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“I Feel” Statements Vs. Accusatory Statements

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In this episode, Mark and Joey discuss the impact of accusatory statements on relationships, addressing the roots of those behaviors, and the cost of holding onto those patterns. They also explore the implications on one’s identity, family dynamics, and the necessity of transforming those behaviors for personal growth and healthier relationships.

Episode Summary:

Weak statements in communication. 0:03
Host Mark Santiago introduces the next stage of his podcast, “Empowered AF 2.0,” focusing on healthy communication and personal growth.
Joey shares experiences of rejection and tantrums, encouraging honesty and maturity.
Dealing with rejection and self-reflection. 3:43
Feeling rejected during intimacy, leading to self-reflection on the stories they tell themselves.
Mark acknowledges the emotions that come with rejection and encourages listeners to explore their own stories and emotions.
Joey reflects on past experiences of feeling rejected and silencing their inner critic to question if they view deep connection only through intimacy.
Joey considers the possibility that rejection may lead to self-reflection and growth, rather than assuming the worst about themselves.
The impact of ego and accusations in relationships. 8:39
The importance of understanding and connecting with yourself before pursuing a healthy relationship with others.
Mark encourages listeners to examine their own emotions and actions in relationships, rather than blaming or accusing others.
Neil shares how his wife’s infidelity has cost him everything – partner, self-worth, and time with his kids.
Personal growth and transformation after a divorce. 13:39
Neil struggles with defining a relationship with themselves before bringing it to the table, citing family problems and ownership of personal issues as major obstacles.
Neil struggles with forgiveness and detaching from the outcome of a difficult situation, and fears becoming someone new.
Neil identifies a lack of true ownership and clarity on the fact that the relationship has ended as the root cause of his struggles.
Personal growth and identity shift. 18:55
Mark emphasizes the importance of humility in personal growth, acknowledging that it takes humility to unlock growth and overcome ego.
Mark encourages listeners to stop making excuses and take ownership of their lives, recognizing that real men stop making excuses and bear their crosses.
Neil is struggling with self-deception and lying to himself, and recognizes the need to shift his identity to a higher standard.
Mark is taking action by setting new standards for himself and seeking help from personal trainers to hold himself accountable.
Communication and emotional expression. 23:28
Omar shares that believing the story of being pushed away is costing him everything.
Omar struggles with reacting impulsively and emotionally, impacting his relationships with his children.
Personal growth and healing. 27:27
Omar seeks transformation to benefit themselves and his children, potentially improving his marriage.
Omar has been working on making amends with people from his past and reconnecting with them, but recognizes that this hasn’t fully addressed his need for change.
Omar has also been seeking advice from other men who are married and have gone through similar situations, in an effort to find what works for them.
Personal growth and development. 31:36
Mark says, “You have to clear the road so that you can smoothly get through.”
Mark says, “You have to clean up the sewage in a streamlined way to get where you want to go.”
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Client Journey: Killing Your Ego With Sam Davis

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In this episode, Mark is joined by Sam Davis and they discuss Sam’s transformative journey post-divorce. From dissecting his ego’s role in the marriage to confronting his past behavior, they unearth the raw emotions and pivotal realizations. Sam’s heartfelt letter to his ego becomes a beacon of hope for self-acceptance and growth. His commitment to being a better father and breaking generational patterns shines through, offering a powerful lesson in personal evolution and parental guidance.

Episode Summary:

