Empowered AF Podcast

While this is something we talk about a lot, “Boundaries” is a topic that easily gets lost in the shuffle. And if you don’t have clarity around them, your relationship or marriage can become really toxic.

 So in today´s episode, Mark is going to give you, the Podcast listener, a little gift. He is going to give you a Special coaching training session from the Thrive Group. In this training, he talks about what Boundaries are, and why you actually need them, and a lot more! Make sure you check out the links below to get more information on the Thrive Program.

“This is where toxic relationships and marriages come from when no one has boundaries – everything is a fear and manipulation game.”

 – Mark Santiago

In This Episode: 

– Boundaries VS Control, and their main differences

– How to tell if you have boundaries or if you are completely disregarding them

– The best tactics that you can implement right away in your relationship

– Why knowing the distinction between “boundaries for you” and “boundaries for her” is key for every relationship or marriage to stay healthy and why not knowing it will make you lose out

Join the Thrive Program:

– Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

Take the Empowered Man 30 Day Challenge:

– Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/challenge?el=podcast

How to Connect with The Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

Mark and Billy spent the last episode talking about the OPF Method and how it can change everything for you – from changing the quality of your relationship with your significant other, to changing almost every aspect of how you communicate in your life. In today’s episode, they are diving deep into the second half of this conversation about the OPF Method, including its practical side, so you can apply it right away and start changing your quality of life TODAY!

“What you tolerate is what you promote to other people.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode: 

– “Save the Marriage”- why this is the most requested goal in our applications and the 4 questions you MUST ask yourself if you want to “save” the marriage.

– The most important question you have to ask before making a decision that can change the quality of your life

– Do you really want a divorce? Before making any move, respond to these other 4 questions to be Abso-F*cking-Lutely 100% concrete on what you want

– How focusing on yourself, developing high standard values and leader communication can create a “New Marriage”.

And much more…

Join the Thrive Program:

– Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

Take the Empowered Man 30 Day Challenge:

– Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/challenge?el=podcast

How to Connect with The Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

A really common situation that we see happening over and over again is that when something unexpected happens in a relationship, men don’t know what to do or what move to make; they are clueless and lack clarity in their decisions. So in today’s episode, Billy and Mark Sit down to lay out exactly what YOU need to hear. They break down a method that you can basically apply to any situation and that will guide you with what to do next. 

“Sub-Optimal living is really about control. You are not leading, you are controlling, which is more about manipulation.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode: 

– How you can apply the OPF Method to any area of your life

– Why applying frameworks in your day to day is critical to have a successful and healthy life (and how they differ with principles)

– The most common problem guys that are going through a divorce or a difficult situation with their wife have (that they don’t realize) and how to fix it

– Lack of clarity and how it makes men have confidence issues that ultimately harms their relationships

– The Optimal living vs Sub-Optimal living framework and why it can change the quality of your whole life

Join the Thrive Program:

– Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

Take the Empowered Man 30 Day Challenge:

– Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/challenge?el=podcast

How to Connect with The Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

One of the most common problems in a relationship is the struggle for men to communicate or express their emotions to their wife, and because of this inability to do so, the relationship only gets worse and worse. In today’s episode, Mark and Andrew are going to talk about how men’s and women’s brains are wired differently, how this causes lots of problems within the relationship, and how your reaction towards them can make or break your relationships. Learn why YOU are the only thing holding you back from cracking the code on emotions.

“Emotions are like the dashboard gas-light going off and it’s up to you to decide to stop and look under the hood or continue on until you can’t do it anymore” – Mark Santiago

In This Episode: 

– How different emotions are for men and for women

– Why your ego is ruining your relationship even when you think that you are doing the right things and what to do to fix that

– Learn the main reason why it is so difficult for men to express and communicate their emotions and how it affects their relationships in their life (and their own mental health)

– Mark tells you how little things and past experiences build trauma into men and what it takes to heal it 

– With this mindset framework talked about in this episode, YOU are going to be aware of your feelings and emotions so you can be proactive about the actions you take towards them and make healthy decisions about them



Join the Thrive Program:

– Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

Take the Empowered Man 30 Day Challenge:

– Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/challenge?el=podcast

How to Connect with The Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

The Empowered AF Podcast welcomes back Billy Neal, head coach of the Thrive Program, to discuss the importance of communication. Since us men are NOT WIRED the same as women, it’s only natural that things get lost in translation and our emotions suffer due to our lack of decent communication. Listen to this episode to learn some tips and tricks for great communication. Explore the REAL reason you struggle with your relationships and how working on yourself internally will have huge effects on how you interact externally.

