Empowered AF Podcast

Last week, we spoke about a lifestyle of ownership when it comes to your marriage and you as a HUSBAND, and specifically to how you communicate and show up in your relationship. And this week, we’re talking about you as a FATHER. It’s time to consider what YOU need to change about YOU if you want to be an example for your kids.

Owning your sh*t isn’t just about the mistakes, it’s about owning the positives too. So when it comes to being a father, what have YOU done positively? What are the things you are doing well RIGHT NOW when it comes to your children? You can OWN all of those things. Join Mark this week as he shares what he has learned from his own father and how he applies this learning – both the good AND the bad – to parenting his kids. He’s sharing some habits he has built through being a father and three questions to ask yourself when it comes to owning your sh*t with your kids.

“Presence is powerful. If your presence is weak, if your presence is not powerful, your kids will know that.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– Find out what WEAK men do when faced with pressure

– Learn the difference between fault and responsibility as a father

– If you’re lying to YOURSELF, you’re lying to your kids. This is why…

– Mark shares the importance of PRESENCE when it comes to being POWERFUL as a father

– Hear why you have to be intentional about the character traits you want to instill in your children

– Your behavior could be influencing the behavior of your kids. Here’s how…

– One of the most beneficial things you can do with your children

And much more…

Join the Thrive Program:

-Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

 

Take the Empowered Man 5 Day Challenge:

–Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/order-form1651254400260

 

Connect with The Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

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– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

– Submit your Questions: podcast@empoweredman.co  



Connect with Mark Santiago:

 – Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

We live in a world where everyone is a VICTIM, and NOBODY wants to take ownership of anything. Too many men blame their wives, their jobs, their kids, for their problems, and it’s everyone else’s fault except THEIRS. But the key to fixing your marriage is to OWN it. Own your sh*t inside it, take RESPONSIBILITY, and hold yourself ACCOUNTABLE.

Ownership is a lifestyle. It is something we LIVE and BREATHE, and it is part of our entire essence as empowered men. And to have a lifestyle of ownership, a man needs to THRIVE in all five dimensions of life. So to kick off the brand-new show format, Mark explores The Lifestyle of Ownership, starting with YOU as a HUSBAND. Find out why taking ownership of your life is CRUCIAL in becoming an empowered man and three practical things you should be doing RIGHT NOW if you want to have successful ownership of your marriage.

“We cannot be men who are thriving, or men who are empowered, if we lack accountability and responsibility.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– Find out why a lifestyle of ownership helps you become a 5-dimensional man  

– When men come to Empowered Man for support, there is ONE THING that Mark thinks is the WORST, here’s what it is…

– Mark asks you some questions to get REAL with yourself and find out where you are NOT owning sh*t in your marriage or relationship

– Hear why you ALWAYS have the opportunity to be responsible and accountable for what you do

– Find out why being decisive is CRUCIAL in owning your marriage

– Learn exactly why accountability + responsibility = leadership and how to apply that in your own life

– Find out the ONE thing men need to do to become empowered in their marriages

– Most men don’t think of their marriage as something they OWN, here’s why that’s NOT true…

And much more…

Join the Thrive Program:

-Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

 

Take the Empowered Man 5 Day Challenge:

–Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/order-form1651254400260

 

Connect with The Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

– Submit your Questions: podcast@empoweredman.co  

Connect with Mark Santiago:

 – Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

Empowered AF 2.0 is HERE, are you ready?! The new format is going to blow your mind. There will be way more fun, topics that have never been spoken about before on the podcast, and a host of brand-new guests coming onto the show.

Empowered Man is SO much more than simply helping men navigate toxic marriages, so this week, Mark shares his vision for Empowered Man 2.0 and some of the topics he’ll be discussing in future episodes. Hear the reason for the new format, how it’s going to work, what you can expect each week, and a BRAND-NEW concept that will be part of the show. Get ready to be EMPOWERED. 

“Our vision in Empowered Man is not to save marriages, but to save men.”

– Mark Santiago 

In This Episode:

– Find out the genesis behind Empowered AF 2.0 and why it’s going to be BETTER than ever

– Hear what you can expect from Empowered Man 2.0 and what you’ll gain from listening to the podcast episodes

– Mark tells you why you DO NOT have to settle for the shit you are going through and why there is always more for you

– Discover some of the topics Mark will be discussing on future podcast episodes

And much more…

Join the Thrive Program:

-Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

 

Take the Empowered Man 5 Day Challenge:

–Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/order-form1651254400260

 

Connect with The Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

– Submit your Questions: podcast@empoweredman.co

 

Connect with Mark Santiago:

 – Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

2022 is right around the corner, and you might be thinking about setting New Year’s resolutions. Some of you are in the midst of divorce and separation, and you think making resolutions will make you happier. You are WRONG. Resolutions SUCK – they DO NOT work. Andrew Lawrie joins Mark on the show this week to share why and what you can do instead to become truly empowered in 2022.

