Empowered AF Podcast

The work you need to do to CHANGE your LIFE and become an Empowered Man never stops. That’s why Mark is using the next three episodes to fill you in on the Top 3 Episodes of Empowered AF. Maybe this is an episode you missed or maybe it’s just filled with the exact information YOU need to hear. In the #2 top episode, Owning Your Sh*t, Mark lays out the fundamentals of owning your mistakes and becoming a truly Empowered Man. He covers the nature of trust, the power of empathy, and the beauty of fostering a space where you and your partner can be fully vulnerable. You may look strong on the outside, but true strength comes from within and what you bring out in your partner.

“When we own our faults, it’s not just about confession. It’s the idea of what we actually did to that other person.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– Go beyond the confession and take ownership of your actions

– The realities of trust over time and why YOU need to rebuild it with your partner

– Why it’s not always your fault, but why it is ALWAYS your responsibility to own up to the times you DIDN’T show up for your wife

– A primary principle of the Empowered Man

– Make THESE small changes to express your needs and feel satisfied

– How to create a sanctuary for you and your partner’s feelings

Take the Empowered Man 30 Day Challenge:

– Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/challenge?el=podcast

Join the Thrive Program:

-Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

How to Connect with The Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

The work you need to do to CHANGE your LIFE and to become an Empowered Man never stops. That’s why Mark is using the next three episodes to fill you in on the Top 3 Episodes of this podcast. Maybe this is an episode you missed or maybe it’s just filled with the exact information YOU need to hear. In this episode, Mark emphasizes the importance of having a vision, one exercise to help you endure the pain more productively, and how to find and EMBRACE your new self that your children will admire.

“The vision is determined by how far you want to take it.”

 – Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– Why you need to make the decision to MOVE FORWARD

– Trauma affects everyone, but your response to it makes ALL the difference

– What your children look for in a father, especially during divorce

– How to build your own identity, with or without your wife and work on YOU

Take the Empowered Man 30 Day Challenge:

– Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/challenge?el=podcast

Join the Thrive Program:

-Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

How to Connect with The Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

Today’s episode featured a live show part of the Empowered Man 30 Day Challenge. This specific training focuses on producers versus consumers and how men who are producers are empowered AF in their lives, jobs, and marriages. Mark and Joey outline what makes a producer an empowered man and what makes a consumer a weak man. Make sure you listen to this one of a kind, FREE glimpse into the 30 Day Challenge to becoming an empowered producer and take charge of your life. This glimpse into the challenge is just one of the many trainings you can be a part of; don’t hold back.

“Consumers get paralized by their inaction because they are living in the fear of the unknown.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode

– Producers make shit happen! Men who are producers value making things and adding to the world. On the other hand, consumers WAIT for shit to happen.

– Producers manage their time well. The best producers plan their day, week, and even their year. Consumers waste time spinning their wheels because they’re too afraid to fail.

– Empowered men don’t manipulate their wives into reentering the marriage. They work on themselves so their wife sees something that makes her want to return.

– Producers create assets. They create time, cultivate and protect relationships, make money, and invest. Consumers waste other people’s time by venting, sucking other people dry, and wasting their money.

– Producers leverage assets. They play to win. Consumers play to NOT lose. 

Take the Empowered Man 30 Day Challenge:

– Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/challenge?el=podcast

Join the Thrive Program:

-Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

How to Connect with The Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

Today, Mark sits down to unpack a toxic texting conversation between two partners. The texting conversation ranges from defensive, to offensive, to throwing blame, and being weak. Mark coaches us through how to have a healthier, more productive conversation that bridges the gap between the masculine and feminine and leaves both parties feeling accomplished. It’s time to let go of your defensiveness and anger and communicate more effectively.

“Your anger is a secondary emotion because you have something behind that you don’t know how to process outward.”

– Mark Santiago

Text Conversation:

Woman: “I haven’t had time to finish the first chapter, I’ve been on the go. I am going to take it to work with me though.”

Man: “Shocker. You had time, you chose to use it in other ways. It’s always something with you.”

Woman:“Okay —-”

Woman:“I can’t make you happy.”

Man: “Then tell me you’re done so I can have some closure”

Woman: “I’m sorry you can’t handle not being my main priority. Right now I am done because you do nothing but criticize.”

Man: “I didn’t criticize you at all. I just acknowledged that you told me you would do something three different times and you chose not to… I’m not a priority to you at all. You can just forget the “right now” part of your statement.” 

Woman: “You chose to believe that. If you weren’t a priority I wouldn’t waste my time responding.”

