Author: empoweredman

<sub>If you haven’t figured this out yet, Divorce is expensive.Sometimes trolls will bash my ads because they can’t fathom why someone would take back a cheating wife or a wife that says she doesn’t love you anymore.

For some men, they know that saving their marriage is possible and they’re willing to take the hard look in the mirror and take responsibility for their side of things.And while we know that divorce can COST you a lot of money, lets look at what else it can cost you:</sub>

1. _{Less time with your kids. Going from seeing your kids every day to only half-time or every other weekend is a serious cost. While you might like the bachelor life it absolutely sucks not seeing your kids.}
2. _{Loss of love. While she may have hurt you, and did you wrong, are you ready to give up on the love of your life? You sacrificed so much to get to this point. You’ve had kids together, Christmases, family dinners, intimate moments, dates that can never be repeated with anyone. Is it worth giving up on her because she hurt you?}
3. _{Loss of self. While you can lose yourself in a marriage, you can also lose yourself outside of your marriage. When making the big decision towards giving up on her, you must realize that you will lose yourself for a time.}

_{Either way, you look at it, DIVORCE is expensive. It will COST you and it will COST YOU BIG!
And that’s why you must put on your big boy pants and make some tough decisions.}

_{But, don’t make the mistake of trying to do this on your own. None of us can do this alone. We need people, specifically, other men to walk with us on this journey.}

_{That’s what I do. I get in the corner with other men. Together, we get down in the dirt and find the answers and create a path forward for a man who is hurting, confused, distraught, embarrassed, and doesn’t know which way to turn.}

_{We turn men, who feel like boys, into grown men again. When we work with our guys, we help you communicate with power, create boundaries that demand respect, cultivate responsibility that demonstrates leadership, identify your identity so you know who you are, and discover your values so you KNOW WHAT YOU WANT.}

_{Gentlemen, divorce is expensive, not only financially, but emotionally, physically, and spiritually. Whether your wife files for divorce or not, doesn’t matter.}

Wouldn’t it be great if you had a man on your side, rooting for you, keeping you accountable? Wouldn’t it be great if you were investing in yourself and growing as a man, regardless of what your wife does?

_{And wouldn’t it be incredible if you finally developed the skills necessary to attract and keep your wife? We don’t have much time to waste. We’re not promised tomorrow. Don’t delay another minute getting the help you desire.}

When your ready, click on the calendar link below to schedule a time with me or my team.
https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

On this confidential call, we’re going to help you discover your path forward.
And if we think you’re a fit for our program, we will invite you to join so that you can become an Empowered Man.
Our program isn’t cheap. But, its much cheaper than divorce.
Remember divorce is expensive, but that doesn’t mean you have to settle for it.
Get proactive. Get on this call. And lets get you going in the right direction.
Thanks,

Mark Santiago
The Empowered Man

PS – We’ve been super booked up all week so if you see an opening grab it and make sure you fill out the application or we will cancel your call: https://go.oncehub.com/empoweredman

If your’e like most guys, you’ve hit a cross road in your life and marriage.

<sub>Your wife left, shes cheating, or she says she doesn’t love you anymore.

So you’re talking to buddies, parents, uncles, people in FB groups.

And they’re all giving you advice. 

And most likely…BAD ADVICE!

Most men in these situations are looking for advice because they need some sort of validation.

You need someone to tell you what to do because quite frankly you have no idea what to do and know one ever gave you the skills to learn how to respond in these situations.

Look, its not your fault that you don’t know what to do. We aren’t wired to deal with rejection very well.

In fact, most days you’re probably falling apart inside and have no idea how to make it to the next day.

I’ve been there. I’ve hurt like you hurt. I’ve cried like you’ve cried. 

You either GO through what you’re going through or you GROW through what you’re going through.

Getting advice, especially bad advice, is NOT going to help you GROW through this situation with your wife.

You have to step up your game. In fact, you have to setup up your INTERNAL game.

