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THIS is Why Your Marriage is Breaking Down

There is all this information out there for MEN, telling MEN how THEY should show up in their marriages, what they should and shouldn’t do, but what about the WOMEN? There is not enough information out there about what a WOMAN does and how SHE should show up in the marriage, something this week’s guest knows all too well.

Teresa Young is the founder of The Respected Man, and she helps women understand that, yes, SEX and RESPECT are important for MEN in relationships but that, as a woman, you should also ADMIRE the man you love. It’s not about losing your identity or allowing him to dominate your life, but admiring him for who he is. She joins Mark on the show this week to share how she believes she burned THREE marriages to the ground, where she FAILED, and how it led her to search for how she could show up as a better WIFE. Hear the ONE thing she did to cause her marriages to break down, and her advice to men facing separation and divorce.

“Divorce is not the end of your life, it’s the end of a chapter.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– Teresa shares the difference between sex outside the marriage, and sex inside the marriage

– Hear why you should look for a woman who deeply ADMIRES you for what you do and are

– Teresa shares how she approaches parenting with her ex-husband

– Most women that file for divorce don’t want to be divorced, they want this…

– Discover how to create a life that attracts a person who RESPECTS you

– If you are struggling in your marriage, you need to do THIS…

And much more…

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Are You Ready To Do The Work?

Have you ever wondered what REALLY happens in the Thrive or Momentum programs? Guys join so that they can get HELP with getting out of the PAIN they are feeling. So how exactly do they do that, and learn to THRIVE in every aspect of their lives? It is a man’s RESPONSIBILITY to own his sh*t and take back his power, but to make a change, you HAVE to get to the point where you are READY to do the work.

Joey Wilder is the Client Success Director here at Empowered Man, and he joins Mark on the show this week to share some of the results he sees from men in Thrive, what it’s like for guys when they first come in, and some of the biggest A-HA! moments they experience inside the programs. If you are NOT ready to do the work, this program is NOT for you. But if you are sitting on the fence and wondering how you could benefit, you DON’T want to miss this episode!

“What if what your wife thinks and says about you is none of your business? That is detaching from the outcome.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– Find out what happens when guys FINALLY detach from the outcome, and how they show up differently

– There is ONE mistake a lot of guys make when doing this work. Here’s what it is…

– Learn why it is so hard for men to create safety for themselves

– Mark and Joey discuss the concept of the neutral woman

– Find out how to LIVE the life you feel called to live

– Learn what “going neutral” means and why it’s the very first thing Mark helps men do in the program

– You need to STOP holding onto something that is DEAD just because it’s comfortable. Here’s why…

– THIS ONE THING is the next level of leadership. Find out what it is…

And much more…

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Stop Asking The WRONG Questions

Questions lead to answers. If someone asks you a question, that will lead you to give some sort of response. If they ask the wrong QUESTION, they get the wrong ANSWER, and if they ask the RIGHT question, they’ll get the RIGHT answer. It’s THAT simple. So what is the difference between a DISEMPOWERING question and an EMPOWERING one?

Asking the wrong question comes from a place of SHAME. It disempowers us, and it is UNHEALTHY. But you can flip a question on its head and ask it in a DIFFERENT way and this can leave you feeling EMPOWERED. This week, Mark is sharing some examples of disempowering questions and how to replace them with the ones that will turn you into the man you TRULY want to be. It’s time to STOP focusing on what you’ve lost, START focusing on what you have to GAIN, change your language, and change your LIFE.

“Nobody can change anything by asking WHY.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– There is something EVERY woman wants. Here’s what it is…

– Discover what an afformation is and how it can empower you

– Learn what can cause toxicity and dysfunction in your marriage

– Find out why an area of friction in your marriage doesn’t have to be TOXIC, but why you make it so it is

– Mark shares the KEY to emotional connection in a relationship

– Shame-based thinking does NOT empower you. Here’s why…

– Hear why Mark ended up with an AMAZING girl due to changing his language

– Learn one of the BIGGEST communication issues in a marriage

And much more…

Book Mentioned:

– The Book of Afformations: Discovering the Missing Piece to Abundant Health, Wealth, Love, and Happiness by Noah St John: https://www.amazon.com/Book-Afformations-Discovering-Abundant-Happiness/dp/1401944140

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Ownership Is The Key To Freedom

Can you IMAGINE being involved in a domestic violence dispute and having a temporary restriction put on you?! Can you IMAGINE your marriage falling apart before your eyes and not being able to do ANYTHING about it? That’s what happened to this week’s guest and his story is PHENOMENAL.