Empowered AF 2.0 is coming, and Mark has a vision to do some great, impactful things in 2022. YOU get to decide who you want to be and how you want to show up, and you get to do it right now. Do you want to show up as WEAK, or do you want to show up EMPOWERED? You do NOT want to miss this episode.

“Fill your cup before you fill everybody else’s, you can’t pour out of an empty cup.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– Andrew shares the reason new year’s resolutions DO NOT work and what you should do instead

– Learn three things you can do RIGHT NOW do to be empowered in 2022

– Discover the concept of “push” weeks and “pull” weeks and why becoming accustomed to this way of thinking will help you avoid burnout

– Why New Year’s resolutions are magic thinking and how to actually become empowered in 2022

– Mark shares why you DON’T need a human to be happy in life – regardless of what you might believe – and why if you do, you’re likely co-dependent

– Find out where your happiness comes from and what to do to really show up in your TRUE power

– Find out EXACTLY what you need to do in 2022 to be Empowered AF

And much more…

Join the Thrive Program:

– Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

Take the Empowered Man 30 Day Challenge:

– Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/challenge?el=podcast

How to Connect with The Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

We live in an idealized world, and everything is about identity. We say things like “I need my wife. I need to save my marriage,” but is that really true? Why do you need that? When talking about what you need, you’re focusing on the IDEAL world vs. the REAL world.

When you don’t have what you need and you focus on this instead of what you have, you’re in the “gap,” and the gap is where most men live. Focusing on what you need to create your IDEAL version of yourself keeps you trapped there, while focusing on what you already HAVE will get you out. In this episode, Mark is showing you how to move into a new realm – a place where you create what you want from a place of abundance instead of lack. It’s time to STOP living in the gap and START living in the gain.

 “Every time you measure yourself against your ideal situation, you are in the gap that is creating anxiety.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– Learn the concept of The Gap and The Gain and how to use it to improve your business or personal life

– Mark shares his journey into the world of identity and how he learned to embrace this concept

– Hear what happens when you start to think about your ideal life 

– Discover the “five lies” exercise and how to apply it to whatever life situation you’re in

– Why comparing yourself to ANYBODY else – even an idealized version of yourself – is a PROBLEM

– A practice to do every single day to help you realize how far you’ve come on your journey

– Hear some statements about needs and wants to help you understand the difference between them

– Learn the very first step to help you get OUT of the Gap and INTO the Gain

– Mark shares the differences between needs and wants

And much more…

Resources:

– The Gap and The Gain by Dan Sullivan and Dr. Benjamin Hardy: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/679143/the-gap-and-the-gain-by-dan-sullivan/#

Join the Thrive Program:

– Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

Take the Empowered Man 30 Day Challenge:

– Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/challenge?el=podcast

How to Connect with The Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

We’ve all experienced pain or trauma at some point in our lives, but sometimes this pain can stick with you way into adulthood. But that pain doesn’t have to damage you forever if you do the work to deal with it. You may not have always performed the best or won the thing, and you may not have been good enough, but Mark’s here to tell you that you ARE enough. You are ALWAYS enough.

In this episode, Mark shares his definition of an empowered man and shows you what it really takes to be one. Discover how Mark took the trauma and pain he experienced and absorbed it to become EMPOWERED AF, and how he can help you THRIVE in all five dimensions of your manhood. YOU can be empowered if you choose to. Will you choose to?

“Every man has a purpose, every man has a place, and every man can choose to be empowered if he so chooses.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– Mark shares the story of how his father’s words damaged him, but how he learned not to allow them to damage him forever.

– Hear the reason you continue with toxic patterns and cycles in your life, and how to STOP them once and for all

– Learn some of the main character traits of an empowered man. Do you possess them?

– Discover how Mark learned to OWN his shit and communicate his feelings

– Uncover the effects that unresolved trauma can have upon the rest of your life and how it might still be showing up in your life in different ways

– The ONE question you need to ask yourself regarding your own trauma

– Hear the REAL story of why Mark started The Empowered Man and how his experiences as a child altered the entire trajectory of his life

– Why you need to think about YOUR actions and YOUR responsibility in a situation

And much more…

Resources:

– The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Body-Keeps-Score-Healing-Trauma/dp/0143127748

Join the Thrive Program:

– Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

Take the Empowered Man 30 Day Challenge:

– Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/challenge?el=podcast

How to Connect with The Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

This episode is one of the most downloaded episodes ever, so it is clear that A LOT of men are struggling with this: what do you do when your wife has an affair? When your wife is telling you she doesn’t know if she wants to come back to the marriage, it can feel painful and SCARY AF. So how do you transform that pain into a positive?

In this reintroduction of episode 2 of Empowered AF, Mark helps you understand the difference between an emotional and physical affair and explains why you need to understand exactly what is happening with her before you can decide how to continue. You can choose to emerge destroyed or empowered, and it’s all down to THIS mindset shift. Which one do you choose? 

