Empowered AF 2.0 – Episode 112: “TSC Model for Saving Your Marriage – How to Give Your Wife Space”
In this episode, Mark dives into real-life situations shared by participants dealing with separation, divorce, and complex relationship dynamics. He offers tailored advice on how to navigate these challenges by focusing on personal growth and setting healthy boundaries.
Highlights
- Separated but living together after reconciling post-divorce.
- Recognizing toxic, codependent relationships and the importance of self-growth.
- Facing divorce after 30 years and working on personal development during the waiting period.
- Handling false infidelity accusations and focusing on reality.
- Struggle with his ex-wife’s new relationship and setting personal boundaries.
- Approach to co-parenting while reducing contact with his ex.
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Empowered AF 2.0 – Episode 111: “Mark’s The 7 Laws of Problem-Solving”
In this episode, Mark Santiago shares his “7 Laws of Problem-Solving,” a framework developed from his experience as a coach and business owner. These laws guide individuals in addressing both personal and relationship challenges:
- Not all problems need to be solved.
- Not all problems need to be solved now.
- Problems are agnostic – they don’t care who you are.
- Problems are meant to help you grow as a leader.
- Solving problems is a game of sequence – solve the right problems at the right time.
- Problems are challenges meant to help you grow.
- Don’t solve problems that haven’t been created yet.
Mark applies these principles to relationship issues, emphasizing the importance of addressing root causes rather than just symptoms. He shares a story about a client who regained power in his relationship by making the right decision to stay rather than leave.
Highlights:
- How to discern which problems to tackle first
- Understanding emotional disconnection in relationships
- The significance of doing inner work and setting healthy boundaries
Mark also provides practical advice for listeners, like Nate, who are dealing with complex relationship issues such as infidelity. He encourages focusing on personal growth and healing before moving forward with new relationships.
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In this episode, Mark engages in an impromptu “Ask Mark Anything” session, tackling a variety of questions. He delves into complex relationship issues, such as dealing with a partner’s affair, overcoming codependency, and navigating a divorce. He also emphasizes the importance of self-healing, boundaries, and genuine communication in facing challenges, offering insights and guidance to anyone grappling with emotional turmoil and relationship struggles.
Episode Summary:
- Navigating infidelity and confusion in a marriage. 0:03
- Mark explains that false positives are common in situations where a spouse has cheated, and the cheated partner may exhibit affectionate behavior towards their partner as a result of confusion and conflicting emotions.
- Mark advises a listener who is experiencing this situation to be patient and understanding, as it is normal for the cheated partner to go through a range of emotions and to take time to process their feelings.
- Infidelity and healing. 2:17
- Mark describes the process of healing from an affair as a “deep component” that requires self-reflection and personal growth.
- The responsibility of the person who has been cheated on is to work on their own healing and how to move forward, rather than trying to fix the other person.
- Mark acknowledges that you may not have put a gun to your wife’s head to make her cheat, but you may have created an environment that contributed to that.
- Mark recognizes that men often struggle to open up about their emotions and deal with them in a healthy way.
- Communication during and after divorce. 6:38
- Communicate with your ex-wife as a neutral person, not a former partner or friend, to maintain boundaries and respect each other’s space during a divorce.
- Mark shares his personal experience with moving on from a previous relationship and how he took the time to heal and come to a place of readiness for a new relationship.
- Mark advises others to prioritize healing and self-reflection before entering a new relationship, rather than rushing into it without proper closure and healing from past wounds.
- Grief, codependency, and confidence. 10:01
- Mark offers guidance on building confidence through self-reflection and identifying past wins.
- Mark discusses how men often struggle with codependency and losing confidence, leading to feelings of insecurity and a need to control.
- Mark emphasizes the importance of emotional regulation and honesty in addressing these issues.
- Personal growth and marriage reconciliation. 13:38
- Mark emphasizes the importance of emotional regulation and personal growth for men in marriages facing challenges.
