Empowered AF Podcast

The Empowered AF Podcast welcomes back Billy Neal, head coach of the Thrive Program, to discuss the importance of communication. Since us men are NOT WIRED the same as women, it’s only natural that things get lost in translation and our emotions suffer due to our lack of decent communication. Listen to this episode to learn some tips and tricks for great communication. Explore the REAL reason you struggle with your relationships and how working on yourself internally will have huge effects on how you interact externally.

“I think someone needs to hear that they are VALUED today. You may not feel that or know that, but it’s there.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode

– The biggest challenges that men in this program deal with as it relates to communication

– Why your brain needs to be retrained to slow down, listen, explore your own emotions and be able to ARTICULATE your thoughts out loud

– Most men aren’t willing to do the work – when you have the tools to work, you have no excuse to limit your growth.

– How boundaries are not only your RESPONSIBILITY to set, but essential to creating good habits in your communication

– Why working on yourself in Thrive, Revive or the 30 Day Challenge will rev up the way you ask questions and relate to your surroundings

– “Saving” the relationship, the marriage or WHATEVER it is IS NOT a helpful mindset – do the work and value YOU

Join the Thrive Program:

– Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

Take the Empowered Man 30 Day Challenge:

– Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/challenge?el=podcast

How to Connect with The Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

On this episode of Empowered AF, Mark sits down with head coach of the Empowered Man Thrive Program, Billy Neal, to discuss the ins and outs of the program and how Mark troubleshoots YOUR challenges and baggage once you join the group. Billy and Mark cover the most common mistakes that men make in the Facebook group and how their mindset needs to shift once they begin Thrive. If you are in pain and struggle to get through your specific situation, listen to this episode to learn all about HOW to get yourself past this rut and onto your Thrive Journey.

“We are not a divorce support group, we are a Men’s Empowerment Group. There is no way to move on until you work on yourself.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode

– How to stop constantly obsessing over you wife and reliving your past traumas 24/7 

– Why breathing, diverting attention and other techniques can change the way you handle anxious situations during this hard time

– The first step you need to take after the “event” that lead you to search for the Empowered Man Group

– The TRUTH behind men’s struggles in the marriage and in life

– How the Thrive Program works on ALL MEN, regardless of your relationship status and why COACHING is more than just advice



Join the Thrive Program:

– Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

Take the Empowered Man 30 Day Challenge:

– Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/challenge?el=podcast

How to Connect with The Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

In this second half of Mark’s discussion with Seth Ellsworth, we jump right back into how Seth wouldn’t change anything about his divorce. This is a hard level for most people to understand from the OUTSIDE looking in. In this episode Seth gives you a set of questions to ask yourself to make this concept simplified so that YOU, too, can change the perception of the difficult time you are currently going through with your marriage or divorce, and how you can create a scenario for yourself where you can look back on this time in your life and live WITHOUT shame or regret with how it all went down.

“The growth that came out of my journey was worth it, but all of that comes back to how I respond to her and the situation and not letting it own me”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode

– You can’t blame your wife for being human and wanting to be appreciated in the marriage: YOU need to take responsibility for YOUR participation in missing the signs

– How can you make your situation the best thing that ever happened to you? Ask this question of yourself.

– Seth expresses how he was able to turn the hardest thing ever into a beautiful experience for his children

– Why the hardest choices in life will always lead to the best results

– How to navigate the emotional bank versus the money bank and how to be HONEST with where you stand EMOTIONALLY first and foremost



Connect with Seth Ellsworth:

– The Breakthrough Challenge: https://breakthroughchallenge.com

– Website: https://sethellsworth.com

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/winwithseth

– Twitter: https://twitter.com/sethellsworth?lang=en

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sethellsworth/?hl=en

Join the Thrive Program:

– Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

Take the Empowered Man 30 Day Challenge:

– Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/challenge?el=podcast

How to Connect with The Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

 In the first part of this two part episode, Mark sits down with a guest that not only knows Mark extremely well, but shares a similar perspective that all men on their Empowered Journey can relate to. Seth Ellsworth comes as he is in every situation. Whether that be through providing inspiration for his clients to do the work and challenging themselves in order to grow into a successful life, or simply joining Mark on today’s show for an honest conversation. Seth is the man YOU need to know. Divorce can be one of the most difficult experiences you and your family go through. Learn how Seth found the key to getting through life after divorce and what his most important asset was when tackling his own personal journey to becoming Empowered AF.

