Empowered AF Podcast

This episode is one of the most downloaded episodes ever, so it is clear that A LOT of men are struggling with this: what do you do when your wife has an affair? When your wife is telling you she doesn’t know if she wants to come back to the marriage, it can feel painful and SCARY AF. So how do you transform that pain into a positive?

In this reintroduction of episode 2 of Empowered AF, Mark helps you understand the difference between an emotional and physical affair and explains why you need to understand exactly what is happening with her before you can decide how to continue. You can choose to emerge destroyed or empowered, and it’s all down to THIS mindset shift. Which one do you choose? 

“What you have to do is put yourself in the most powerful position to receive her back, should she decide to come back.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– What “limerence” and “affair fog” are, how to recognize them and how to navigate them

– The danger of “false positives”

– Learn why so many victims end up manipulating the cheater

– The boundaries you need to put in place if you choose to stay in your marriage following an affair

– Why you should treat your wife as a “neutral woman” once she’s had an affair

– How you can sink into the pain of an affair and emerge as an unshakeable new man

And much more…

How To Recognize If She Is Really Ready To Come Back To The Marriage:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-recognize-if-she-is-really-ready-to-come-back/id1530120708?i=1000502425903

Join the Thrive Program:

– Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

Take the Empowered Man 30 Day Challenge:

– Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/challenge?el=podcast

How to Connect with The Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

As the holiday season approaches, things are going to get harder for some of you. But Mark is back this week to EMPOWER you and give YOU the tools you need to put yourself in the strongest position possible. Want more confidence and freedom in your life? You need to CHANGE your approach and RECLAIM your power. YOU are responsible for change, so it’s time to own your sh*t. In today’s episode, learn how to find where your biggest area of strength lies and use it to your advantage in your marriage. Mark gets real on topics such as the best thing to do during a toxic text argument (hint: DON’T engage with them), how to create STRONG power statements, dealing with a narcissist, setting boundaries, manipulation, the EGO, and more. 

“The only thing you can own, or control is YOU. Nothing more,

nothing less. It’s just YOU.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode: 

– Discover what a power triangle is and how to use it to set effective power statements in a toxic conversation.

– Mark recounts how to communicate like a leader WITHOUT losing your sh*t, listen to a full episode on it here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-four-cs-for-communicating-like-a-leader/id1530120708?i=1000506591803

– One of the biggest false-positives Mark sees and how to tell if it’s affecting you in your marriage.

– How her behaviors might be manipulating you and how to spot them, learn more here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four-horsemen-recognizing-criticism-contempt-defensiveness-and-stonewalling/

– Why you NEVER need to engage in toxic text arguments and how NOTHING good will ever come of them. More on that here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/toxic-texting-is-ruining-your-relationship/id1530120708?i=1000515961556

– The concept of the “neutral woman” and how to use it to communicate with your wife/ex-wife.

– Discover some examples of boundaries you can set with your wife that will make you feel EMPOWERED.

– Why the language you use in communication could be setting you up for failure, and how to change it.

Join the Thrive Program:

– Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

Take the Empowered Man 30 Day Challenge:

– Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/challenge?el=podcast

How to Connect with The Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

Navigating emotional situations can be hard to handle if you don’t know what you are doing and can even cause serious damage to the family relationship. In this episode of Empowered AF, Mark is introduced to you and the thrive program by fellow coach Kevin, to answer some personal questions from the group. Mark covers topics such as dealing with kids acting out, how to avoid accidentally manipulating your children and how to identify ways to be a safe place for your children.

“Appropriate language is key.”

 – Mark Santiago

In This Episode: 

– Mark recounts the experience of his daughter opening up for the first time about his behavior during the divorce (Listen Here)

– Mark dives into “co-dependence” and how you may be trying to WIN the argument between you and your wife, through your child. This become unconscious manipulation over your children rather than owning your shit

– How to handle situations when your wife and your children have conflict, and you need to be neutral to it

– How to motivate your children to express their emotions to you in a healthy way

And much more…

Previous Episode about Co-Parenting:

– https://marksantiago.captivate.fm/episode/how-to-thrive-as-a-coparent

Join the Thrive Program:

– Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

Take the Empowered Man 30 Day Challenge:

– Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/challenge?el=podcast

How to Connect with The Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

Welcome back to the AMA segment of the Empowered AF Podcast. This format works really well in delivering you all real life context to the Empowered Man Process and an opportunity for Mark to answer YOUR most burning questions. In today’s episode, Mark shares with you his insights on multiple different topics, such as emotionally connected communication, setting healthy boundaries, maintaining gratitude and not always expecting it from the other side, fostering a healthy relationship after divorce, and much more!