- Mark encourages men to focus on their own personal development and stop worrying about their wives’ wants, as it is essential for creating a new marriage.
- Personal growth, relationships, and communication. 15:38
- Mark discusses having financial struggles and feeling powerless, seeking advice on how to navigate this situation.
- Finding inner strength to deal with the passive-aggressive behavior by an ex-wife that is causing emotional distress.
- Mark advises against blaming an ex-partner and instead focuses on personal growth and happiness.
- Dealing with an impending divorce and communicating with your soon to be ex-partner who doesn’t want to talk, emphasizing the importance of respecting her boundaries.
- Accepting divorce and personal growth. 20:10
- Mark acknowledges the difficulty of divorce for men and encourages open communication with your wife.
- Mark emphasizes the importance of accepting the reality of a failing marriage and moving forward with tools and support.
- Mark invites men to join the Thrive program for radical transformation and becoming the type of man your wife wants to communicate with and be married to.
- Mark encourages listeners to visit empowered man.co/book to book a call and figure out what’s next on their journey towards empowerment.
- Mark signs off and invites listeners to join the Empowered man group for more information and connection with other empowered men.
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In this episode, Mark shares more about the powerful “Be the Gift Challenge” he initiated during Christmas. He explores the profound parallels between Game of Thrones’ iconic theme “Winter is Coming” and the challenges faced in marriages. Drawing lessons from the series, he emphasizes the inevitability of life’s challenges, urging you as a man to prepare emotionally for Christmas and New Year, regardless of your marital situation. Mark advocates for the importance of a supportive brotherhood, highlighting its role in confronting internal struggles. Rejecting the idea of a single solution, he stresses the need for a focused strategy to address the root causes of pain, guiding you towards empowerment and authentic self-discovery.
Episode Summary:
- Mark Santiago introduces the next level of his podcast empowered AF 2.0, focusing on healthy communication, lifestyle, and personal growth.
- Mark references Game of Thrones to emphasize the unpredictability of life and the importance of being prepared for challenges, using the theme “winter is coming” as a metaphor.
- Mark discusses the theme of winter coming in the series, emphasizing its apocalyptic implications.
- Mark compares the show’s focus on winter to the way people ignore looming problems in their own lives, such as divorce or separation.
- Using pain to overcome obstacles in life. 4:37
- Mark notes that the White Walkers in Game of Thrones are relentless and overwhelming, despite efforts to defeat them with Valerian steel.
- A plan is ultimately successful in defeating the White Walkers, led by a brother and sister who work together to kill the king and shatter the army.
- Mark discusses the importance of facing pain and taking responsibility for personal growth, using the story of a linchpin to illustrate the idea that one key element can lead to significant change.
- Mark encourages listeners to be the gift they want to receive during the holiday season, rather than ignoring or denying problems.
- Coping with divorce during the holiday season. 9:29
- Mark acknowledges that winter (divorce) is coming for many couples, and preparation is key to being the best version of oneself.
- Mark encourages listeners to choose between being the “best version” or “bitch version” of themselves during the upcoming holiday season.
- Mark struggles with maintaining a facade of confidence and normalcy during a stressful family event, revealing their inner turmoil and emotional pain.
- Mark acknowledges the importance of confronting and dealing with your emotions, rather than burying them and pretending everything is fine, in order to move forward and find a positive outcome.
- The importance of addressing internal trauma for personal growth. 13:25
- Mark emphasizes the importance of a “brotherhood” in overcoming personal struggles and achieving success (14:56).
- A brotherhood can provide support, accountability, and the ability to “call out the enemy” (15:04).
- Mark acknowledges that the pain he is experiencing is not solely caused by external circumstances, but rather by internal trauma that he has neglected to address.
- Mark recognizes the need for a “Brotherhood” to help him address this internal pain and take on the “motherfucker” that is causing it.
- Overcoming toxic masculinity and self-sabotage. 18:39
- Mark internalized negative self-talk from fathe and attracted unhealthy relationships.