“What you have to do is put yourself in the most powerful position to receive her back, should she decide to come back.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– What “limerence” and “affair fog” are, how to recognize them and how to navigate them

– The danger of “false positives”

– Learn why so many victims end up manipulating the cheater

– The boundaries you need to put in place if you choose to stay in your marriage following an affair

– Why you should treat your wife as a “neutral woman” once she’s had an affair

– How you can sink into the pain of an affair and emerge as an unshakeable new man

And much more…

How To Recognize If She Is Really Ready To Come Back To The Marriage:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-recognize-if-she-is-really-ready-to-come-back/id1530120708?i=1000502425903

Join the Thrive Program:

– Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

Take the Empowered Man 30 Day Challenge:

– Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/challenge?el=podcast

How to Connect with The Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

As the holiday season approaches, things are going to get harder for some of you. But Mark is back this week to EMPOWER you and give YOU the tools you need to put yourself in the strongest position possible. Want more confidence and freedom in your life? You need to CHANGE your approach and RECLAIM your power. YOU are responsible for change, so it’s time to own your sh*t. In today’s episode, learn how to find where your biggest area of strength lies and use it to your advantage in your marriage. Mark gets real on topics such as the best thing to do during a toxic text argument (hint: DON’T engage with them), how to create STRONG power statements, dealing with a narcissist, setting boundaries, manipulation, the EGO, and more. 

“The only thing you can own, or control is YOU. Nothing more,

nothing less. It’s just YOU.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode: 

– Discover what a power triangle is and how to use it to set effective power statements in a toxic conversation.

– Mark recounts how to communicate like a leader WITHOUT losing your sh*t, listen to a full episode on it here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-four-cs-for-communicating-like-a-leader/id1530120708?i=1000506591803

– One of the biggest false-positives Mark sees and how to tell if it’s affecting you in your marriage.

– How her behaviors might be manipulating you and how to spot them, learn more here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four-horsemen-recognizing-criticism-contempt-defensiveness-and-stonewalling/

– Why you NEVER need to engage in toxic text arguments and how NOTHING good will ever come of them. More on that here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/toxic-texting-is-ruining-your-relationship/id1530120708?i=1000515961556

– The concept of the “neutral woman” and how to use it to communicate with your wife/ex-wife.

– Discover some examples of boundaries you can set with your wife that will make you feel EMPOWERED.

– Why the language you use in communication could be setting you up for failure, and how to change it.

Join the Thrive Program:

– Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

Take the Empowered Man 30 Day Challenge:

– Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/challenge?el=podcast

How to Connect with The Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

Navigating emotional situations can be hard to handle if you don’t know what you are doing and can even cause serious damage to the family relationship. In this episode of Empowered AF, Mark is introduced to you and the thrive program by fellow coach Kevin, to answer some personal questions from the group. Mark covers topics such as dealing with kids acting out, how to avoid accidentally manipulating your children and how to identify ways to be a safe place for your children.

“Appropriate language is key.”

 – Mark Santiago

In This Episode: 

– Mark recounts the experience of his daughter opening up for the first time about his behavior during the divorce (Listen Here)

– Mark dives into “co-dependence” and how you may be trying to WIN the argument between you and your wife, through your child. This become unconscious manipulation over your children rather than owning your shit

– How to handle situations when your wife and your children have conflict, and you need to be neutral to it

– How to motivate your children to express their emotions to you in a healthy way

And much more…

Previous Episode about Co-Parenting:

– https://marksantiago.captivate.fm/episode/how-to-thrive-as-a-coparent

Join the Thrive Program:

– Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

Take the Empowered Man 30 Day Challenge:

– Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/challenge?el=podcast

How to Connect with The Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

Welcome back to the AMA segment of the Empowered AF Podcast. This format works really well in delivering you all real life context to the Empowered Man Process and an opportunity for Mark to answer YOUR most burning questions. In today’s episode, Mark shares with you his insights on multiple different topics, such as emotionally connected communication, setting healthy boundaries, maintaining gratitude and not always expecting it from the other side, fostering a healthy relationship after divorce, and much more!

“Don’t tell her you are changing or that you are going to change, let her see the fruit of your labour.”

 – Mark Santiago

In This Episode: 

– Differences between boundaries and controlled boundaries so you can identify when you are being toxic

– Mark shares with you what to do when you don’t feel gratitude from your wife – even when you are going out of your way to do things for her and making sacrifices daily

– How to create a “vacuum effect” when you are divorced so your wife/ex-wife doesn’t suck your power 

– How to set boundaries in the “relationship” after divorce

And much more…

Join the Thrive Program:

– Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

Take the Empowered Man 30 Day Challenge:

– Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/challenge?el=podcast

How to Connect with The Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/