“If you come into Seth’s world, your gonna leave changed.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode

– Learn how 8 years and a divorce later, Seth became Empowered to start a business to INSPIRE others who have gone through the same hard times 

– Being “Absolutely Uncommon” is Seth’s Motto, but there is significance in finding a partner in life that knows and respects how to go on this journey of life together

– Why you need to calibrate your life to experience healthy challenges and motivate YOURSELF

– Seth explains how working on HIS shit during his separation made him ready to experience and meet his next partner once he was divorced

– How being 100% FULLY conscious after divorce and heading towards a new relationship is the MOST responsible you can be for your own growth

– Awareness of what YOU need to change in how you FUNCTION is exactly how you create that healthy environment for your partner

– Why being the “nice guy” and the “good man” does not mean your ignorance or delusion in the marriage can go unchecked. You need to be 100% aware of where you stand in your relationship.

Connect with Seth Ellsworth:

– The Breakthrough Challenge: https://breakthroughchallenge.com

– Website: https://sethellsworth.com

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/winwithseth

– Twitter: https://twitter.com/sethellsworth?lang=en

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sethellsworth/?hl=en

Join the Thrive Program:

– Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

Take the Empowered Man 30 Day Challenge:

– Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/challenge?el=podcast

How to Connect with The Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

In today’s episode, Mark sat down with lead coach Andrew to answer some hot topic questions about Empowered AF and his own journey. From his own childhood, to his first marriage ending in divorce, Mark talks about how his lived experience has shaped him as a man and business owner. Mark’s main mission with his business is to make men feel empowered, emotionally connected, and ready to kick ass in every aspect of their lives. Tune in today to hear more about the man behind Empowered AF. 

“The world needs more men who come alive.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode

– The mission of Empowered Man is to create a community of thriving modern men. Men who kick ass in every area of life. 

– Mark gets candid about his own life, owning up to his faults and shortcomings in his never-ending attempt to lead a full, five-dimension life. 

– In the midst of divorce, Mark created the program he wished he had while going through a crisis. His big achievement has been intervening with men BEFORE they get fully into crisis mode. 

– Presence, show up in your energy, make your family a priority, and find balance between your work and family to lead your marriage.

– Mark’s biggest failure was taking too much blame for the faults in his marriage. He talks about wishing he would’ve done the hard work BEFORE shit hit the fan. 

– Most clients fail by not continuing to do the work. It’s easy to come and invest in yourself while you’re in the program. It’s much harder to keep doing the work on your own. 

Join the Thrive Program:

– Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

Take the Empowered Man 30 Day Challenge:

– Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/challenge?el=podcast

How to Connect with The Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

The work you need to do to CHANGE your LIFE and become an Empowered Man never stops. That’s why Mark is using the next three episodes to fill you in on the Top 3 Episodes of Empowered AF. Maybe this is an episode you missed or maybe it’s just filled with the exact information YOU need to hear. The goal of counseling is NOT to save your marriage. The goal is for you to find your manhood and fight for it, no matter what she decides to do.  In this #1 Episode of all time, Mark lays out five key mistakes that are actually harming your children more, crapping on your important boundaries, and keeping you in a state of retreat instead of leadership. 

“If you stop focusing on saving the marriage, you actually have a chance to save it. ”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– How to transform a reaction of defense into a reaction of leadership

– Why being vulnerable and GROWING through what you are GOING through will ultimately lead you to becoming an Empowered Man

– A marriage can only be saved when the man and wife recognize each other’s weaknesses and work on themselves so that they can have a healthy marriage

– What “focusing on you” ACTUALLY means and why boundaries are necessary to achieve success

– How to join Empowered Man and the expectations of how to behave and communicate in the group

Take the Empowered Man 30 Day Challenge:

– Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/challenge?el=podcast

Join the Thrive Program:

-Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

How to Connect with The Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

The work you need to do to CHANGE your LIFE and become an Empowered Man never stops. That’s why Mark is using the next three episodes to fill you in on the Top 3 Episodes of Empowered AF. Maybe this is an episode you missed or maybe it’s just filled with the exact information YOU need to hear. In the #2 top episode, Owning Your Sh*t, Mark lays out the fundamentals of owning your mistakes and becoming a truly Empowered Man. He covers the nature of trust, the power of empathy, and the beauty of fostering a space where you and your partner can be fully vulnerable. You may look strong on the outside, but true strength comes from within and what you bring out in your partner.