- Mark reflects on past relationships, realizing he was unintentionally disempowered and seeks personal growth.
- Personal growth and empowerment. 22:13
- “There’s got to be a better way for men.”
- “Become a man of integrity and authenticity, stop lying to yourself.”
- Mark challenges listeners to join a 90-day brotherhood to take back power in their lives and own their mistakes.
- A past participant who repeated the same patterns in multiple marriages finally found success with the program’s help.
- Mark challenges listeners to take ownership of their lives and become the gift to themselves, their families, and their future.
- Mark thanks listeners for joining the podcast and encourages them to visit previous episodes for foundational knowledge on being an empowered man.
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In this episode, Mark shares the powerful “Be the Gift Challenge” he initiated during Christmas. He replays Facebook Lives where he discusses the inspiration from the movie “Jingle All the Way.” Mark emphasizes the importance of fathers being present, not just with material gifts but with time, energy, and affection. He challenges you to give one new gift daily to your children and suggests that, for many, the first step is giving these gifts to yourself. Mark passionately encourages you to invest in your emotional well-being, affirming that you are worth the effort and capable of being the greatest gift to your families.
Episode Summary:
- Gift-giving and self-care during the holidays. 0:03
- Mark Santiago discusses the “be the gift challenge” during Christmas, encouraging men to be present and supportive for their families.
- Mark shares personal stories of going through separation and divorce during Christmas, offering insights on how to navigate difficult times.
- Mark discusses the pressure on men to provide gifts for their children during the holiday season, citing the movie “Jingle All the Way” as inspiration.
- Fatherhood and Christmas gift-buying. 3:51
- Howard struggles with balancing work and fatherhood in “Jingle All the Way.”
- Mark discusses how men often try to buy their children’s affection during separation and divorce, using gifts as a way to make up for not being present as a father.
- Mark shares a personal story about a character in a movie who goes on an adventure to find a toy for his son, but ultimately realizes that the son doesn’t want the toy, he wants his father’s attention and presence.
- The importance of being present for children. 9:37
- Turbo Man saves his son from falling after being attacked by Sinbad’s character, and the son reveals that he’s been wanting a Turbo Man doll for Christmas.
- Turbo Man’s wife is shocked to find out that her husband is actually Turbo Man, and she gives Jamie the special collector’s edition Turbo Man doll.
- Mark emphasizes the importance of being present for children, not just giving them gifts.
- Mark encourages fathers to do the work of healing and being present for their kids.
- Mark plans to discuss practical ways to be present for children in future videos.
- Personal growth and relationships. 15:42
- Man’s neglect of wife and son leads to temptation for another man.
- Mark emphasizes the importance of self-investment for personal growth and relationships.
- Being a good father and husband. 18:49
- Mark emphasizes the importance of being a gift to one’s family, particularly as a father, and offers three ways to give without relying on external factors.
- Mark challenges listeners to take the assignments and investments given to them and return them to their family and others, rather than focusing on receiving something in return.
- Mark emphasizes the importance of time, energy, and affection in fatherhood, highlighting the need to prioritize these aspects to raise happy and healthy children.
- Mark shares personal anecdotes and examples to illustrate the importance of showing affection and energy towards children, and asks for permission to show physical affection when needed.
- Self-care and investing in oneself for better relationships. 22:52
- Mark emphasizes the importance of giving time, energy, and affection to one’s children, but also recognizes the need for self-care and investing in yourself.
- Mark encourages listeners to choose one gift to give their children each day that they don’t already do, and to prioritize self-care if they’ve already given their children all they have.
- Mark encourages men to be the gift to themselves and others, and to receive and make the most of the resources provided.
- Mark invites men to join the Empowered Man group for further support and knowledge, and to connect with other empowered men.