Marriage, communication, and control. 0:03
Host Mark Santiago introduces the next stage of his podcast, Empowered AF 2.0, focusing on healthy communication and lifestyle for men.
Sam describes how his business travel and desire for control led to the end of his marriage, causing his wife to feel lonely and unhappy.
Sam reflects on how his controlling behavior was a hindrance to his relationship, rather than a help, and how he wishes he could have seen his wife’s perspective earlier.
Personal growth and self-awareness in a post-divorce context. 4:20
Sam recognizes and takes ownership of his role in failing marriage after joining empowerment group.
Sam realized he was raised with toxic masculinity and was taught to suppress emotions, leading to a desire to get his ex-wife back through the program.
Sam’s initial motivation for joining the program was to change himself in hopes of getting his ex-wife back, but he eventually realized the importance of self-improvement and becoming a better person.
Sam realized the importance of living in the moment and prioritizing his daughters, leading to increased happiness and fulfillment.
Sam’s shift in focus allowed him to put his daughters first and experience the rewards of doing so.
Fatherhood, marriage, and emotional intelligence. 11:48
Sam reflects on missed opportunities with children, now prioritizing presence in their lives.
Sam shares how they’ve learned to live in the present and enjoy his family, rather than focusing on the future and saving money.
Mark appreciates the progress Sam has made in his communication and emotional intelligence, and notes that it’s opened his mind up to new realizations.
Ego and marriage after a failed relationship. 15:33
Ego and wounds played a significant role in the Sam’s failed marriage and subsequent decision-making.
Sam admits to being an “embarrassing dick” to his partner during a difficult moment, revealing his ego’s defensive mechanisms.
Sam reflects on his divorce and the idea that love is a fleeting emotion that can change over time, requiring work and commitment to maintain a successful marriage.
Sam acknowledges that letting go of a loved one can be difficult, but it’s sometimes necessary for personal growth and happiness.
Moving on from a past relationship. 23:46
Sam reflects on his relationship with their ex-wife, realizing he was okay without her and finding happiness with his kids.
Sam acknowledges his feelings of hurt and betrayal, but also expresses hope for the future and the need to move on without his ex-wife’s acceptance.
Sam has been writing letters to his ex-wife, allowing himself to feel and process his emotions without needing her approval, and has started dating again.
Empowering men to overcome personal issues and improve relationships. 28:45
Sam shares his journey of overcoming personal issues to become a better father and husband, hoping to break the pattern of divorce in his family.
Sam’s goal is for his children to break the trend of divorce and have healthier relationships in the future.
Sam emphasizes the importance of teaching girls respect and how to be a good wife, while also respecting themselves and being happy.
Mark appreciates the openness of the guest and the value of his work in empowering men.

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Taking Responsibility

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In this episode, Joey discusses the essence of taking responsibility in relationships. He dissects feeling sorry, guilt, shame, and blame in a cycle, emphasizing the shift towards responsive responsibility. He engages listeners in self-reflection, encouraging accountability, and offering tools for personal growth. The episode ends with an opportunity to explore further through a seven-day trial for self-improvement tools and live coaching sessions.

Episode Summary:

Taking responsibility in relationships. 0:03
Mark Santiago discusses taking responsibility and guilt in relationships.
Speakers share experiences of guilt, shame, and blame in a group setting.
Responsibility leads to freedom, while apologies lead to guilt and shame.
Taking responsibility in marriage. 6:19
Freedom leads to clarity, which leads to growth.
Joey emphasizes the importance of taking responsibility in a marriage, rather than blaming your partner.
Taking responsibility in marriage and moving on. 11:57
Taking responsibility for not listening empathetically in a Thrive exercise.
Being in a long-term unhappy marriage and feeling trapped, but ultimately finding freedom and happiness after a spouse left.
Marcelino reflects on their past choices and realizes they were willing to settle for an unhappy marriage for the sake of their children, but now sees the benefit of being single again and taking responsibility for their own life.
Taking responsibility and setting boundaries in relationships. 17:23
Neil shares concerns about giving leadership, feeling it can make one appear weak or immature.
Setting boundaries with an ex-wife after years of disrespect, cutting off communication.
Joey emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries and finding freedom and peace in relationships.
Personal growth and empowerment. 23:47
Joey emphasizes the importance of vision and clarity in personal growth, encouraging viewers to take action if they’re feeling stuck or unfulfilled.
Joey offers a free $7 tune-up for those ready to enhance their kingdom and step into their vision, with the option to purchase more comprehensive programs for those who want a deeper transformation.
Joey shares personal insecurities about penis size, finances, and marriage.
The program offers weekly live and group trainings with empowered man coaches, a private community, and bonus content.
Joey offers a $7, 7-day trial for a call with no commitment or contract, emphasizing the importance of taking responsibility for one’s life.
Thanks for joining the podcast and encourages them to visit previous episodes for more insights on being an empowered man.