This is where most guys go sideways.

Instead of leaning into the pain, facing the possibility of divorce, they retreat to somewhere safe.

Whether its porn, another woman, the bottle, work, etc.

We retreat because we feel sorry for ourselves and we have no idea how to GROW through this situation.

Guys, the only way you’re going to GROW through this is to stop listening to bad advice and become committed to working on your internal game.

Your internal game is where transformation occurs. Its where new decisions are made from a healthy and strong place. 

This is what I do. 

I don’t help men trick their way into getting back with their wife. I help them grow up and grow a pair. 

I help them fix their internal game so that whether they win their wife back or NOT they’ve become a much better, happier, stronger, and more attractive man.

If you’re ready to become that kind of man, I want to challenge you to have a call with my team. I’ve got to warn you though. We don’t pull punches and we’re not going to allow you to get away with bullshit.

If you’re ready to step up to the challenge and become a better, happier, stronger, and more attractive man to your spouse, then click here to schedule a call with my team:

Schedule your call here –> https://go.oncehub.com/empoweredman

Thanks,
Mark SantiagoThe Empowered Man

PS – We’ve been super booked up all week so if you see an opening grab it and make sure you fill out the application or we will cancel your call: https://go.oncehub.com/empoweredman</sub>

<sub>Both in my personal experience in being married as well as the experience of tons of men I have worked with over the years, there is something we all have in common.

When guys talk about their wife leaving them, cheating on them, or saying they want a divorce…

Most of the time, not all, but most of the time…

They were CLUELESS it was happening.

So, when it happens you feel like you’ve been hit across the face with a 2×4.

Its all of a sudden, out of the blue.

Many of you are hurting. You are in situations that are pretty bad if you’re on this email list.

So, while you’re in quarantine, if your wife is got one foot out the door, cheating on you, or has said she doesn’t love you anymore, I got something for you.

I’m going to give you the top 3 things you need to be thinking about to maintain sanity as well as get your power back while in QUARANTINE!

Thinking thing #1 – Don’t worry about tomorrow, tomorrow will take care of itself. 

The first time my wife told me she wanted out of the marriage all I could think of was being alone, not seeing my kids every day. My mind wandered out to the future that I had NO control over. 

Don’t do that. Don’t waste your time thinking about a future, crying over a future, that you have zero control over.

Instead focus on TODAY. Focus on what you can control today. And that doesn’t mean your wife.

Thinking Thing #2 – Give her SPACE!

If your wife is seriously considering divorce, moving out, cheating, or whatever, the last thing she needs is you all up in her face!

Instead you need to give her space. Let her make her decision. I don’t mean you can’t protest her decision, but you must not continuously bug her and keep talking about “getting back together” if that;s what you want.

Thinking Thing #3 – Focus on the BIG PICTURE

Some guys get really focused on all the little things that she does or doesn’t do. Don’t do this. Please don’t do this. You will have your head spinning in circles wondering if she wants to stay or go.

Some guys do this to keep the hope alive. So, they get obsessed with every little thing she does or doesn’t do that APPEARS like she is coming back to the marriage.

This.will.drive.you.insane!!! Stop it!!

You cannot control her or what she does. So, as best as you can, stop focusing on what she is doing that looks like she is coming back to the marriage.

Most wives don’t just come back to the marriage and then everything goes back to normal. 

It doesn’t work like that. They usually struggle, go back and forth in their mind. And thats because for a woman to leave a marriage it takes a lot of emotional turmoil. They don’t just up and leave. They plan it, think about it, and then make their decision.

So, while you’re stuck in your head right now, thinking about all of this stuff, remember that there are guys out there who are ready to help you get back on track with your marriage.

We have a program for guys like you who are married to a woman who is cheating, said they don’t love you anymore, or who has already left you/asked for a divorce.

If that’s you, I want to encourage you to NOT waste this time you have. Lets work together to help you build a proper foundation and become a man that your wife would want to come back to.

