage, but you DO have what it takes to face whatever situation you’re in head-on. Not sideways, not flinching, not looking around; HEAD-ON. How you respond to things is YOUR choice. In this episode, Mark is challenging you to find your identity, and show you why YOU are responsible for your own happiness. Learn why true happiness and joy lie within YOU and how to STOP allowing other people’s actions to dictate your happiness.

“Your happiness does not come from your wife, it comes from who you are inside.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– Hear why most men treat their MARRIAGE like a RENTAL property

– Mark shares why ownership is a LIFESTYLE, nothing else

– Discover why believing you don’t have what it takes to resolve something is an issue

– There is only one person’s opinion that matters, here’s who that is…

– Mark shares why nobody else is responsible for you, but YOU

– Hear what true freedom looks like and why YOU have the power to get it

– You cannot be VICTORIOUS as a leader when you are oozing with victim energy. Here’s why…

And much more…

Join the Thrive Program:

-Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

Take the Empowered Man 5 Day Challenge:

-Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/order-form1651254400260

Connect with the Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

– Questions? Email support@empoweredman.co

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

How to Communicate Like a Leader

99% of men struggle with communicating. Are YOU one of them? Maybe you lose your sh*t and you shout and scream at your wife, maybe you clam up and don’t say anything, or maybe you just feel STUCK, stagnated, and unsure where to go next. If you have no idea how to communicate effectively, Mark is here to help you this week. Ready to learn to communicate with your wife? This episode is for YOU.

If you are ready to communicate like a LEADER, do the WORK and create CHANGE in your life, this episode is a great refresher to show you how to communicate with your wife at the highest level possible. Mark is sharing the concept of the communication core four and showing you how to use these simple techniques to communicate with your wife, even during TOXIC circumstances. Hear how Mark uses these techniques in EVERY area of his life and what you need to do if you REALLY want change and transformation.

“Clear, Concise, Calm, Certain. Implement these to communicate like a leader.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– There is a reason you yell and scream when communicating. Here’s what it is…

– Learn why if you want to be successful at ANYTHING in your life, you CAN’T be attached to the outcome

– You need BOUNDARIES in your life. Here’s why…

– Find out how to stop MISSING the point of LIFE

– Hear the difference between guilt and shame

– Men are LIARS. Here’s why…

– These 4 C’s of COMMUNICATION will help you communicate like a LEADER. Here’s how…

– Find out how to communicate at the highest level possible

And much more…