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Lies Vs. Truths In Divorce

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In this episode, Mark and Joey dive deep into the lies men often tell themselves, especially in moments of friction and crisis. They discuss the societal pressure and social status associated with marriage and divorce within certain communities. They emphasize the importance of not using your children as emotional shields and how showing up for them is crucial. They also share personal experiences and insights on building healthier relationships with your kids post-divorce. They also challenge you to confront your own lies and uncover the truth, providing valuable guidance on how to lead yourself and your children effectively.

Episode Summary:

Lies men tell themselves about marriage and relationships. 0:03
Mark Santiago explores the lies men tell themselves about marriage and failure.
Staying in an unhappy marriage for the sake of social status and saving face, rather than prioritizing his own happiness.
Mark’s coach challenges this mindset by pointing out that being single does not define a person’s worth or masculinity, and that prioritizing one’s own happiness is essential for personal growth and fulfillment.
Using children as shields in divorce and moving forward. 5:04
Mark credits himself with raising kids better after divorce, despite ex’s mental health struggles.
Mark advises men to be honest about their feelings and stop hiding behind their children in their relationships.
Parenting and personal growth after divorce. 8:19
Mark reflects on his divorce journey and how he prioritized their children’s well-being by leveling up and showing up for themselves.
Mark credits coaching and community support in developing the Empowered Man program, which addresses missing elements of masculinity and community in traditional coaching.
Mark emphasizes the importance of showing up for his children, even when he’s struggling personally.
Father-daughter dynamics and emotional manipulation. 13:06
Mark shares his experience of manipulating their daughter emotionally, recognizing the unhealthy dynamic and seeking forgiveness.
Mark shares how he prioritizes his children’s needs and expresses gratitude for the intentionality in building a relationship with his oldest daughter.
Mark discusses their upcoming training, “The Five Dimensional Man,” which focuses on balancing various aspects of life, including parenting, marriage, and personal health.
Personal growth and transformation. 17:36
Mark challenges listeners to challenge themselves on their goals and take action for progress.
Robert Frost suggests overcoming analysis paralysis by engaging in physical activities to feel emotions and release tension.
Mark encourages listeners to visit empoweredman.co/group for more content and to connect with other empowered men.

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Client Journey: How To Shift The Narrative Of Your Life With Ray Muscat

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In this episode, Mark is joined by Ray Muscat and they discuss Ray’s transformative journey in California. Ray, a typical blue-collar worker with a chaotic life, reflects on his past behavior and how he was trapped in a cycle of stress and neglecting his own needs. However, Ray’s story takes a turn when he recognizes the need for self-care and self-love, leading to a powerful transformation. He shares how the program, Empowered Man, changed his perspective on life, relationships, and gratitude.

Episode Summary:

Personal growth and self-improvement. 0:03
Ray Muscat shares his personal journey of self-transformation and authenticity.
Ray describes his pre-transformation life as chaotic and stressful, with a long commute and little time for self-care or personal passions.
Ray felt completely exhausted and lost his sense of self, with hobbies and passions dying out and causing depression.
Neglecting relationships due to prioritizing work. 4:34
Ray’s absence due to pursuit of money and material items led to devastation of his relationship with his wife.
Ray acknowledges being transactional in his relationship, not being intentional or present, and regrets not having hard conversations.
Recognizing the pattern of not accepting yourself or your partner, leading to a toxic dynamic.
Personal growth and transformation. 8:46
Ray recognized the need for change when he realized he wasn’t putting in effort to improve his life and was expecting a quick fix.
Fear was the catalyst to take action and make changes in life.
Ray struggled with fear and paralysis in his relationship, feeling stuck between making changes and lacking the courage to act.
Ray’s conversation with the program facilitator helped him see the importance of transforming for himself, rather than just trying to change for his partner.
Personal growth and relationship improvements. 14:10
Ray reflects on his journey with Thrive, mentioning a major breakthrough in recognizing the importance of self-care and prioritizing their own emotions.
Ray realized he was not showing up for his children as he thought, and was controlling and disrespectful towards them.
Ray is now guiding his children with questions to help them find their own answers and show up differently in their relationships.
Self-care and personal growth for men. 19:17
Prioritizing self-care by dating yourself, enjoying food, and practicing meditation.
Ray finds joy in simple tasks like sitting in a park, feeling the sun on his skin, and connecting with nature.
Ray reflects on his transformation and the importance of joy and financial stability in his life.
Feeling shame for neglecting your family while chasing money.
Personal growth and empowerment. 24:37
Ray emphasizes the importance of gratitude and being thankful for what you have, as it can unlock potential for growth and happiness.
Ray shares his personal experience of going from a place of anxiety and uncertainty to a place of positivity and growth through embracing vulnerability and taking action.
Ray shares his personal journey of overcoming adversity and finding support through Empowered AF 2.0, a community of men who have been through similar experiences.
Ray expresses gratitude for the support he has received from other men in the group and looks forward to meeting them in person at future events.

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Weak Statements Vs. Power Statements

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In this episode, Mark and Joey discuss weak statements and the impact of poor communication in relationships. They emphasize the importance of slowing down, listening, and understanding your own emotions. They offer practical tools for improving communication and fostering emotional connection within relationships. Jerry shares his personal experience and takes the opportunity to express his feelings and self-reflection. The episode delves into the complexities of relationships, the consequences of not prioritizing one’s partner, and the need for self-awareness and transformation.

Episode Summary:

Toxic statements and their impact on relationships. 0:03
Mark Santiago introduces the topic of weak statements and shares personal experiences with them.
He invites listeners to share their experiences and encourages them to use the “number one” in the chat if they’ve been in a similar situation.
Defensiveness in relationships and its impact. 2:42
Joey discusses the dangers of “weak statements” in communication, which are accusatory and defensive responses that avoid taking ownership of one’s actions.
Mark provides examples of weak statements, such as “You always make me feel insecure” or “You never take responsibility,” and encourages listeners to be more mindful of their own emotions and communication style.
Mark Speaker reflects on their childhood experiences of feeling undefended and now defending themselves in relationships, realizing the toxic ecosystem they’ve created.
Joey recognizes the defensiveness and stonewalling in their own behavior, likening it to one of the four horsemen of Dr. John Gottman, indicating the relationship’s doomsday.
Emotional regulation and empathy in relationships. 8:28
Participants share emotions of anxiety, sadness, anger, and feeling unheard, revealing insecurities about self-awareness and identity.
The inability to sit with one’s own emotions and feelings leads to pushback and resistance in relationships.
The lack of emotional regulation in children can be compared to a “terror” or “gremlin” when they are hungry or upset.
Emotional intelligence and communication in relationships. 12:18
Mark says that not dealing with internal emotions and pain can lead to coping mechanisms like blaming others, which can harm relationships and even emotionally abuse children.
Mark shares their personal experience of being emotionally abused by their father and how it has impacted their life, highlighting the importance of self-reflection and doing the “hard work” to become empowered.
Improving communication in marriage by slowing down and actively listening to partner.
Improving communication in relationships. 16:47
Joey emphasizes the importance of slowing down and truly hearing one’s partner, rather than jumping to conclusions or validating lies.
Using the “what I hear you saying” technique to process and understand one’s partner’s perspective, even in toxic situations.
The importance of active listening in relationships, emphasizing the need to acknowledge and understand one’s emotions.
Mark compares men’s and women’s brains, suggesting that men are more logical while women are more emotionally expressive, and both need to slow down and listen to each other.
Personal growth and self-awareness. 22:14
Mark emphasizes the importance of personal growth and transformation through self-reflection and challenging oneself.
The limitations of relying solely on knowledge and information, and the need for direct experience and interaction with others to truly understand oneself and others.
Joey shares how Jerry feels hurt due to someone living with someone else, and can’t go home, which makes him feel mad.
Mark provides live coaching to Jerry on how to articulate his emotions and feelings.
Personal responsibility and emotional expression after infidelity. 27:37
Jerry reflects on neglecting wife, leading to affair and sadness.
The importance of listening and asking questions in relationships, rather than just speaking.
Jerry reflects on their own tendency to speak before thinking, and how this can lead to hurting others.
Empowering men in relationships and life. 32:05
Joey emphasizes importance of understanding one’s own emotions before communicating with partner.
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Client Journey: Living A Life Of Authenticity With Josh Marlowe