“Don’t tell her you are changing or that you are going to change, let her see the fruit of your labour.”

 – Mark Santiago

In This Episode: 

– Differences between boundaries and controlled boundaries so you can identify when you are being toxic

– Mark shares with you what to do when you don’t feel gratitude from your wife – even when you are going out of your way to do things for her and making sacrifices daily

– How to create a “vacuum effect” when you are divorced so your wife/ex-wife doesn’t suck your power 

– How to set boundaries in the “relationship” after divorce

And much more…

Join the Thrive Program:

– Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

Take the Empowered Man 30 Day Challenge:

– Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/challenge?el=podcast

How to Connect with The Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

“Ask Me Anything” has been one of the most successful segments on this podcast because Mark answers the real life questions from men JUST LIKE YOU. There aren’t any “what if”s or non-real-life examples. He’s discussing what is really going on in the members of the Empowered Man Group’s lives. Along with going over lots of questions and giving actionable and transformational advice, Mark shares with you his insights on different topics such as affairs, being vulnerable, eliminating trauma, forgiveness and much more!

“You were not made for retirement from self-improvement.”

 – Mark Santiago

In This Episode: 

– If you are going to enter into a divorce, one of the first things that you have to do is tell your kids. Listen to how Mark explains to you how to do so in a way that’s smooth and appropriate.

– Unforgiveness and how it can be poison for yourself if you don’t let it go and forgive your wife

– Mark tells you how to deal with affair triggers by being vulnerable so you can create an emotional connection with your wife

And much more…

Join the Thrive Program:

– Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

Take the Empowered Man 30 Day Challenge:

– Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/challenge?el=podcast

How to Connect with The Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

If you are struggling, you feel stuck, or you don’t have clarity about what to do in order to reach a goal or get out of a situation, then having a Coach will be your best option to overcome that. But there are lots of cases where men that come to Empowered Man still haven’t worked on themselves to any degree before even thinking about joining the program. Because they should take care of their mental health first, therapy is their best option to get the right type of attention for their specific situation. So in today’s episode, Mark talks with Misty McIntyre, a certified therapist and coach, about the differences between coaching and therapy and when to recognize when each is an appropriate action for a given situation. This is something critical to know, so pay attention!

“Once you have dealt with your mental state, coaching can be perfect for you”

 – Mark Santiago

In This Episode: 

– Misty shares with you what the main difference is between coaching and therapy, so you can be aware of which one to go for based on your situation

– Coaching can be amazing, but not everybody is qualified to give advice if you are dealing with Mental Health issues, so here’s what to look for when searching for help…

– Why you may need Therapy first, before getting into a coaching program (This one is super important since it can affect your well-being)

– Mark explains how coaching can be the best way to go about things, when you don’t know where to go, don’t have a proven plan of action, and/or you lack clarity in some aspect of your life

And much more…

Connect with Misty McIntyre:

– Website: http://www.therapycocounseling.com/misty-mcintyre

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Misty-McIntyre-Marriage-Relationship-Coach-2211068779178527/

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/misty_mcintyre/?hl=es

– Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/misty-mcintyre-74812224

Join the Thrive Program:

– Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

Take the Empowered Man 30 Day Challenge:

– Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/challenge?el=podcast

How to Connect with The Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

Thanks to your feedback, both in the Empowered Man community and the Empowered AF Podcast community, Mark has another AMA. This one will bring a tone of value for you, the podcast listener. In this “Ask Me Anything” session with the Thrive Community, Mark goes over all of your burning questions and gives actionable and transformational advice, once more. Mark shares with you his insights on different topics such as manipulation, thriving by going through adversity, fixing the way you process this trauma and so much more.

