Author: empoweredman

I decided to create a special, invite only, Facebook group for men whose wives are cheating, say they don’t love you anymore, have moved out, or want a divorce…

This is a safe place where our team post videos and other content to help you get your power back in your life and relationships.

A few group rules:

– This is for MEN only. No women allowed unless they are an administrator/employee of The Empowered Man. If you have a shared account with your wife, you may want to create your own profile or confirm she no longer has access to the profile.

– No judgment. Every man in here is going through something similar. We are all hurting at some level so don’t project or judge other guys.

– Stay focused. Only talk about whats going in your life/relationship as it pertains to becoming empowered. We want to stay way from topics that are polarizing or that have to do with Politics and Religion. If you can’t respect that then you will be gone.

– No MLM, biz opps, or friending someone to sell them something. If you’re not sure, message one of the admins to find out if what you want to do will have you removed from the group.

– Encourage one another. Add value. Share your story so other men can encourage you.

If you can follow those rules, you’ll make a great group member and we would love to have you.

Here’s what you can expect:

– Weekly challenges
– Videos on saving your marriage
– Practical tools and tips to becoming a better man, husband, and father.

If you’re ready to join, here’s the link to the group:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen/

<sub>Here’s where I meet most guys. 

They just found out their wife doesn’t love them anymore, she’s cheating, wants to move out, or has already moved out.

The journey you are on doesn’t just go away. You’re on it now. I decided to lay out the JOURNEY that you are on. Sometimes there’s nothing more comforting than knowing that other people UNDERSTAND you and the journey you are on:

Part 1 – Shock. 

You’ve just found out and this is usually what you feel…</sub>

• _{I’m hurting and I don’t know what to do}
• _{Its her fault.}
• _{I don’t need help}
• _{I just need to vent.}
• _{She doesn’t see my changes}
• _{I don’t know if i can save my marriage}
• _{My marriage might be over.}
• _{I need to start focusing on me.}
• _{Maybe if I fix my issues, she’ll see that and come back to me.}
• _{I need to stop worrying about her.}
• _{I’m going to focus on me now. I don’t know what to focus on, but that’s what I’m going to do.}
• _{I’m exercising, reading books, blogs, buying courses, going to therapy.}

<sub>As you can see in Part 1 of your Journey its very much about her and how she has hurt you. You’re struggling very deeply because it opens up wounds from the past. 

But, what you do now makes all the difference. Will you stay in Phase 1 for days, weeks, months, or years?

Some guys never leave Phase 1 of the journey. Are you that guy?

Phase 2 – Discovery

In this phase, you’ve moved past the initial shock, disappointment, and hurt. And now you’re getting down to business and working on yourself…for real.

This is where guys start reaching out for help.

If you are in this Phase I highly recommend you booking a call with our team so that A) you don’t stay stuck in Phase 2 and B) so you do Phase 3 correctly.</sub>

• _{Its time I get focused. Its time to Up-level with people who have actually experienced what I’ve experience and can go on this journey with me more than a counselor/therapist or even my own friends.}

• _{I need to fix how I communicate, set boundaries, and own my shit. I need to figure out what I want and who I want to be. I got lost in my marriage and its time I remember who I am again.}

<sub>If you’re in Phase 2 I challenge you to reach out to one of our advisors and put you on the path towards Phase 3.

Phase 3 – Empowered

Once you’ve begun Upleveling, this is the next phase of your journey. By leaning into the process and choosing to become Empowered, this is what you can expect to happen.

You are start to realize…</sub>

• _{I am just as much at fault for the destruction of my marriage. I’ve separated the fact that what she has done isn’t my fault, but I take responsibility for what is mine.}

• _{I’ve got my Kingdom back! I feel powerful once again.}

• _{I’m communicating like a leader. I’m direct and listen empathetically when necessary. I focus on using power statements, setting the narrative, and expressing my Big Boy needs.}

• _{I have strong boundaries that fortify my heart from unnecessary pain. I enforce with consequences. I’ve separated my wife from the neutral woman who is now my co-parent.}

• _{I’ve apologized to my wife for the part I played in the destruction in our marriage. I am honoring my commitments. I am showing up every day in a healthy way and I’m responsible for my own needs and desires.}

• _{I’ve created a new plan of action based on my own values, not that of anyone else. I am clear and confident in what I want in a woman to meet my needs. I am also clear in the type of woman I want to be with for the rest of my life and I made a decision as to whether that is my current wife or not.}

• _{I have processed the pain of the failures in our marriage and have opened my eyes to the pain I allowed for myself. My confidence is back and I no longer feel sorry for myself, but take ownership of the pain I both caused and allowed.}

• _{I have grieved the death of my former wife and marriage.}

• _{I am trying new things and reestablishing childhood dreams that make me come alive again. I have a bucket list that I am working on and have designed a new life for me with my wife if she chooses to join me on this adventure.}

<sub>If you’re in Phase 2, you should highly consider getting on a call with one of our advisors. We’ll lay out the plan that you need to move to Phase 3 of your journey and get unstuck.