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In this episode, Mark is joined by Josh Marlowe and they discuss Josh’s journey of personal transformation. They explore the challenges men face, such as societal expectations and the fear of vulnerability. Josh reflects on his past marriage, his journey to self-discovery, and how he learned to own his shortcomings. He emphasizes the importance of self-love and self-care for men and shares how he found a supportive brotherhood.

Episode Summary:

Personal growth and healing after divorce. 0:03
Josh shares his story of transitioning from nervous to empowered in a Facebook group.
Josh reflects on his marriage and divorce, seeking therapy and self-discovery.
Personal growth and emotional intelligence. 4:03
Struggling with self-blame and pride, realizing they were the common denominator in past relationships.
Josh encourages the listener to face themselves in the mirror and work on personal growth.
Growing up in a household where emotions were suppressed, leading to low self-esteem and difficulty forming authentic relationships.
Confronting and overcoming these issues through therapy and self-reflection, allowing them to live their authentic life and form healthier relationships.
Healing and personal growth for men. 10:05
Dealing with inner pain and struggles through external successes.
Josh found personal growth and happiness through self-awareness and self-improvement.
Josh found healing insights and new perspective on father wound through Empowered Man event.
Healing, growth, and self-love after divorce. 16:01
Josh shares their experience of divorce and how it has affected their life, including the challenges of co-parenting with their ex-partner.
Mark asks questions and provides support, highlighting the importance of communication and healing in the divorce process.
Josh is on a journey of self-discovery and empowerment after going through a divorce, focusing on internal peace and happiness.
Josh acknowledges the cultural shift in men prioritizing self-care and personal growth, highlighting Speaker 1’s commitment to investing in themselves.
Personal growth and empowerment for men. 22:39
Josh shares their personal transformation journey through the program, emphasizing the importance of diving deep and doing the work for internal growth.
Mark encourages listeners who are on the fence to join the program, emphasizing the focus on becoming an empowered man and rising above disempowerment.
Mark shares their personal journey of healing and growth, encouraging others to do the same.
Josh encourages men to find a way to better themselves, despite excuses and obstacles.

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The Fine Line Between Boundaries And Control

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In this episode, Joey discusses he difference between boundaries, control, and manipulation. He guides you through creating effective boundaries and provides insights into enforcing logical consequences when boundaries are crossed. Joey’s gives practical advice and real-life examples that can transform your interactions with others and he empowers you to take charge of your relationships and emotional well-being.

Episode Summary:

Setting and maintaining healthy boundaries. 0:03
Mark Santiago discusses Empowered AF 2.0, healthy communication, and boundaries.
Joey discusses challenges in setting and maintaining boundaries, seeking clarity and support from viewers.
Identifying emotional needs and boundaries in relationships. 3:34
Joey discusses the “Four Horsemen of Relationships” and their impact on emotional health.
Joey emphasizes the importance of identifying and articulating individual needs and rights in relationships.
Joey emphasizes individuals’ rights to emotions, opinions, and personal space.
Setting boundaries and validating emotions. 9:48
Joey shares personal needs, including validation, self-love, and healthy relationships.
The speaker teaches a formula for setting boundaries, emphasizing the importance of emotional security in relationships.
Joey teaches listeners how to set boundaries and enforce consequences in relationships.
Boundaries, manipulation, and consequences in relationships. 16:46
Joey defines boundaries and manipulation/control, providing examples to illustrate the differences.
The speaker shares a story of a client, John, who manipulatively restricts his wife’s access to the kids on Saturdays, revealing his own insecurity.
Boundaries are for stating how you wish to be treated, while consequences are for enforcing those boundaries.
Setting boundaries and consequences in relationships. 21:52
Joey upholds consequences for disrespectful messages to maintain boundaries.
Joey emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries and consequences in relationships.
The speaker emphasizes their care for the listener and sets boundaries, advocating for no contact or block for 2-3 days to facilitate an apology.
Setting boundaries and improving mental health. 29:37
Man instructs wife to go no contact for two days when yelled at or hit, citing safety concerns.
The speaker emphasizes the importance of reciprocity and giving value to clients, while also sharing personal anecdotes and humor.
Joey encourages viewers to overcome feelings of uncertainty and take action to improve their lives.
Personal growth and empowerment for men. 36:28
Joey offers a free support call to help individuals address their current situation and create a plan for improvement.
The speaker emphasizes the importance of taking action and booking a call to receive help, as they can only assist those who want to help themselves.
Eduardo’s wife moved out without warning, and he’s struggling to set boundaries and communicate with her.
Mark encourages men to take action and become the empowered version of themselves.

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Live Q&A With Mark

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In this episode, Mark changes the format to a Q&A style, inviting listeners to ask questions and engage in a coaching environment. He emphasizes the importance of setting healthy boundaries in relationships, focusing on self-protection rather than trying to control others. Mark discusses various aspects of dealing with marital challenges, including co-parenting under the same roof, navigating open relationships, and coping with the pain of infidelity. He encourages listeners to lean into their emotions, grieve, and communicate openly with their partners as values evolve in a marriage.

Episode Summary:

Empowerment and coaching for men. 0:03
Mark Santiago welcomes listeners to Empowered AF 2.0 and invites them to ask questions on various topics related to personal growth and self-improvement.
Mark Santiago plans to answer questions from listeners live on the call and provide coaching, making it a fun and interactive experience for those participating.
Setting boundaries in a marriage after separation. 2:36
Michael emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries for oneself, rather than using them to control others.
He advises against weaponizing boundaries and instead focuses on creating mutual respect and submission in a marriage.
Mark: “If she doesn’t want to be with you, she doesn’t want to be with you. Anything you do to try to force her back is manipulation.”
Mark: “Boundaries are about what is okay for you, not what is okay for her. Share how behavior makes you feel, but don’t control it.”
Mark: “If she’s using pre menopause as a reason to be mean, it’s not okay for her to talk to you that way. Communicate and understand her pain, but set boundaries.”
Communication and vulnerability in relationships. 8:16
Mark encourages men to open up and communicate with vulnerability, especially in their relationships.
The speaker suggests creating a “Mr. Rogers identity” for men who work in difficult jobs and need to switch to a softer persona when they come home.
Co-parenting under the same roof after separation. 10:30
Mark discusses struggling with co-parenting under the same roof after separation, with financial constraints and toxic dynamics causing tension.
Boundaries are key in this situation, with the speaker communicating their limits and feelings to their ex-partner, while also addressing their own guilt and emotions.
The speaker describes how they and their ex-partner created a co-parenting schedule to live separately in the same house, with designated days for each person to have the kids and maintain their own space.
The speaker plans to have dinner separately and not be involved in family activities on their designated days to maintain their own space and avoid conflicts with their ex-partner.
Personal growth and accountability in marriage. 14:44
Mark: Encourages the person to focus on their own growth and development, rather than holding their ex-wife accountable.
Mark: Emphasizes that it’s not the person’s responsibility to hold their ex-wife accountable, as she has her own agency and choices.
Mark: Suggests that the person should accept the situation and move forward, rather than dwelling on what could have been.
Unknown Speaker: “Your wife thinks the same about you, and that’s the truth.”
Unknown Speaker: “Marriage changes when values change, and communication is key to avoiding foxes that spoil the vine.”
Grief and healing through emotional expression. 20:41
Unknown Speaker emphasizes the importance of allowing emotions to be real and expressing them in a healthy way to heal from grief.
The speaker shares their personal experience with journaling and screaming in a hot shower to cope with grief, encouraging others to find their own methods.
The speaker stresses the importance of acknowledging and validating one’s pain, as many men are socialized to suppress their emotions and not make their pain a priority.
Navigating marital issues and personal growth. 23:49
Mark discusses the complexity of grieving and healing after infidelity, emphasizing the need to acknowledge and process both the warrior and tender sides of oneself.
The speaker recommends journaling as a way to express and understand the feelings, and to shift the focus from personal blame to empathy for the partner’s pain.
Unknown Speaker suggests having regular discussions with spouse to evaluate values and goals, even if still married (25:58)
Once separation occurs, family dynamics must shift, allowing each person their own space (30:00)
Co-parenting after divorce with boundaries. 28:04
The speaker’s ex-wife left the family, and the speaker became more intentional about spending time with their kids.
The speaker set boundaries with their ex-wife to prioritize their kids and create a new family dynamic.
The speaker’s kids have a unique memory of a specific season with their parents before their mom left, and they now have a newly married couple and a new family dynamic.
Mark encourages listeners to prioritize family dynamics despite divorce.

