Empowered AF Podcast

Owning your sh*t is a LIFESTYLE, not a one-time thing. Owning your sh*t requires you to take responsibility. It requires you to STOP blaming others, and detach emotionally from the outcome of the things you want. If you want to be a man that gets results, that truly LEADS, you need to learn to detach from the outcome. Are you willing and ready to do the work on YOURSELF?

Detachment is KNOWING the goal and understanding what you WANT, but emotionally detaching from the CONSEQUENCE; the RESULT. As an empowered man, THAT is where you need to be. In this episode, Mark is showing you how to detach from the outcome of WHATEVER you want in your life and sharing the number one thing you have to STOP doing if you want to work on yourself. If you want true TRANSFORMATION, you need to level up and Mark is here to help you do this so you can become the LEADER of your own life.

“Our kids need men who are leaders. They don’t need men who are so afraid of making a decision that they can’t move forward.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– Discover what is CRITICAL in becoming a strong leader

– Mark shares what it means to detach from the outcome and how to apply this in your life

– Your old marriage is DEAD you cannot save it. Here’s what you can do instead…

– Want to know what working on YOURSELF looks like? Mark is showing you exactly what it takes…

– If you want to be SUCCESSFUL in life, there are some things you CAN NOT think. Here’s what they are…

– Hear why EGO is the enemy

– Find out why just because YOU’RE in pain, it DOES NOT mean everybody around you is trying to take advantage  

– Learn why you need to STOP letting everybody else make decisions for you

And much more…

 

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If you are on a journey towards reconciliation in your marriage, you NEED to pay attention this week. Mark welcomes two incredible guests to the podcast, who serve people just like YOU. They are preaching the same message of EMPOWERMENT as here at Empowered Man, it just so happens that these guys do it as a power couple.

Tommy and Desnekka help couples go from ROOMMATES to TEAMMATES in 8 weeks through their program Marriage 2.0. They took MULTIPLE nuclear bombs to their marriage, and they SURVIVED, and they now use everything they went through as a couple to help other couples. If you’re at a fork in the road in your marriage, or you WANT to make it work with your wife, but don’t know where to start, pay CLOSE attention this week. Tommy and Desnekka share the importance of BOUNDARIES and why you can THRIVE in marriage despite being total opposites. They share some questions to ask yourself if you are looking for CLARITY, and how to do the work required to create a NEW marriage.

“The process isn’t going to be instantaneous, it’s not a light switch. But you can thrive in a marriage where you are complete opposites.”

– Tommy and Desnekka

In This Episode:

– How to look at the unfiltered truth about what’s going on in your marriage

– The problem with not building REAL foundations before trying to make your marriage work

– You need to get HELP before you reach the point where you fully hate your wife. Here’s why…

– Hear the intense LOWS Tommy and Desnekka experienced that they worked through TOGETHER

– Desnekka shares how her childhood trauma affected the way she showed up in the marriage

– Hear a woman’s perspective on what it means to work on yourself

– Mindset dictates EVERYTHING in your life, here’s how…

– This is what you SHOULD NOT DO when your wife is already emotionally checked out in your marriage…

 And much more…

 

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Connect with Tommy and Desnekka:

– https://www.tommyanddesnekka.com/freemarriagetraining1644619744783

Obstacles are highly likely to make you emotional. Maybe you lost your job. Maybe your teenager is acting up, or something is going on with your wife and family. Whatever it is, you can’t afford to panic. No matter WHAT is coming at you, you cannot afford to panic.

When you FREAK OUT, and you PANIC, it costs you time, money, resources, and relationships. It doesn’t solve the problem. If you want to overcome the obstacle of divorce and separation, you need to develop an awareness of the TRAUMA you have not dealt with. You need to understand your REALITY to act from a place of love and strength. In this episode, Mark shares the ONLY way to overcome feelings of panic, and three quick, easy steps you can take to move through feelings of panic and fear to become the man you WANT to be.