Man: “This is going beyond my boundary. If you want to have a conversation, I’ll answer the phone.”

 

In This Episode

– Mark breaks down a toxic text exchange between man and wife.

– Responding out of pure emotions can set the wrong tone for a conversation. As men, we have the power to set the narrative.

– Empowered men lead their wives in conversations and take charge instead of using “You” statements and slinging blame.

– Healthy text conversations involve SLOWING down to stop yourself from responding out of a place of pure emotion. 

– Be actually curious about what is going on in your wife’s life. Are you willing to go to bat for this person?

– Taking ownership is a BIG thing for empowered men. We own our side of the equation so if things go south, it’s not because of us.

– Women and men communicate differently– men are physical and women are emotional. 



Join the Thrive Program:

-Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

Take the Empowered Man 30 Day Challenge:

– Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/challenge?el=podcast

How to Connect with The Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

In today’s episode, Mark talks about steps to stop feeling sorry for yourself after an emotional event. There is a clear distinction between an empowered man, and a little boy parading around as a man, spending his days feeling sorry for himself. Mark demands that empowered men dust themselves off after getting knocked down, and urge themselves to aggressively seek out solutions to their problems. You can’t control what happens to you, but you sure as hell can control how you choose to respond. Are you an empowered man who refuses to give up? Can you truly say that about yourself?

“If you don’t stop feeling sorry for yourself, you’re going to be sorry later on in life.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode

– Once you understand your value as a man and husband, all of the things you go through end up being put to the side. You will own your shit as a man and be okay.

– You are not in the right mindset to be working with us if you can’t recognize that you have to be constantly working on yourself.

– The only way to move forward is to get out of your own head, get out of your own way and invest in yourself and take action.

– Get violent with the problem and find the solution. Rise to the empowerment that is in you and stop settling for things that are beneath you.

– Empowered men do not get knocked to the floor and feel sorry for themselves. They get up and keep on throwing punches and finding solutions.

Join the Thrive Program:

-Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

Take the Empowered Man 30 Day Challenge:

– Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/challenge?el=podcast

How to Connect with The Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

It doesn’t matter how far along you are in the journey of becoming an empowered man, we all have areas we struggle with. Today’s episode is about taking massive action to create momentum for yourself to improve your life. Mark gets real and personal about a time in his own life where NOT taking massive action caused him to miss out on an opportunity to enjoy something he loves. Fear of committing to a process, or taking an action is what a lot of you are struggling with right now. You have to lean into the process and commit to it in order to experience success and personal growth. At the end of the process, you will truly feel like you have won your confidence, freedom, and life back. You already have the tools you need to succeed. It’s already inside you. 

“The solution is inside of you. The solution is already here. The thing you are missing is the massive action it takes to win.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode

– Mark tells personal anecdotes about a time he needed to take MASSIVE ACTION to fully immerse, and enjoy himself in an experience.

– You have EVERYTHING you already need inside of you to change your life and RECLAIM your power.

– Taking MASSIVE action begins a wave of momentum that will PROPEL you becoming an empowered man.

– You have everything you need to create waves of MOMENTUM that can save you, your marriage, and your life to get you OFF the couch and live your life again.

– IF you are in a place where you need to manufacture momentum, reach out to the team so you can have the things you desire

Join the Thrive Program:

-Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

Take the Empowered Man 30 Day Challenge:

– Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/challenge?el=podcast

How to Connect with The Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

Do you feel like you are always searching for someone to join your pity party? Do you feel like you carry shame on your shoulders? You are not alone if you feel victimized by what has happened to you in your life. With three quick changes to your mindset, you can transform from VICTIM to EMPOWERED AF. In today’s episode, Mark leads you through small tweaks to help change your mindset. Three major mindset shifts are all that stands between you and being an empowered man, taking charge of your life and circumstances.

“The most successful guys I deal with have learned they are not victims of their circumstance. ”

– Mark Santiago

 

In This Episode

– So many men experience abuse or traumatization, but the MOST successful men don’t let their experiences DEFINE them.

– If you find yourself viewing everything from the lens of defeat, you are victimizing YOUR life. But the most EMPOWERED and influential men view everything through the lens of what is possible.

– Victims pull everyone into their pity party, forcing them to pick sides and justify their weakness. Empowered men don’t make excuses, they look for a solution.

– The world is not out to get you– stop victimizing yourself. Empowered men SEEK out opportunities to consistently grow without making excuses. They take EXTREME ownership of their decisions despite everything the world throws at them.