I don’t know what the future holds, but I do know that no matter what, you are responsible for you. When the chips are down, I would much rather my guys, my brothers, be able to say they gave it their all.

So, if you’re ready to get back on track, I want to invite you to a special phone call with myself or Andrew to chat with you about your specific situation and whether we can help you get your marriage back on track.

Click here to book your time –>


Thanks,
Mark Santiago</sub>

_{The Empowered Man}

PS – We don’t have time for excuse-makers<sub>.  If you book a time, please make sure you show up and are ready to get the breakthrough you need on the call to go to the next level.

Get your Empowered Man Breakthrough Session here —> https://go.oncehub.com/empoweredman</sub> 

<sub>Listen up.

Something has come to my attention, that I must address.

Many of you are really struggling with the idea of letting go of your wife and/or making decisions that are HARD.

Nothing about being a man is easy. Being a man is tough. We are leaders. Meant to create and build. Meant to protect our wife and kids.

But, what happens when one day you wake up and realize that your marriage is just a FANTASY?

That the woman you married wasn’t emotionally healthy and you could never possibly have a healthy relationship with her?

A marriage like this is nothing more than living in fantasyland.

This was my reality for 16+ years. 

One day I woke up and realized I was living in fantasyland. 

I believed that if somehow I stayed longer in the marriage, pressed in more, prayed more, was better to her, that she would become “better.”

That our marriage would somehow survive. 

That she would stop abusing me, screaming at me, and making me feel like the worst husband in the world…

That somehow if I gave her one more chance, she would be “ok” and then “we” would be “ok”.

But, I was living in fantasyland. And that fantasy needed to end.

I remember contemplating with my coach about whether I should end the marriage. She said something profound to me that got me thinking about the bigger picture.

She said I was “idealizing” my wife and my marriage. I had lived in fantasyland so long that I was ignoring all the bad in lieu of the few moments of good.

When you are idealizing your wife, you basically see all the good and minimize the bad.

If you’ve ever taken your family to Disneyland you’ll know exactly what I’m talking about. 

When you go to Disney, not only are you literally in Fantasyland, but you spend hundreds if not thousands of dollars on a few hours of entertainment. You stand in long-ass lines for over an hour at a time…for two minutes of happiness

You do all of that for the happiness and enjoyment of your kids. 

But…when you get home and you reflect on the trip, all you remember is their little smiles, the cute pictures, and the mementos you got from the trip. 

You forgot about the long lines and the thousands of dollars you spent. You think to yourself that all of that was worth it.

Gentlemen, many of you are currently living in fantasyland and you somehow think its worth it to stay in an abusive marriage that will never change.

Whether its because you feel an obligation to her, the kids, or whatever…

Your staying because you’re living in FANTASYLAND.

And here’s why…

Because you’re reflecting on the past, forgetting all the bad stuff, and projecting a future fantasy where none of those issues exist.

This is dangerous. For you. And your kids.

I don’t know your exact situation, but if I had to guess, you’re afraid of making the really hard decisions.

I work with guys everyday who struggle with this EXACT issue. They live in fantasyland and they know it.

The difference between them and you is that they are doing something about it.

They’ve chosen to work with our team at the Empowered Man and not just reflect on the past, but to begin creating a future that THEY want. Whether their wife is with them or not, they have determined that they will be happy regardless.

Look…if you’re trapped in fantasyland, I’ve got something for you. Its our VIP mastermind for married business owners in a toxic relationship. Over an 8-10 week period of time, we help you get a grip on reality, not by shaming you, but by encouraging you. 

We work together to create a new FUTURE based on the values you have, a new identity that is bigger than being a husband and father, and help you GET YOUR POWER BACK.

If that sounds intriguing to you, Andrew, my Enrollment Advisor, and I have opened up a few slots over the next few days for guys just like you.