“If you are ok being by yourself and happy even when single, then you are ready to have healthy relationships with women.”

 – Mark Santiago

In This Episode: 

– “Leaning into the pain” as the way to face your traumas/problems and grow through them as an Empowered Man

– Mark shares with you how to identify if your actions come from a place of abundance or somewhere broke inside you (this is key to growing through adversity)

– When is the right time to start dating again (if you don’t respect this it can be dangerous for your future relationships)

And much more…

Join the Thrive Program:

– Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

Take the Empowered Man 30 Day Challenge:

– Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/challenge?el=podcast

How to Connect with The Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

Being a single dad with kids can be something super difficult and tough, so that’s why it’s great to have people that already have gone through that situation and have come out on the other side even stronger. That’s what Mark wants for you  – not only to overcome traumas and tough situations in your marriage but to thrive as well. In this episode, Mark brings Kevin Pierce, a coach in the Empowered Man team, to bring another perspective to the table.Mark and Kevin talk about how to be an amazing single parent for your kids after going through a divorce and to show up as your best version for your kids.

“You gotta find something that you can hold onto – That anchor of support of saying, ´you know what? It’s going to be okay´.”

 – Mark Santiago

In This Episode: 

– Kevin tells you the “Key” to how he showed up successfully as a single parent for his kids even before the divorce procedures began

– Main struggles that Mark and Kevin see in Co-Parenting dads in the Thrive community and how they fix those in the coaching calls

– Kevin shares his top 3 advice to newly single parents on what they should be doing with their kids to have an amazing and positive relationship with them

Join the Thrive Program:

– Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

Take the Empowered Man 30 Day Challenge:

– Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/challenge?el=podcast

How to Connect with The Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

Like the vast majority of men that are going through a separation or divorce, you feel like your wife has all the power over you and you no longer have any semblance of control in the situation. It feels sudden – everything was going great, and then your wife seems to no longer love you, no longer trust you, or maybe she even “hates” you. At this point you may be asking yourself, “How the f*ck did this happen?” and “What do I do now?”.

In today’s episode, Mark is going to talk about how to neutralize the power of your wife by actually addressing the bad habits that you have been doing, without realizing it, and by discussing your lack of boundaries.

“The old you has to die in order to let the new you live.”

 – Mark Santiago

In This Episode: 

– All the things that you tolerate in order to not lose intimacy with your wife (Mark tells you how to fix this from within…ASAP)

– Being rejected scares you and that’s why you don’t step up – and you don’t even know you have this going inside your head! Mark talks about how to be the leader that your wife needs in order to get through this

– Your Ego makes you think she is guilty of all the things that are going wrong in the marriage (it takes two to tango)

– How lacking to set consistent boundaries gives your wife room to do whatever she wants and brings tons of uncertainty into the relationship

And much more…

Join the Thrive Program:

– Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

Take the Empowered Man 30 Day Challenge:

– Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/challenge?el=podcast

How to Connect with The Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

Every two weeks, Mark sits down for a coffee chat with his 16-year-old daughter, Elizabeth, where they talk about life in general. But sometimes, as they dive into discussions revolving around their family life, they discover the challenges that have taken a toll on them both emotionally. One of these discussions resulted in Elizabeth letting him in on the trauma that she had been accumulating for the past 2 years.

This is why Elizabeth is joining Mark on today’s episode – Mark and Elizabeth are going to talk about how the divorce affected Elizabeth, what impact it had on Mark’s life, and what mistakes Mark has made that ultimately lead him to transform his life to become a better man and father.

“We need to be attentive, we need to be present. Presence is everything.”

 – Mark Santiago

In This Episode: 

– Being in the middle of a divorce can be tough but when you make it ONLY about YOU, your children can feel lonely or neglected,  as Elizabeth explains…

– What mistakes Mark made at the beginning of the divorce from Elizabeth’s perspective…

– Elizabeth’s advice to fathers that are going through a divorce and who want to show up for their children and be the best version of themselves FOR their children…

And much more…

Join the Thrive Program:

– Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

Take the Empowered Man 30 Day Challenge:

– Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/challenge?el=podcast

How to Connect with The Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/