Join the Thrive Program:

-Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

Take the Empowered Man 30 Day Challenge:

– Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/challenge?el=podcast

How to Connect with The Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

If you’re a guy whose health has fallen by the wayside, you’re not alone or hopeless. When relationship difficulties strike, many men will either exercise excessively in order to “save” the marriage, or they’ll be paralyzed with grief to the point of overeating. Whichever group you find yourself in, remember this: You deserve and can get healthy for YOU, no one else. In this new episode, Mark sits down with fitness coach, Thomas Miller, about the techniques and mindfulness tricks to take back your health. They cover the CRUCIAL mindset shift for breaking the cycle of excess, the KEY reason why so many new commitments fail despite the man’s “motivation”, and Thomas’s no-nonsense 3-Step plan that uses mindfulness to make changes that can and WILL stick.

“Health and weight loss are more about identity than anything. Whether your identity is an athlete or someone who’s 100 pounds overweight, you eat and exercise to that identity.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– For so many men enduring divorce or other relationship struggles, their own health is one of the first things to go. However, it’s not a death sentence! If you can remember how powerful THIS emotion is during the difficult times, you’ll break the cycle and make PERMANENT change.

– If your tendency is to go into problem-solving mode AS SOON as you notice an issue, hold off. Taking massive action toward a problem may be what you need, but before you commit to anything, you need to realize WHY so many men fall short of their expectations and quit, time after time.

– In the heat of divorce or relationship strife, men will either default to obsessive weight loss or comforting weight gain. The emotions men feel here are no joke, but in order to escape the grip of panic and think long-term again, listen to Thomas’s 3-Step plan to get started.

– Looking for a nutrition plan that you can actually stick to? It includes the do’s and don’ts that most of us already know, but the MAGIC lies in THESE mindfulness techniques that will reprogram your mind to see food as FUEL, not comfort.

Connect with Thomas:

– Website: http://daddydeadlifts.com/

Join the Thrive Program:

-Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

Take the Empowered Man 30 Day Challenge:

– Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/challenge?el=podcast

How to Connect with The Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

No matter how determined you may be to change your life or marriage, it only takes hesitation and a lack of ownership to halt any progress. In the end, YOU are your biggest hindrance to your growth. In this new episode, Mark lays out the BIG difference between men who live in the past versus work toward the future, how to see your future as an investment and not just “buying change”, and what women are looking for in a TRULY empowered leader. Once you’re finally out of your own way, NO one can stop you!

“Once you realize that you can’t escape you, you have to get out of your own way and level up your expectations.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– If you’re serious about making a change and NOT just pussyfooting around it, then remember THIS KEY difference between living in the past versus working for the future.

– The journey to change yourself may be an emotional one, but if you forget WHY you need to put your money where your mouth is, you’ll be left feeling small no matter how big your wallet is.

– Before you write off improving yourself as just “spending money”, keep THIS real world analogy in mind to shift your focus away from spending and TOWARD investing, forever.

– Being a true leader for your wife is more than abs or money. Being confident and sexy is a man who tells her this CRUCIAL thing about their future, no matter the circumstances, and prioritizes ACTION over words.

Join the Thrive Program:

-Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

Take the Empowered Man 30 Day Challenge:

– Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/challenge?el=podcast

How to Connect with The Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

When the temptation to “fix” a situation fires up in you, STOP. Most men are hard-wired to react to problems with a solution, but that “solution” is doomed from the start. In this new episode, Mark lays out the FUNDAMENTAL difference between “fixers” and true leaders, highlighting why KNOWING your problems is MUCH more important than “fixing” them. Mark covers WHY fixing things is such a bad approach, TWO simple words to help you ground yourself in stressful situations, and the REAL reason you want to fix everything and how to anticipate issues BEFORE any damage is done.

“Men, we are good at fixing shit, but your wife is NOT something that needs to be fixed. Leaders are anticipators who anticipate problems and lead from humility, whereas fixers only react to problems out of fear.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– Most men are HARD-wired to be “fixers”, but once you get WHY fixing often does more harm than good, you’ll begin to see TRUE improvement in yourself AND your relationship.

– Let’s be honest: The temptation to “fix” your wife has NOTHING to do with her, and you NEED to understand the KEY reason you react to problems instead of anticipating them.

– If you want to make the switch from fixer to leader, listen to Mark break down his THREE steps to expose your insecurities and lead from a place of strength—it all starts with stopping THIS toxic behavior.

– Before you react out of desperation, remember these TWO simple words, take a breath, and remind yourself that you need to practice THIS if you want to lead from strength.

Join the Thrive Program:

-Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

Take the Empowered Man 30 Day Challenge:

– Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/challenge?el=podcast

How to Connect with The Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/