You ready?

Book your Empowered Man Strategy call here –> https://go.oncehub.com/empoweredman


Thanks,

Mark

The Empowered Man

*****

If you’re ready to talk about how we can help you get your power back, book a time here —> Https://go.oncehub.com/empoweredman</sub>

<sub>The other day I was getting ready for a strategy session with a guy who was interested in our Empowered Man VIP Private Coaching program. 

Prior to getting on EVERY SINGLE call I have a routine.</sub>

• _{I get into a quiet place. Make sure there’s as little noise as possible to distract me.}
• _{I do some breathing exercises.}
• _{I look at the guys application.}
• _{I visualize him and what he has been experiencing the pain his wife has caused him.}
• _{And I lock in for the call.}

<sub>I show up…every day for my guys.

Because every day, I am honored with the opportunity to hear other men’s stories. Stories, they don’t have to share with a soul, but they choose to. They reach out because they are hurting in a ton of pain.

I know that I cannot help every one of them.

I know that we can’t solve every single problem.

But, I also know that we are called to impact thousands, if not millions of men, who are struggling with this pain of losing the woman that they love.

What I often find odd though, is how so many men will book a call with us, fill out an application and either:

A. Miss the call completely.
B. Not bother to really show up emotionally for the call.

I call this the “fix-me” attitude. 

They see the opportunity to talk to someone. But, instead of taking it upon themselves to get ready for the call, they expect me to just wave my little magic wand and make everything go back to normal.

Guys, it don’t work like that.

Because…

How you show up…says everything about you and your priorities.

Heck, I know guys, who when its NFL season (hopefully we’ll see modern day football sometime this year, rather than watching all the highlights from the past), will spend hours getting dressed in their favorite teams outfits, wearing makeup, and sitting outside a stadium 3 hours before it starts.

They know how to show up for a football game…but they can’t SHOW UP for their wives or their children???!!!!

Imma be real here.

Most men don’t give a F*ck about showing up for their wives because emotionally they are like children.

If you watch most men communicate with their wives, its almost like they are talking to their mother. 

They feel like shes scolding them. They feel like shes holding them by the balls.

And that’s because she is! She owns you right now!

You’ve given away your power so you act like a 2 year old sometimes. 

And now that she’s left you, says she doesn’t love you, cheating on you…

Instead of owning up to YOUR side of the equation, you dodge bullets. Some guys head for the hills and others grovel at her feet.

But, some guys own up to their side. 

These are the REAL MEN.

They begin to look at what they can do to become a better man an EMPOWERED MAN.

They realize that regardless of what she does, they can WORK on themselves.

Too many guys have an opportunity that is standing right in front of them…but all they can see is their pain, their tears, and their fears.

Stop making this about YOU. And start making this about how YOU can become the best Empowered Man you can be.

Something I learned while going through all the pain of infidelity is…

Don’t waste your pain.

I can’t stress this enough. While it does NOT feel like a blessing, it really is. Its a huge opportunity for you to learn how to SHOW UP.

But, you’ve gotta decide if you want it.

You’ve gotta decide if you’re willing to get your hands dirty. 

You’ve gotta decide if you’re willing to face the truth about who you’ve been so that you can finally become who you were meant to be!

My team and I can go with you on this journey, but ultimately, you have to do the work. 

Our most successful clients are the ones who realize they have to SHOW UP and they have to do the work!

Look….if you’re ready to do the work, then lets talk.

If not, you can hang out for awhile. But, I can GUAR-ON-TEE you that you will NOT survive this environment if you are NOT willing to do the work.

Because I’m gonna call you out. 

Every day, guys are telling me how their wives have been saying the SAME THING I am…

Crazy, huh?!

The first step to DOING the work…is SHOWING UP!

Whose gonna show up today? How are you gonna show up?

Let’s go!

Mark
The Empowered Man

PS – If you’re ready to SHOW UP and do the work, we should chat. Schedule a time with my team, fill out the app, and we’ll show you what the work looks like and whether we think you are ready to go on that journey. 

Book a time here to start showing up for your wife —> Https://go.oncehub.com/empoweredman</sub>

So, I was talking to my client Dustin (changed his name to protect his privacy). He’s been married for about 7 years with two kids and his wife, last year, decided she was done and moved out.

Dustin was crushed. He didn’t understand!

He worked hard.

He ran a business and was focused on providing for his family. 

Yeah, he knew there was some issues, but he was totally blind-sided by this.

At first, she said it was because she needed her own space. 

But, as well know, many times there’s something beyond that.

Eventually Dustin decided to take matters into his own hands and hire a private investigator.

Lo and behold, the PI gave Dustin the evidence he did NOT want to see.

His wife was cheating on him.

For weeks and months, Dustin struggled with communicating with his wife.

He didn’t know how to set boundaries. She walked all over him. And every time he tried to put his foot down, she would somehow manipulate him.

Dustin wasn’t ready to give up on his wife and his family. He wanted to reconcile. But, he knew this wasn’t working so he decided to do something completely different.