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Client Journey: How To Communicate Like A Boss With William Woody

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In this episode, Mark is joined by William and they discuss the crucial topic of effective communication and personal growth. William shares his transformative journey from realizing his communication shortcomings to embracing change and personal development. They discuss the importance of shedding ego and pride to create healthier relationships and the invaluable support of a community of like-minded men.

Episode Summary:

Communication and personal growth with a podcast guest. 0:03
William Woody shares his insights on communication, revealing his personal definition and experiences with the topic.
Mark Santiago asks William questions to delve deeper into his perspective, highlighting his wisdom and knowledge on the subject.
Communication skills and relationship issues. 2:06
William reflects on his upbringing and how it impacted their communication skills, particularly in empathetic listening.
William shares his experience of being married twice, highlighting communication issues in both marriages and their subsequent self-reflection.
The speaker reflects on their past relationship, recognizing that they were not a good communicator and often prioritized work over their partner’s needs.
The speaker’s lack of empathy and active listening led to misunderstandings and outbursts, ultimately contributing to the breakdown of the relationship.
Emotional intelligence and communication in relationships. 6:17
William reflects on creating an environment that led to an affair, realizing he didn’t give his partner enough emotional attention and left a gap open for someone else to fill.
William emphasizes the importance of emotional awareness in relationships, acknowledging that neglect can lead to affairs and vulnerability to external influences.
William reflects on his experience in the Thrive program, highlighting the importance of communication and setting boundaries.
Speaker implements newfound skills in their daily life, including saying “no” to tasks that are not safe or beneficial for them or their employer.
Personal growth and self-improvement. 10:58
Unknown Speaker reflects on past relationships and realizes the importance of having the right friends who can provide support and guidance.
William believes that joining a program like the one they are in now could have helped them save a past relationship and improve their life in various aspects.
The speaker reflects on their personal growth and evolution, crediting a coaching program for helping them improve their communication skills and reach their full potential.
The speaker offers advice to other men who may be facing similar challenges, encouraging them to seek out coaching and support to improve their relationships and overall well-being.
Empowerment and personal growth for men. 15:30
The speaker recognizes the struggles of the men in the group and offers to help them overcome their challenges.
The speaker shares a personal story of dealing with a cheating spouse and encourages the men to take action to improve their lives.
William shares his journey of healing and growth after realizing he wasn’t being empathetic or communicating effectively in his relationships.
He invites listeners to join a call with an advisor at Empowered Man to learn more about their program and how it can help men achieve results.

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