Cameron recently graduated from the Empowered Man program and came to the program seeking someone to TALK to and help him TAKE OWNERSHIP of his life. He knew he needed to make a CHANGE, start OWNING what’s happening to him and INVEST in his own empowerment. He joins Mark this week to share his words of wisdom, and how the program led him to become an EMPOWERED man. If you’re on the fence or think the VIP program is a SCAM, you need to listen to this episode.

“Detach yourself from the outcome. Completely detach yourself from the outcome of wanting her back”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– Find out why WHINING doesn’t get you ANYWHERE

– Learn how to take OWNERSHIP of your situation

– Cameron shares what was going on in his life before he connected with Empowered Man

– Discover why joining the Empowered Man program made Cameron realize he was not ALONE

– You NEED to own your sh*t and TAKE CONTROL of your life. Here’s why…

– Hear why hitting the ‘she’ button isn’t serving you, and what to do instead

– There is only ONE way for our culture to heal. Here’s what it is…

And much more…

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You Are Responsible For Your Own Happiness

Life is NOT fair, whether you like it or not. But you can CHOOSE how you want to respond to things. Are you a VICTIM or a VICTOR? Whether you are experiencing separation or divorce, you do NOT have to let it DESTROY you. YOU are responsible for your own happiness, and who you are as a MAN and a LEADER comes from only one person: YOU. This week, Mark is showing you why understanding this will enable you to live from a place of FREEDOM.

Maybe you don’t have what it takes to save your marriage, but you DO have what it takes to face whatever situation you’re in head-on. Not sideways, not flinching, not looking around; HEAD-ON. How you respond to things is YOUR choice. In this episode, Mark is challenging you to find your identity, and show you why YOU are responsible for your own happiness. Learn why true happiness and joy lie within YOU and how to STOP allowing other people’s actions to dictate your happiness.

“Your happiness does not come from your wife, it comes from who you are inside.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– Hear why most men treat their MARRIAGE like a RENTAL property

– Mark shares why ownership is a LIFESTYLE, nothing else

– Discover why believing you don’t have what it takes to resolve something is an issue

– There is only one person’s opinion that matters, here’s who that is…

– Mark shares why nobody else is responsible for you, but YOU

– Hear what true freedom looks like and why YOU have the power to get it

– You cannot be VICTORIOUS as a leader when you are oozing with victim energy. Here’s why…

And much more…

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How to Communicate Like a Leader

99% of men struggle with communicating. Are YOU one of them? Maybe you lose your sh*t and you shout and scream at your wife, maybe you clam up and don’t say anything, or maybe you just feel STUCK, stagnated, and unsure where to go next. If you have no idea how to communicate effectively, Mark is here to help you this week. Ready to learn to communicate with your wife? This episode is for YOU.

If you are ready to communicate like a LEADER, do the WORK and create CHANGE in your life, this episode is a great refresher to show you how to communicate with your wife at the highest level possible. Mark is sharing the concept of the communication core four and showing you how to use these simple techniques to communicate with your wife, even during TOXIC circumstances. Hear how Mark uses these techniques in EVERY area of his life and what you need to do if you REALLY want change and transformation.

“Clear, Concise, Calm, Certain. Implement these to communicate like a leader.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– There is a reason you yell and scream when communicating. Here’s what it is…

– Learn why if you want to be successful at ANYTHING in your life, you CAN’T be attached to the outcome

– You need BOUNDARIES in your life. Here’s why…

– Find out how to stop MISSING the point of LIFE

– Hear the difference between guilt and shame

– Men are LIARS. Here’s why…

– These 4 C’s of COMMUNICATION will help you communicate like a LEADER. Here’s how…

– Find out how to communicate at the highest level possible

And much more…

Join the Thrive Program:

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Connect with Mark Santiago:

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What Role Are You Playing in Your Marriage?

When you go into a marriage, you choose a role to play. You’re either the PERSECUTOR, the RESCUER, or the VICTIM. These roles happen so fast, often without you even realizing it. But they can be a problem, so learning what each role entails will help you see how this is affecting your marriage. So which role are YOU playing?

In this episode, Mark is walking you through what it looks like to play each of these roles, how to tell which one YOU’RE playing, and some examples of how they might be showing up in your relationship. You need to STOP playing the game, learn how to actually COMMUNICATE, and move forward and do the WORK, so Mark is showing you why saving your marriage isn’t going to be what you think it is, and what it ACTUALLY is. Ready to SAVE your marriage and go further in your relationships? Don’t miss this episode.