One day while trying to stalk her on Facebook he came across one of my ads. After watching the training on getting your wife back, he decided to hop on a call with me so I could help him with his situation.

Instantly, Dustin connected to the message of the Empowered Man and became a client by the end of our call.

Within the very first week of Dustin becoming a client, his feelings were validated, he had a game plan, and he was no longer “winging” it.

Suddenly, he found himself being a leader, standing firm in his boundaries, and getting his power back.

So many guys that are on this list, in my Facebook group, or that I talk to, have NO PLAN.

They are just winging it based on what “they think” or “their buddy” thinks they should do.

This is dangerous thinking because it leads us down some dangerous paths.

What got you here won’t get you the breakthrough you need. 

And honestly, most of our “buddies” have never experienced what we are going through or they give us BAD advice!

Stop listening to bad advice and get a game plan for getting your power back, taking control of your situation again.

Look…

I work with guys, 1 on 1, in a coaching capacity. I’m not a therapist. That means I help you move forward instead of looking back.

We don’t have time to look back right now. If you want to see a therapist later, fine. But, right now, time is of the essence.

There are skills you must learn.

There are boundaries you must put into play.

And you don’t have time to waste “guessing” at what you should do.

You need a game plan right now!

When you work with me as a client, you’re not getting a bunch of information.

You are getting TRANSFORMATION.

I will quickly take you from being a push-over, with no boundaries, no communication skills, who doesn’t know who he is or what he wants…

To a man who leads with confidence. Who communicates like a leader. 

Who sets boundaries that earn him the respect he deserves.

And starts taking responsibility for his own self to the point that SHE NOTICES.

Look, working with me is NOT for the faint at heart. 

And its NOT cheap. 

If you want to just buy some videos from guys who have NEVER gone through what you are going through or who have the actual experience of being cheated on, by all means, go do that.

BUT…

If you want to experience life-altering transformation, then I’m throwing down the GAUNTLET.

I’m inviting you to APPLY for a call with me and my team. 

Here’s how it works:

1. You find a time on our calendar here. We only take 5-7 QUALIFIED calls per day based on availability. So, if you find a time, make sure you select a time you know that you can make.
2. Fill out the APPLICATION. This is crucial piece because it helps us understand whether we can help you right now or in the future. If we can help you right now, we will take your call. If its the future, we’ll give you some resources and ask you to reschedule at a later date. We have to do this as there are too many men in need of our coaching and we only have so much time to take those calls.
3. SHOW UP for the call. Make sure you that you are emotionally, spiritually, and physically ready for our call. If not, I’ll call you out on it. That means you’re not going on an errand or the drive through. It means, your sitting somewhere you can take notes, and is preferably quiet.

Bro…

Be like Dustin. Raise your hand and get help. It doesn’t make you any less of a man. In fact, in my book, it takes a real man to admit he needs help.

If you are ready to be challenged and transformed into the kind of man your wife would want to come home to, I want to invite you to book a call with our team and lets get you going on that path right now.

Thanks,
Mark Santiago
The Empowered Man

Book your Empowered Man Strategy Call here –> https://empoweredman.co/book

<sub>If you’re new to me and/or new to my coaching methodology, you may not know this about me.

I’m a huge believer in that the way we talk about our situations, our lives, our feelings, has a great affect on how we respond emotionally, and physiologically. 

Oftentimes, when a guy is stung with the words of his wife that she doesn’t love him, or that she’s cheating, or that she wants a divorce, instantly, we go into a defensive posture.

This defensive posture can create a disconnect between her and our own responsibility.

So, guys end up finding other guys and dumping all of these emotions and feelings about how bad their situation is. Nothing wrong with venting, from time to time. But, I will always challenge us to UP our communication skills.

Here’s what that looks like:

#1 – Talk less about her and more about you. When you write your post or question, level up, and tell us how YOU FEEL about what has happened. And then tell us what YOU are doing to take action about this situation.

#2 – Focus your language more on what is possible for you and this situation vs all the negative feelings you have surrounding it. 

By constantly talking about your negative feelings, your drowning in sorrow vs taking action that makes you a leader and a real man. I’m going to challenge you to actually articulate what you feel because REAL MEN COMMUNICATE, they don’t GRUNT!

While you are definitely hurt and you are looking for other guys that understand what you are going through. We will validate your feelings, but I will always challenge you to grow up and TRANSFORM.

Validation of your feelings isn’t enough. 

That’s just step 0. 

Step 1 starts with you owning your own sh*t and moving towards your own personal transformation regardless of what she does.

If you’re in the Facebook group, you will see me challenge guys on this all the time.

(PS – this is NOT meant to shame anyone. All of us, including myself, have experienced immense pain due to the actions of our wives, therefore, we feel justified in our complaining, whining, so i get it.)

Grunt less, communicate more. 

Lets go gents! 

Thanks,</sub>

_{Mark Santiago}

<sub>The Empowered Man

PS – Have you had your call with our team? Ready to get your kingdom back? Book your call here –> https://empoweredman.co/book</sub>