“Doing the work is BECOMING the work. It’s taking the words and knowledge and BECOMING them. You cannot stay in panic, fear, or sadness. You have to move on.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– Hear what Mark means when he says keep emotions in check

– Panic MAGNIFIES when it transfers to other people. Here’s why…

– Learn how to make better decisions that WILL make you more successful

– Feeling triggered, afraid, or angry? Do this…

– Panicking won’t solve ANYTHING. Here are some things you should do instead…

– Hear a question to ask yourself if you’re panicking in the midst of a divorce

– Mark shares why you need to STOP venting and what you should do instead

– So many of you are afraid to HUMBLE yourself, but this is where true power comes from. Here’s why…

– Discover why, if you don’t KNOW the man you want to become, this WON’T work

– Panic COSTS you. Here’s why…

 And much more…

 

Books mentioned:

– The Love Dare by Alex Kendrick and Stephen Kendrick: https://www.amazon.com/Love-Dare-Alex-Kendrick/dp/1433679590

– The Obstacle Is the Way: The Timeless Art of Turning Trials Into Triumph by Ryan Holiday: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Obstacle-Way-Timeless-Turning-Triumph/dp/1591846358

 

Join the Thrive Program:

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Take the Empowered Man 5 Day Challenge:

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Connect with the Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

– Questions? Email support@empoweredman.co 

Connect with Mark Santiago:

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– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

Can you imagine knowing instinctually where you’re supposed to go, what you’re supposed to do, and what you’re meant to say without having to think about it? When we are shakeable inside, we don’t know how to show up. But if you want to be an empowered man, you have to be a leader. And true, great leaders know their role. True leaders are UNSHAKEABLE.

Being an unshakeable leader doesn’t mean having the answer to everything, but that you own your sh*t when you do. In this episode, Mark shares a real-life sports example where a dude had ICE in his veins; a story of a dude that was truly UNSHAKEABLE. Hear a three-part strategy to help YOU become unshakeable and learn how to stop sitting on your ass and waiting for sh*t to happen, and start putting yourself in the most POWERFUL position possible.

“Set the target. Take Action. Detach from the outcome.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– Learn how to change your perspective and move forward no matter what your wife or anyone else has done

– Find out the number one cause of divorce

– Learn why men who respond to things in their life out of their HEAD instead of their HEART is such a big issue

– Mark shares why he would rather follow a president or leader who ADMITS they don’t know the outcome of something, but can detach from it

– Hear what happens when you have POOR leadership

– Discover what it takes to become mentally strong and to fortify yourself in a place of emotional strength

– Mark shares some actions you can take to become truly UNSHAKEABLE

And much more…

 

Join the Thrive Program:

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Take the Empowered Man 5 Day Challenge:

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– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

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– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

– Submit your Questions: podcast@empoweredman.co

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We all have perspective, but so many of us don’t understand how POWERFUL it is. Life is about choices, and here’s the thing, YOU get to CHOOSE the perspective you want to have in ANY area of your life. So instead of blaming your wife, the market, or anybody else for YOUR shortcomings, get your sh*t FIXED and choose a different perspective. YOU get to choose what you want and what you become; that is the power of perspective.

 This week, Mark is showing you how to choose an EMPOWERED mindset instead of a DISEMPOWERED one and sharing his own experiences of choosing a perspective that did not allow him to waste his pain, become disempowered, or wither away. Mark chose to become STRONGER and is sharing three tools to help you understand the power of perspective, so you can do the same.

“Transformation doesn’t happen overnight. It is a process. You are more capable than you realize.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– Learn why any obstacle is in fact an opportunity to grow

– Hear why the perspective so many men have while going through divorce is a problem

– Find out how your experiences STRENGTHEN you as a man

– Mark shares where so many men play the victim and why doing so is not useful

– Discover why true growth does not happen in the easy, it happens in the DIFFICULT

– Here are some questions to ask yourself to change your perspective on a situation…

– Mark shares his own experiences of turning obstacles into opportunities

– Learn an exercise in managing your worries about what you CAN and CANNOT control

– Wasting your pain is the dumbest thing you can do. Here’s what to do instead…

– Mark shares why CHOOSING divorce was the BEST thing he ever did

– Hear the REAL reason women leave marriages…

And much more…

Books mentioned:

–   The Obstacle Is the Way: The Timeless Art of Turning Trials Into Triumph by Ryan Holiday: https://www.amazon.com/Obstacle-Way-Timeless-Turning-Triumph/dp/1591846358

–   Ego is the Enemy: The Fight to Master Our Greatest Opponent by Ryan Holiday: https://www.amazon.com/Ego-Enemy-Master-Greatest-Opponent/dp/1781257027

 

Join the Thrive Program:

-Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

Take the Empowered Man 5 Day Challenge:

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Connect with The Empowered Man:

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– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

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Connect with Mark Santiago:

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– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

When we think about separation and divorce, what usually comes to mind is that it is an obstacle. We see it as a problem, and something that needs to be fixed. But when you look at your separation or divorce and only see the problem, you fail to realize that it is actually an opportunity.