“I think someone needs to hear that they are VALUED today. You may not feel that or know that, but it’s there.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode

– The biggest challenges that men in this program deal with as it relates to communication

– Why your brain needs to be retrained to slow down, listen, explore your own emotions and be able to ARTICULATE your thoughts out loud

– Most men aren’t willing to do the work – when you have the tools to work, you have no excuse to limit your growth.

– How boundaries are not only your RESPONSIBILITY to set, but essential to creating good habits in your communication

– Why working on yourself in Thrive, Revive or the 30 Day Challenge will rev up the way you ask questions and relate to your surroundings

– “Saving” the relationship, the marriage or WHATEVER it is IS NOT a helpful mindset – do the work and value YOU

Join the Thrive Program:

– Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

Take the Empowered Man 30 Day Challenge:

– Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/challenge?el=podcast

How to Connect with The Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

On this episode of Empowered AF, Mark sits down with head coach of the Empowered Man Thrive Program, Billy Neal, to discuss the ins and outs of the program and how Mark troubleshoots YOUR challenges and baggage once you join the group. Billy and Mark cover the most common mistakes that men make in the Facebook group and how their mindset needs to shift once they begin Thrive. If you are in pain and struggle to get through your specific situation, listen to this episode to learn all about HOW to get yourself past this rut and onto your Thrive Journey.

“We are not a divorce support group, we are a Men’s Empowerment Group. There is no way to move on until you work on yourself.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode

– How to stop constantly obsessing over you wife and reliving your past traumas 24/7 

– Why breathing, diverting attention and other techniques can change the way you handle anxious situations during this hard time

– The first step you need to take after the “event” that lead you to search for the Empowered Man Group

– The TRUTH behind men’s struggles in the marriage and in life

– How the Thrive Program works on ALL MEN, regardless of your relationship status and why COACHING is more than just advice



Join the Thrive Program:

– Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

Take the Empowered Man 30 Day Challenge:

– Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/challenge?el=podcast

How to Connect with The Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

In this second half of Mark’s discussion with Seth Ellsworth, we jump right back into how Seth wouldn’t change anything about his divorce. This is a hard level for most people to understand from the OUTSIDE looking in. In this episode Seth gives you a set of questions to ask yourself to make this concept simplified so that YOU, too, can change the perception of the difficult time you are currently going through with your marriage or divorce, and how you can create a scenario for yourself where you can look back on this time in your life and live WITHOUT shame or regret with how it all went down.

“The growth that came out of my journey was worth it, but all of that comes back to how I respond to her and the situation and not letting it own me”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode

– You can’t blame your wife for being human and wanting to be appreciated in the marriage: YOU need to take responsibility for YOUR participation in missing the signs

– How can you make your situation the best thing that ever happened to you? Ask this question of yourself.

– Seth expresses how he was able to turn the hardest thing ever into a beautiful experience for his children

– Why the hardest choices in life will always lead to the best results

– How to navigate the emotional bank versus the money bank and how to be HONEST with where you stand EMOTIONALLY first and foremost



Connect with Seth Ellsworth:

– The Breakthrough Challenge: https://breakthroughchallenge.com

– Website: https://sethellsworth.com

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/winwithseth

– Twitter: https://twitter.com/sethellsworth?lang=en

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sethellsworth/?hl=en

Join the Thrive Program:

– Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

Take the Empowered Man 30 Day Challenge:

– Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/challenge?el=podcast

How to Connect with The Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

 In the first part of this two part episode, Mark sits down with a guest that not only knows Mark extremely well, but shares a similar perspective that all men on their Empowered Journey can relate to. Seth Ellsworth comes as he is in every situation. Whether that be through providing inspiration for his clients to do the work and challenging themselves in order to grow into a successful life, or simply joining Mark on today’s show for an honest conversation. Seth is the man YOU need to know. Divorce can be one of the most difficult experiences you and your family go through. Learn how Seth found the key to getting through life after divorce and what his most important asset was when tackling his own personal journey to becoming Empowered AF.

