The first time I heard those words out of my therapists mouth, I couldn’t believe it.
I mean it started to click. It made sense.
I was addicted to the fighting, the dysfunction, the seductive sex…
I was addicted to my wife.
She was my drug of choice and I was hooked!
While traversing on this journey, I realized that my wife and I had created something called a Trauma Bond.
Trauma bonds are what is created between two people who experience emotional abuse in a cycle.
Here’s how it works:
– Everything is fine in your world, until SHE is triggered.
– She uses manipulation and verbal abuse to scold you.
– You respond in defensiveness.
– She fights back.
– Tempers flare.
– Eventually you try to make peace and apologize.
– She forgives you for making her mad and caused her to scream at you (see the blaming there).
– If you say anything like, “you hurt me” or “that was not nice” she will do whatever she can to smooth things over and act like it wasn’t that big of a deal.
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Because of your trauma bond you aren’t able to see the dysfunction and you are quickly lead right back into the drama.
Every time you try to escape your brought back into the fighting.
Emotional abusers are known for “baiting” people back into the trauma.
My ex used to always send me texts meant to bring me back into the Trauma Bond we had created.
Once I started refusing it became easier to refuse.
In our VIP coaching program this is just one of the strategies I teach you as you navigate the waters of being married to an emotionally/verbally abusive woman.
Whether you stay married or you get a divorce, you are more than likely going to have some form of relationship with her. So, why not learn the skills you need to communicate effectively with her.
At the end of the day, we can’t do this all alone. But, so many of you are trying to walk this all alone.
You recently saw my ad about my experience with my ex-wife and my training on what had to happen for me to get my SANITY back!
I don’t want you to be like me and continue to take the sh*t from her because you don’t have the balls to take YOUR power back.
If you’re like I was…
You don’t know who you are.
You don’t know what you value in a wife.
You’ve lost your self-esteem.
And you don’t know what a functional healthy relationship looks like.
If you are tired of living like this…in chaos…
Addicted to your wife…
Then we should chat.
I’ve created a very specific, confidential program for men who are going through exactly what you are going through, right now.
Now, some of you will see this and think, “I should do this…”
But, then you’ll either chicken out or you’ll pretend like everything is fine.
DON’T DO THAT!
You and I have a limited amount of time left on this planet. Don’t waste it being addicted to your wife.
Don’t waste it being afraid of her.
Stop waiting for things to get better.
Many times we are in these situations because we aren’t making the tough decisions. I waited 16 years before I had had enough.
When is enough, enough?
If that time is now, I want you to find a time on our calendar and have a chat with me or one of my advisers to help you…
– Navigate the waters of a dysfunctional/abusive marriage.
– Create a game plan for either staying or ending your marriage.
– Get clarity on WHAT YOU WANT.
Click here to book a time —> https://go.oncehub.com/empoweredman
Thanks,
Mark Santiago
The Empowered Man
PS – Spots are limited throughout the week. If you book a time, please make sure you show up and are ready to get the breakthrough you need on the call to go to the next level.