“It’s the little foxes that spoil the vine. It’s the little things that spoil the marriage.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– Find out how the drama triangle applies to any relationship

– Learn why doing the work on YOU will mean you don’t need to do as much on your MARRIAGE

– Hear the real reason so many men don’t get ANYTHING out of therapy

– Want to set HEALTHY boundaries in your relationship? Here’s how…

– Mark shares some examples of what these roles might look like in your day-to-day

– Are you DISEMPOWERING your wife with your behavior? Here’s how to tell…

– Mark shares why he believes marriage counseling doesn’t work 98% of the time

– You NEVER want to bring a drama triangle into ANY relationship. Here’s why…

– Learn why YOU are not responsible for your wife’s feelings

And much more…

Join the Thrive Program:

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5 Steps to Saving Your Marriage

Often, when men realize their marriage is coming to an end, they start looking at all the things they can do to CONTROL and CHANGE the situation. They might try to get smarter, or fitter, or do ALL the things, but the problem is they are doing the WRONG things. Doing all of the WRONG things is NOT going to bring your wife back. You need to listen up this week.

If your marriage is failing, it’s easier to blame HER than own your sh*t and accept YOUR responsibility. But you need to STOP looking externally for blame, START looking within, and START taking ownership of your life. There are certain things you HAVE to stop doing if you want to save your marriage, and in this episode, Mark shares 5 steps to saving your marriage. Hear three main ways men LIE to themselves when going through separation or divorce, and learn how to put yourself in a POWERFUL position to bring your wife back.

“Change for someone else is not authentic change. You have to do the work for YOU.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– Do you allow yourself to be VULNERABLE? Mark shares his own experience of being vulnerable and why it is SO important in your marriage

– Find out the ONLY way you can learn from your mistakes

– You need to change for YOU, not somebody else. Here’s why…

– Wondering what it takes for a marriage to be healthy? Here’s what it is…

– Discover the number one thing you have to stop doing if you want to save your marriage

– Do you need to get better at communicating and setting boundaries? Here’s how to tell…

– Mark shares what it means to detach from the outcome and why you need to do it to save your marriage

– Your EGO gets in the way every single time. Here’s why…

And much more…

Join the Thrive Program:

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Connect with Mark Santiago:

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How a Poverty Mindset is Destroying Your Marriage

Are you SETTLING for less than what is available to you? Do you have a poverty mindset? You may never have thought about the idea of a poverty mindset; you might not even know what it is. But a poverty mindset tells you that you’re not good enough, that you are ALWAYS going to struggle, and that things will ALWAYS be this way. It leads to disempowerment. Having a poverty mindset DESTROYS relationships, and it is NEVER too late to choose yourself, and embrace life.

In this episode, Mark is showing you what a poverty mindset is, how to recognize it in your own life and why you need to realize your WORTH and invest in yourself BEFORE your relationship goes to sh*t. Hear the difference between a poverty and an empowered man mindset, and how to move from one to the other. You are WORTHY of more. You DESERVE better. Do NOT settle for the status quo, STOP being a victim, learn to REFRAME your mindset, and become an EMPOWERED man.

“If you can’t take care of yourself first, and you can’t handle your business, you have nothing left to give to other people.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– Find out how your poverty mindset is SABOTAGING your ability to have a successful relationship

– You already have EVERYTHING you need to live an empowered life. Here’s why…

– Mark shares how he used to have a poverty mindset, and what he learned from it

– There is no growth when you are in a place of not good enough. Here’s why…

– Learn why a poverty mindset has NOTHING to do with money

– Mark shares why, for a long time, he didn’t think he was worth investing in

– Deep shame prevents you from connecting intimately. Here’s why…

And much more…

Join the Thrive Program:

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Take the Empowered Man 5 Day Challenge:

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Connect with Mark Santiago:

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– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

Your Ego is the Enemy

Your ego is about YOU, nobody else. It has NOTHING to do with HER, and EVERYTHING to do with YOU. Ego is about humiliation, not humility. It’s about shame, false hope, lust, and wishful thinking. It isn’t always bad, because it is there to protect you from bad things. But in its dysfunction, it can become bad. When it comes to how you feel about your marriage, you need to ask yourself: is it LOVE or is it your EGO?

The concept of the EGO has been around forever, but modern-day psychology talks about it in a different way. This week, Mark shares what EGO looks like as a man, how it plays a part in all the things you do, and the danger of it. Discover why the job of the ego is to PROTECT you, your values and ideals, and how to equalize it to bring more BALANCE into your life.

“When men get healed, marriages get fixed.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– Mark shares how egotistical he was in his own marriage and how his ego tried to protect him

– You love YOURSELF more than anything else when you are walking in ego. Here’s why…

– Find out the struggles Mark faced with the concept of his ego in his own life

– When all you can think about is yourself, it’s because you don’t know how to receive love. This is the reason…

– Discover what it looks like to walk from a place of EGO and the danger of doing so

– The more POWER you get, the more fuelled your ego is. Here’s why…

– Mark discusses the recent example of Will Smith acting purely on EGO

– Discover the reason you need boundaries

And much more…