On our call we’ll help you identify:</sub>

• _{What’s stopping you from getting your power back}
• _{Help you decide on your game plan for moving forward}
• _{And give you the clarity you need to never settle again.}

<sub>If that’s you, I want to encourage you to book a confidential call on our calendar here: https://go.oncehub.com/empoweredman

Thanks,
MarkThe Empowered Man

PS – After you book a time, make sure you fill out the application on the next page. This helps us ensure we can actually help you on the call. If you do NOT complete the application, your call will be canceled.

Book your Empowered Man Strategy Session here —> https://go.oncehub.com/empoweredman</sub>

_{One of the biggest issues I see with men either in the midst of divorce or facing a failed marriage…especially one that involved a lot of toxicity.}

_{Is the STORY they are telling themselves. When trauma hits us the first thing we do is search for meaning. Humans are storytellers. There is a constant dialogue of STORY happening in our minds. We use stories to interpret the world around us.}

_{Think about the last time somebody cut you off while driving. You probably attached a MEANING through STORY to what happened. You tell yourself, “That guys a jerk! He’s just in a rush…PROBABLY because he’s late for work!” That story makes you feel better in some ways.}

_{You feel justified in your anger. But, what if that wasn’t the TRUTH??}

_{What if that guy was racing to his dying wife’s bedside? What if he just got the word she was badly injured in a car accident and the doctors didn’t know how much longer she would live?}

_{Does that change the STORY you’re telling yourself about this “jerk”? If so, you’re not alone. Most of us are willing to change the story we tell ourselves with the more “facts” we have.}

_{But, again, these FACTS can distort the TRUTH.}

_{Here’s the real fact. While that guy may be in a rush to get to his wife, he still has a responsibility to drive carefully and not cause another accident. This is the same way we must view our emotionally abusive and toxic wives.}

1. _{She is treating you unjustly. But…there is NEVER an EXCUSE for ABUSE.}
2. _{She has childhood trauma and is ill-equipped to handle the pain in her life. So, empathy is needed. BUT…there is NEVER an EXCUSE for ABUSE.}
3. _{She still needs to be held accountable for how she treats you.}
4. _{AND…you need to be held accountable for HOW you respond to her.}

At the end of the day, <sub>we are all flawed. Whether you’re trying to shoulder ALL of the blame or NONE of the blame, we both have a part to play in any relationship.

You have a choice. You can play the part of VICTIM or the VICTOR. 

Victims enable abusive behavior (not in all situations like children or people with disabilities). They play the whiner, complainer, and no-action-taker. They are the first to tell everybody about how unfair their life is, but the first to shun responsibility.</sub>

<sub>But, VICTORS, disempower abusive behavior with clear boundaries. They don’t complain about the abuse, they take action to end it. They make commitments and they stick to it. They don’t make excuses for what is happening. They find a way to safely end it.

That’s the part you have to play.

Whether your relationship “makes it” or not, you will more than likely always have some relationship with this woman.

And, if thats the case, the part you have to play is that of either a VICTIM, who enables her, or VICTOR who changes the story and sets healthy boundaries.

So, which part are you gonna play…VICTIM or VICTOR??</sub>

_Thanks,
Mark

_{PS – If you’re ready to start playing the part of VICTOR you should book a call with my Enrollment Advisor and he’ll hook you up with the clarity and direction you need to stop playing the VICTIM and start playing the VICTOR.}

_{Click here to book a time —> https://go.oncehub.com/empoweredman}

The first time I heard those words out of my therapists mouth, I couldn’t believe it.

I mean it started to click. It made sense.

I was addicted to the fighting, the dysfunction, the seductive sex…

I was addicted to my wife.

She was my drug of choice and I was hooked!

While traversing on this journey, I realized that my wife and I had created something called a Trauma Bond.

Trauma bonds are what is created between two people who experience emotional abuse in a cycle. 

Here’s how it works:

– Everything is fine in your world, until SHE is triggered.

– She uses manipulation and verbal abuse to scold you.

– You respond in defensiveness.

– She fights back.

– Tempers flare.