Too many of you are so HURT and so ANGRY when you go through a separation or divorce that you don’t know how to take action. But the philosophy Mark shares today is so impactful that you should be applying it in EVERY aspect of life. Mark is showing you how to look at your problem for what it actually is, how he applied this work in his own life, and how to turn these obstacles into opportunities in your life.

“This can’t harm me. I might not have wanted it to happen, but I decide how it will affect me. No one else has the right.”

– Mark Santiago 

In This Episode:

– Learn why your EGO might be getting in the way of your marriage

– Mark shares what unselfish action looks like and how to take it in your marriage

– There is a way to take ownership over your feelings. Here’s how…

– Mark shares the concept of objective judgment and how to look past it to discover what’s really going on inside of you

– As a husband, you have responsibilities, and your wife has responsibilities. Here’s the difference between the two…

– Hear why men look at problems through a lens of trying to figure them out instead of accepting what is

– Mark shares the difference between internal and external pain and how to understand your own core pain

– Learn what manipulation is and how to make sure you don’t do it in your relationship

– Ego is the ENEMY. Here’s why…

And much more…

Books mentioned:

– The Obstacle Is the Way: The Timeless Art of Turning Trials Into Triumph by Ryan Holiday: https://www.amazon.com/Obstacle-Way-Timeless-Turning-Triumph/dp/1591846358

– Ego is the Enemy: The Fight to Master Our Greatest Opponent by Ryan Holiday: https://www.amazon.com/Ego-Enemy-Master-Greatest-Opponent/dp/1781257027

– The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk M.D.: https://www.amazon.com/Body-Keeps-Score-Healing-Trauma/dp/0143127748/

Join the Thrive Program:

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Take the Empowered Man 5 Day Challenge:

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Connect with The Empowered Man:

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– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

– Submit your Questions: podcast@empoweredman.co

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– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

Marriages don’t just dissipate overnight, and a good marriage comes down to having a good leader. You can be a GREAT husband if you choose to be, and you can have an AMAZING life if you choose to, regardless of your circumstance or what she’s doing. When men focus on saving themselves, their marriages get saved at a much higher rate.

There are no bad marriages, only bad husbands. And Mark saying this might be a trigger for a lot of you, and that’s OK. You need to stop LYING to yourself, because the more honest you are, the more capacity you have for truth. It’s not your FAULT you have a bad relationship, but it is your RESPONSIBILITY. In this episode, Mark shares five things to think about with regards to influencing your marriage and what a good marriage TRULY boils down to.

“Fault indicates shame, responsibility indicates leadership. When we lack leadership in our marriage, we have bad marriages.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– Learn what it takes to become a MAN and lead your marriage

– Why so many men hit the SHE button instead of what they should be hitting – the ME button

– Hear why there are no bad TEAMS, only bad LEADERS and how this applies to marriage

– Discover one of the worst things you can do for a woman

– Find out why being a bad husband does not make you a bad man

– Mark shows you how to start leading and start leading WELL in your marriage

– Hear some examples of how to lead in your marriage

– The difference between influencing your wife and making her do something

And much more…

 

Join the Thrive Program:

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Take the Empowered Man 5 Day Challenge:

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Connect with The Empowered Man:

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– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

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– Submit your Questions: podcast@empoweredman.co



Connect with Mark Santiago:

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– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

You’ve heard Mark talk about owning your sh*t as a leader, a man, a husband, and a father, but this week, he is talking about you as a PRODUCER. But what is a producer? A producer is a man who produces time, income, resources, and assets for himself and his family. A producer is YOU. You were put on this earth to PRODUCE.

Think of the opportunities you are missing out on RIGHT NOW because you are not owning your sh*t as a producer. In this episode, hear how to transition into a producer mindset and the three keys to owning your sh*t as a producer. Mark shows you how to create HUGE changes in your life, and why it’s time for you to STOP playing small, START investing in yourself, and become the PRODUCER of your life.

“A man who takes ownership in all areas of his life is not a VICTIM, he is a VICTOR.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– Find out why it’s YOUR responsibility to get the help you need and do the work in your life

– You might not be managing your time well as a producer, here’s how to tell…

– Are you showing up as a producer in your life? Use these questions to find out…

– Discover how to develop the necessary skills and mindset to own your sh*t as a producer

– Mark shares how applying this work in his own life led him to where he is today

– Learn what it means to have a producer mindset and what you need to be doing to own your sh*t as a producer

– Are you doing enough high-value activities in your business? This is what it looks like if you are or aren’t

– Mark shares the key to making more money in your life

And much more…

 

Mentioned on the Show:

– Are you in Phoenix, Arizona and looking for a job? Want to work for Empowered Man? Email support@empoweredman.co, Mark would love to chat.

