Empowered AF Podcast

When emotions are running hot and the stakes are high, should divorce be an option? The decision to file for divorce is never an easy one, so how do you know if it’s the right choice for you? In this new episode, Mark reminds you what you NEED to ask yourself BEFORE you commit to any life-changing decisions. Your situation is unique, so you DESERVE to define your boundaries, commit to bettering yourself, and OWN yourself before you disown a marriage. So, what is your “acceptable”? 

“Before you file for divorce, ask yourself this: What is okay, and what is not okay?”

– Mark Santiago  

In This Episode:

– If you want to avoid falling apart after the affair, ask yourself THESE questions FIRST

– The concrete steps to OWN your s@$%, fully heal, and not bleed on your next relationship

– How to harness the POWER of boundaries to redefine yourself and KNOW if divorce is the best option for you

– Why you are NOT the “worst person ever” if you do seek divorce, but before you commit to anything, know that your decision affects more than just you

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If you’ve created a fantasy about your wife returning to the marriage, let it go. This may sound harsh, but if you get attached to an outcome instead of reality, you will fall into the same patterns of distrust and unhappiness. In this new episode, Mark lays out this simple truth: Your wife MIGHT return to the marriage, but instead of trying to save your marriage, you have to save yourself.

“You cannot base your marriage and future on someone who is not today what they were yesterday.” 

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– Beware of “false positives”

– How to accept who she is TODAY, not yesterday

– To invest in yourself, you can’t “waste your pain”

– Look for these FIVE things to know if she’s ready to return to the marriage  

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When s&!% hits the fan, how will you react? Will you allow your emotions to rule you, or will you make a conscious choice to respond with dignity and respect? We don’t choose what happens in life, but we are fully in control of how we react to it. In this new episode, Mark emphasizes how your interpretation of a situation holds massive weight and lays out the steps to figuring out what you can control, becoming a true leader, and feeling more confident than you ever thought possible.

“I don’t have control over her loving me. What I have control over is the kind of man I become that makes her want to fall back in love with me.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– A simple, but NOT easy, technique to take CONTROL of your emotions

– Why you need to consciously ask yourself THESE questions

– How to always KNOW what you can vs. cannot control

– What it means to be a TRUE, empowered leader that women desire

Join the Thrive Program:

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Take the Empowered Man 30 Day Challenge:

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Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

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Being an “empowered” man means that you can get through anything alone, right? Very wrong. Being empowered means having the humility to admit when you need help, as there’s no shame in acknowledging your faults. Through that humility and willingness to learn, you’ll discover that there’s more to your situation than “divorce or not”. In this new episode, Mark lays out why men are reluctant to engage in groups, a daily self-check-in that keeps you accountable, and how to show your TRULY EMPOWERED self in the face of any adversity.

“What makes you great is when you can identify the weaknesses inside of you and realize that you need to be a bigger man in admitting you need help.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– You should be asking yourself THIS question EVERY single day

– The third option that most men don’t consider

– Why so many men “hang out on the periphery” and feel alone

– What it means to be a TRULY empowered man, no matter your situation

Connect with Mark Santiago:

Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

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– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

Let’s get real for a second: This work sucks sometimes. Spreading yourself wide open emotionally is painful and terrifying, but guess what? It’s necessary to heal. You know what else? You deserve to heal. In this new episode, Mark lays out why you need to greet struggle with open arms to beat your trauma, the support systems that will help you show up consistently, and why being vulnerable with others is the secret to empowerment.

“Vulnerability will heal your masculinity.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– How EMBRACING the pain leads to a happier life

– Why being surface level is a NIGHTMARE for a marriage

– The secrets to showing up, every single day, to create TRUE change

– How to admit your faults, seek help, and ACTUALLY heal from trauma

Join the Thrive Program:

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Take the Empowered Man 30 Day Challenge:

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Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

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– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

When your emotions are set to 11, word vomit comes naturally. But that’s exactly what it is—vomit. If your thoughts are unclear, your words will be too. With no clear direction, you cannot hope to save your marriage or yourself. On this new episode, Mark lays down the foundations of brevity, showing us the power of shutting up and choosing your words carefully. He explains the effect of pauses, the keys to being a leader in conversation, and who you ACTUALLY need to be in order to be happy.