– Eventually you try to make peace and apologize.

– She forgives you for making her mad and caused her to scream at you (see the blaming there).

– If you say anything like, “you hurt me” or “that was not nice” she will do whatever she can to smooth things over and act like it wasn’t that big of a deal. 

***

Because of your trauma bond you aren’t able to see the dysfunction and you are quickly lead right back into the drama. 

Every time you try to escape your brought back into the fighting.

Emotional abusers are known for “baiting” people back into the trauma.

My ex used to always send me texts meant to bring me back into the Trauma Bond we had created.

Once I started refusing it became easier to refuse.

In our VIP coaching program this is just one of the strategies I teach you as you navigate the waters of being married to an emotionally/verbally abusive woman.

Whether you stay married or you get a divorce, you are more than likely going to have some form of relationship with her. So, why not learn the skills you need to communicate effectively with her.

At the end of the day, we can’t do this all alone. But, so many of you are trying to walk this all alone.

You recently saw my ad about my experience with my ex-wife and my training on what had to happen for me to get my SANITY back!

I don’t want you to be like me and continue to take the sh*t from her because you don’t have the balls to take YOUR power back.

If you’re like I was…

You don’t know who you are.

You don’t know what you value in a wife.

You’ve lost your self-esteem.

And you don’t know what a functional healthy relationship looks like.

If you are tired of living like this…in chaos…

Addicted to your wife…

Then we should chat. 

I’ve created a very specific, confidential program for men who are going through exactly what you are going through, right now.

Now, some of you will see this and think, “I should do this…”

But, then you’ll either chicken out or you’ll pretend like everything is fine. 

DON’T DO THAT!

You and I have a limited amount of time left on this planet. Don’t waste it being addicted to your wife.

Don’t waste it being afraid of her.

Stop waiting for things to get better.

Many times we are in these situations because we aren’t making the tough decisions. I waited 16 years before I had had enough.

When is enough, enough?

If that time is now, I want you to find a time on our calendar and have a chat with me or one of my advisers to help you…

– Navigate the waters of a dysfunctional/abusive marriage.
– Create a game plan for either staying or ending your marriage.
– Get clarity on WHAT YOU WANT.

Click here to book a time —> https://go.oncehub.com/empoweredman
Thanks,

Mark Santiago

The Empowered Man

PS – Spots are limited throughout the week. If you book a time, please make sure you show up and are ready to get the breakthrough you need on the call to go to the next level.

Listen, I have a really cool opportunity for you and I wanted to just reach out to see who might be interested.

Recently, I was on the phone with a married business owner. He brought up an idea that I found both profound and interesting.

Most men learn from their marriage mistakes by just accepting that their wife is right and that everything is their fault.

So, they create a plan to change themselves.

But, it doesn’t work…like ever!

They try something, fail, adjust accordingly, try something, fail, adjust… etcetera. (learn by trial and error, right?)

This is how most men are built. They trying to do things ON THEIR OWN until they’ve figured it out. And until recently, I thought that was the right way to do it.

Until I found a better way.

What if it was possible to learn from somebody else’s painful (and costly) mistakes?

What if, instead of losing years of a good marriage, or tons of money on a costly divorce, you could invest a small amount of money and take back your power in the marriage?

I’ve personally walked through a 16 year, abusive marriage. And I’ve walked alongside many men who’ve also experienced what I have.

I learned what works, and what doesn’t.

Now I’m looking at putting together a program that will take you through the last 10+ years of my experience at warp-speed – and I really want to know if this is something you could benefit from.

This week, I’m opening up a few spots on my advisor’s calendar to do Empowered Man strategy sessions.

These are custom “breakthrough” consults for married business owners who want to get their balls back at home…

I can’t guarantee how much longer any spots will be open, but I can tell you this:

If you want the next ten years to look different than the last ten years, and you see an opportunity in talking together, book your spot here before they’re gone.

http://go.oncehub.com/empoweredman

-Mark Santiago