– Has this podcast been impacting your life? Email admin@empoweredman.co to share how.

Join the Thrive Program:

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Take the Empowered Man 5 Day Challenge:

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Connect with The Empowered Man:

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– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

– Submit your Questions: podcast@empoweredman.co

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– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

Over the last three weeks, Mark has spoken about cultivating a lifestyle of ownership, and this week he’s talking about you as a LEADER. As a husband and father, you are already a leader, but this week, you’ll find out the specifics behind what it really takes to be a GREAT leader.

Leadership to most people is about being in charge and telling people what to do. And YES, leadership does have an element of this, but it isn’t all about being the BOSS. It’s about your ability to impact other people, situations, and make a change. The amount of influence and the amount of impact you have over others dictates how much LEADERSHIP you truly have. So ask yourself, are YOU a strong leader? In this episode, hear what TRUE leadership begins with, the importance of accountability, and how to own your sh*t with yourself, other people, and your future.

“You must be able to keep yourself accountable. You must be responsible to yourself. That is true leadership.”

– Mark Santiago 

In This Episode:

– There are two main aspects when it comes to leadership of yourself. Here’s what they are…

– Find out what owning your sh*t does and does not look like

– Learn why you cannot move FORWARD in your life without working through the core pain you are experiencing

– Mark shares why, before you lead anybody else, you have to lead YOURSELF

– Wondering what TRUE leadership BEGINS with? Here’s the answer…

– Discover what it takes to live a life of freedom, power, and confidence

– As a LEADER, you need to be honest with other people and keep them accountable. Here’s why…

– Learn how to own your sh*t with YOURSELF so you can own your sh*t with other people

– Mark shares the concept of The Power Triangle and shows you how to apply it in your life

– Hear what a lifestyle of ownership REALLY is and why it starts with YOU being a leader of YOURSELF and your OWN LIFE

And much more…

 

Book mentioned:

–   Extreme Ownership: How U.S. Navy SEALs Lead and Win Hardcover by Jocko Willink: https://www.amazon.com/Extreme-Ownership-Jocko-Willink/dp/1250183863

Join the Thrive Program:

-Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

 

Take the Empowered Man 5 Day Challenge:

-Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/order-form1651254400260

 

Connect with The Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

– Submit your Questions: podcast@empoweredman.co 

Connect with Mark Santiago:

 – Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

  

Continuing the Lifestyle of Ownership series this week, Mark is talking about you as a MAN. You as a man is very different from you as a father, husband, or leader. When all is stripped away and there is just YOU left, what do you REALLY think about yourself?

As a man, you have to know what you WANT. You have to know what you NEED. And you have to articulate these to connect emotionally with the people around you. When a man can’t articulate his NEEDS, he can’t connect with ANYBODY, and that sh*t is not healthy. In this episode, Mark shares what it means to show up as a MAN and how to make sure you are LIVING, not just EXISTING. Find out why so many men don’t know what they NEED and how owning your sh*t as a man will change how you show up in EVERY other area of your life.

“What the world needs is men who have come alive, not living in fear, shame, and weakness.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– Find out the dominant belief a man needs to have before he can do the work he needs to do to be successful in life

– There are TWO different worlds for men – the internal and external – find out what they involve…

– Learn about the emotional connection that happens when a man is vulnerable with his wife

– Your physical body plays a role in how you are showing up in the world. Find out how…

– So many men feel alone in what they’re going through. Hear how Empowered Man’s purpose is to help with this…

– Discover how to make sure your internal and external worlds are in check and how to start living life again

– Are you LIVING your life or are you just EXISTING? Here’s how to tell the difference…

– Hear why you need to show up strong, powerful, and present as a man

 And much more…

 

Book mentioned:

–   Extreme Ownership: How U.S. Navy SEALs Lead and Win Hardcover by Jocko Willink: https://www.amazon.com/Extreme-Ownership-Jocko-Willink/dp/1250183863

Join the Thrive Program:

-Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

 

Take the Empowered Man 5 Day Challenge:

-Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/order-form1651254400260

 

Connect with The Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

– Submit your Questions: podcast@empoweredman.co  

Connect with Mark Santiago:

 – Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/