“If you come into Seth’s world, your gonna leave changed.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode

– Learn how 8 years and a divorce later, Seth became Empowered to start a business to INSPIRE others who have gone through the same hard times 

– Being “Absolutely Uncommon” is Seth’s Motto, but there is significance in finding a partner in life that knows and respects how to go on this journey of life together

– Why you need to calibrate your life to experience healthy challenges and motivate YOURSELF

– Seth explains how working on HIS shit during his separation made him ready to experience and meet his next partner once he was divorced

– How being 100% FULLY conscious after divorce and heading towards a new relationship is the MOST responsible you can be for your own growth

– Awareness of what YOU need to change in how you FUNCTION is exactly how you create that healthy environment for your partner

– Why being the “nice guy” and the “good man” does not mean your ignorance or delusion in the marriage can go unchecked. You need to be 100% aware of where you stand in your relationship.

Connect with Seth Ellsworth:

– The Breakthrough Challenge: https://breakthroughchallenge.com

– Website: https://sethellsworth.com

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/winwithseth

– Twitter: https://twitter.com/sethellsworth?lang=en

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sethellsworth/?hl=en

Join the Thrive Program:

– Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

Take the Empowered Man 30 Day Challenge:

– Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/challenge?el=podcast

How to Connect with The Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

In today’s episode, Mark sat down with lead coach Andrew to answer some hot topic questions about Empowered AF and his own journey. From his own childhood, to his first marriage ending in divorce, Mark talks about how his lived experience has shaped him as a man and business owner. Mark’s main mission with his business is to make men feel empowered, emotionally connected, and ready to kick ass in every aspect of their lives. Tune in today to hear more about the man behind Empowered AF. 

“The world needs more men who come alive.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode

– The mission of Empowered Man is to create a community of thriving modern men. Men who kick ass in every area of life. 

– Mark gets candid about his own life, owning up to his faults and shortcomings in his never-ending attempt to lead a full, five-dimension life. 

– In the midst of divorce, Mark created the program he wished he had while going through a crisis. His big achievement has been intervening with men BEFORE they get fully into crisis mode. 

– Presence, show up in your energy, make your family a priority, and find balance between your work and family to lead your marriage.

– Mark’s biggest failure was taking too much blame for the faults in his marriage. He talks about wishing he would’ve done the hard work BEFORE shit hit the fan. 

– Most clients fail by not continuing to do the work. It’s easy to come and invest in yourself while you’re in the program. It’s much harder to keep doing the work on your own. 

Join the Thrive Program:

– Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

Take the Empowered Man 30 Day Challenge:

– Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/challenge?el=podcast

How to Connect with The Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

The work you need to do to CHANGE your LIFE and become an Empowered Man never stops. That’s why Mark is using the next three episodes to fill you in on the Top 3 Episodes of Empowered AF. Maybe this is an episode you missed or maybe it’s just filled with the exact information YOU need to hear. The goal of counseling is NOT to save your marriage. The goal is for you to find your manhood and fight for it, no matter what she decides to do.  In this #1 Episode of all time, Mark lays out five key mistakes that are actually harming your children more, crapping on your important boundaries, and keeping you in a state of retreat instead of leadership. 

“If you stop focusing on saving the marriage, you actually have a chance to save it. ”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– How to transform a reaction of defense into a reaction of leadership

– Why being vulnerable and GROWING through what you are GOING through will ultimately lead you to becoming an Empowered Man

– A marriage can only be saved when the man and wife recognize each other’s weaknesses and work on themselves so that they can have a healthy marriage

– What “focusing on you” ACTUALLY means and why boundaries are necessary to achieve success

– How to join Empowered Man and the expectations of how to behave and communicate in the group

Take the Empowered Man 30 Day Challenge:

– Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/challenge?el=podcast

Join the Thrive Program:

-Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

How to Connect with The Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/