“When we own our faults, it’s not just about confession. It’s the idea of what we actually did to that other person.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– Go beyond the confession and take ownership of your actions

– The realities of trust over time and why YOU need to rebuild it with your partner

– Why it’s not always your fault, but why it is ALWAYS your responsibility to own up to the times you DIDN’T show up for your wife

– A primary principle of the Empowered Man

– Make THESE small changes to express your needs and feel satisfied

– How to create a sanctuary for you and your partner’s feelings

Take the Empowered Man 30 Day Challenge:

– Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/challenge?el=podcast

Join the Thrive Program:

-Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

How to Connect with The Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

The work you need to do to CHANGE your LIFE and to become an Empowered Man never stops. That’s why Mark is using the next three episodes to fill you in on the Top 3 Episodes of this podcast. Maybe this is an episode you missed or maybe it’s just filled with the exact information YOU need to hear. In this episode, Mark emphasizes the importance of having a vision, one exercise to help you endure the pain more productively, and how to find and EMBRACE your new self that your children will admire.

“The vision is determined by how far you want to take it.”

 – Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– Why you need to make the decision to MOVE FORWARD

– Trauma affects everyone, but your response to it makes ALL the difference

– What your children look for in a father, especially during divorce

– How to build your own identity, with or without your wife and work on YOU

Take the Empowered Man 30 Day Challenge:

– Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/challenge?el=podcast

Join the Thrive Program:

-Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

How to Connect with The Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

Today’s episode featured a live show part of the Empowered Man 30 Day Challenge. This specific training focuses on producers versus consumers and how men who are producers are empowered AF in their lives, jobs, and marriages. Mark and Joey outline what makes a producer an empowered man and what makes a consumer a weak man. Make sure you listen to this one of a kind, FREE glimpse into the 30 Day Challenge to becoming an empowered producer and take charge of your life. This glimpse into the challenge is just one of the many trainings you can be a part of; don’t hold back.

“Consumers get paralized by their inaction because they are living in the fear of the unknown.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode

– Producers make shit happen! Men who are producers value making things and adding to the world. On the other hand, consumers WAIT for shit to happen.

– Producers manage their time well. The best producers plan their day, week, and even their year. Consumers waste time spinning their wheels because they’re too afraid to fail.

– Empowered men don’t manipulate their wives into reentering the marriage. They work on themselves so their wife sees something that makes her want to return.

– Producers create assets. They create time, cultivate and protect relationships, make money, and invest. Consumers waste other people’s time by venting, sucking other people dry, and wasting their money.

– Producers leverage assets. They play to win. Consumers play to NOT lose. 

Take the Empowered Man 30 Day Challenge:

– Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/challenge?el=podcast

Join the Thrive Program:

-Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

How to Connect with The Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

Today, Mark sits down to unpack a toxic texting conversation between two partners. The texting conversation ranges from defensive, to offensive, to throwing blame, and being weak. Mark coaches us through how to have a healthier, more productive conversation that bridges the gap between the masculine and feminine and leaves both parties feeling accomplished. It’s time to let go of your defensiveness and anger and communicate more effectively.

“Your anger is a secondary emotion because you have something behind that you don’t know how to process outward.”

– Mark Santiago

Text Conversation:

Woman: “I haven’t had time to finish the first chapter, I’ve been on the go. I am going to take it to work with me though.”

Man: “Shocker. You had time, you chose to use it in other ways. It’s always something with you.”

Woman:“Okay —-”

Woman:“I can’t make you happy.”

Man: “Then tell me you’re done so I can have some closure”

Woman: “I’m sorry you can’t handle not being my main priority. Right now I am done because you do nothing but criticize.”

Man: “I didn’t criticize you at all. I just acknowledged that you told me you would do something three different times and you chose not to… I’m not a priority to you at all. You can just forget the “right now” part of your statement.” 

Woman: “You chose to believe that. If you weren’t a priority I wouldn’t waste my time responding.”

Man: “This is going beyond my boundary. If you want to have a conversation, I’ll answer the phone.”

 

In This Episode

– Mark breaks down a toxic text exchange between man and wife.

– Responding out of pure emotions can set the wrong tone for a conversation. As men, we have the power to set the narrative.

– Empowered men lead their wives in conversations and take charge instead of using “You” statements and slinging blame.

– Healthy text conversations involve SLOWING down to stop yourself from responding out of a place of pure emotion. 

– Be actually curious about what is going on in your wife’s life. Are you willing to go to bat for this person?

– Taking ownership is a BIG thing for empowered men. We own our side of the equation so if things go south, it’s not because of us.

– Women and men communicate differently– men are physical and women are emotional. 



Join the Thrive Program:

-Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

Take the Empowered Man 30 Day Challenge:

– Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/challenge?el=podcast

How to Connect with The Empowered Man:

– Call to Book: https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

– Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Watch This: https://youtu.be/8phE5WtaY6U

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

Connect with Mark Santiago:

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/