“Brevity is leadership and makes you a safe space for her.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– The steps to establishing the narrative in any situation

– Why you DO NOT need your wife to be happy or a leader

– How to demand attention with pauses

– Why your inner scared child comes out in the face of divorce

– What women ACTUALLY look for in a man

Join the Thrive Program:

-Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

Take the Empowered Man 30 Day Challenge:

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Connect with Mark Santiago:

Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

Let’s be honest: The truth is scary! Looking at your TRUE self, every good and bad part, is uncomfortable as hell, so most guys don’t do it. Here’s the rub: That’s one of THE reasons a marriage falls apart. In this new episode, Mark shows us how miscommunication in marriage begins with miscommunication with yourself. Ultimately, becoming an empowered man involves staring at your vulnerable self in the face, recognizing every single fault, and vowing to always be honest with yourself. Once you do that, you can be honest with someone else. Period.

“If you’re lying to yourself, you’re going to lie to your wife.”

-Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– Why EVERYONE lies to themselves

– If you use these TWO S-words to describe yourself, you’ve already lost

– The CRUCIAL parts of a happy life and marriage

– How men can define masculinity and leadership on healthy, empowered terms

Join the Thrive Program:

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Take the Empowered Man 30 Day Challenge:

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Connect with Mark Santiago:

Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

– Youtube: https://youtu.be/78DD6laz-3s

The goal of counseling is NOT to save your marriage. I repeat, saving your marriage is not the goal. The goal is for you to find your manhood and fight for it, no matter what she decides to do. Too many men are willing to sacrifice their identity to keep the marriage afloat, whether for the wife, the kids, or their pride. In this episode, Mark lays out five key mistakes that are actually harming your children more, crapping on your important boundaries, and keeping you in a state of retreat instead of leadership.

“Be a leader, not a retreater.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– What to do when your wife wants you out

– How to leverage your pain and become a leader, not a retreater

– The relationship between divorce and your children

– What “focusing on you” ACTUALLY means

– Take these concrete steps to NEVER feel like a victim again

Join the Thrive Program:

-Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

Take the Empowered Man 30 Day Challenge:

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Connect with Mark Santiago:

 

 

Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

 

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

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– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

– Youtube: https://youtu.be/PyDVSjkZV_g

People vent because they want to release pressure and feel understood by others. This sounds innocent on the surface, but what if it’s actually harmful in the long run? If someone feels the tension of a problem, venting is the easy way to feel better, but it doesn’t resolve the issue. In fact, venting makes the person less likely to tackle the problem at all! In this new episode, Mark explains the many kinds of tension and men’s responses to them, as well as simple analogies that explain how to find your true self. At the end of the day, it’s about owning your faults, standing up in the face of adversity, and channelling the pressures of life to create your own destiny.

“Harness the pressure by getting laser focused on your own growth.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– The ways venting hurts you

– Why pressure can be helpful or harmful

– How to bring out the true essence of who you are

– Why you need to play the long game to find success 

– Three foundational steps to becoming a truly empowered man

Join the Thrive Program:

-Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

Take the Empowered Man 30 Day Challenge:

–Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/challenge?el=podcast

Connect with Mark Santiago:

  

Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

 

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/ 

-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCeJl84ujGFT-ZrhOWwtNwsw

If you think the simple “I’m sorry, I messed up” is enough for an apology, you need to listen to this episode. Spoiler alert: It’s not. In this new episode of Empowered AF, Mark lays out the fundamentals of owning your mistakes and becoming a truly Empowered Man. He covers the nature of trust, the power of empathy, and the beauty of fostering a space where you and your partner can be fully vulnerable. You may look strong on the outside, but true strength comes from within and what you bring out in your partner.

“The only way to have a forward-moving relationship with this person is for them to feel heard and understood in our messing up.”

– Mark Santiago

In This Episode:

– How to take responsibility beyond a confession

– What you NEED to know about trust

– The importance of building an unshakeable emotional connection

– A primary principle of the Empowered Man

– Make THESE small changes to express your needs and feel satisfied

– How to create a sanctuary for your and your partner’s feelings

Join the Thrive Program:

-Website: https://training.empoweredman.co/application/

Take the Empowered Man 30 Day Challenge:

–Website: https://www.empoweredman.co/challenge?el=podcast

Connect with Mark Santiago:

Get In The Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen

– Website: https://empoweredman.co/

– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.santiago.35977

– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwsantiago/

– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-santiago-854a68a/

-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCeJl84ujGFT-ZrhOWwtNwsw