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In this episode, Mark introduces Matthew, a regular guy who turned his life around by investing in himself through the Empowered Man program. Matthew shares his journey from a challenging divorce to financial struggles and how he chose to make an investment in personal growth. The episode emphasizes the difference between a cost and an investment, highlighting the profound impact it had on Matthew’s life, leading to a new relationship and a sense of purpose. They also challenge you to see yourself as a worthy investment and to take control of your destiny.
Episode Summary:
- Empowerment and personal growth for men. 0:03
- Mark Santiago introduces Matthew, a client who went through a transformation with Empowered Man.
- Matthew shares his personal journey and reasons for joining Empowered Man, highlighting the impact the program had on his life.
- Taking responsibility for personal growth after infidelity. 2:05
- Matthew’s personal journey of self-discovery through Empowered Man coaching.
- Matthew reflects on his past mistakes and struggles with boundaries, financial control, and vision, and how writing down his goals and vision has given him power and direction.
- Matthew credits the pain of past failed relationships as a motivator for taking his personal growth more seriously and writing down his goals.
- Matthew acknowledges his role in the failed marriage, taking responsibility for his emotional unavailability and lack of emotional growth.
- Matthew emphasizes the importance of doing “deep shadow work” on one’s inner child self to heal emotional wounds and become a better, more emotionally available man.
- Personal growth and investment. 9:37
- Matthew shares his experience of feeling unfulfilled and lost before discovering the Empowered Man podcast, which inspired him to tap into his internal producer and provide more than just financial support.
- Matthew describes how they were inspired by the podcast to recognize his potential as more than just a provider, and to prioritize his own growth and well-being.
- Matthew describes how they saw the loan as an investment, not a cost, despite having been bankrupt in the past.
- Mark highlights the difference between a cost and an investment, and how Matthew’s mindset demonstrates his willingness to transform and change.
- Self-worth and investment in personal growth. 14:11
- Matthew believes they have purpose and meaning in life, and are willing to invest in themselves to achieve their goals.
- Mark questions whether other men see themselves as worthy investments, and notes the impact of low self-esteem on a person’s ability to provide for their children.
- Mark expresses fear of investing in oneself due to potential divorce, highlighting the need to overcome this fear for personal growth.
- Matthew shares their personal experience of investing in themselves and finding a partner who values his growth, emphasizing the importance of prioritizing internal development.
- Personal growth and investment in a man’s life. 19:31
- Matthew emphasizes the importance of taking action and investing in oneself, even when faced with challenges and limited resources.
- Mark and Matthew both highlight the need to overcome excuse-making and take control of your life, rather than waiting for external circumstances to change.
- Mark discusses working on yourself and seeing yourself as an investment.
- Personal growth and self-improvement. 24:45
- Investing in personal growth and relationships leads to attracting successful people and experiences.
- Matthew reflects on past mistakes and recognizes the importance of investing in oneself for personal growth and self-awareness.
- Mark highlights the idea that no one else can save us but ourselves, and the decision to work on ourselves is worth any cost.
- Investing in personal growth and transformation. 29:50
- Mark emphasizes the importance of investing in oneself, not just financially but also emotionally and spiritually, to achieve transformation.
- Matthew agrees, noting that if one doesn’t put in the work, they’ll regret spending money on Thrive, but if they do, they’ll look back and say it was worth it.
- Mark emphasizes the importance of healing, communication, and leadership for men, encouraging viewers to apply for advisor consultations to learn more.
- Mark thanks listeners for joining the podcast and invites them to explore earlier episodes and connect with the Empowered Man group for further support.
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In this episode, Mark discusses the core of every man’s desire – respect. Drawing inspiration from the iconic song “Respect,” he explores how self-respect forms the foundation for earning respect from others, especially in relationships. Mark shares personal anecdotes, emphasizing the pivotal role of boundaries, self-care, and emotional healing in garnering the respect every man craves. He also challenges you to confront your own disempowerment, urging you to take ownership, lead with conviction, and transform into an empowered man.
Episode Summary:
- Self-respect and its impact on relationships. 0:03
- Mark Santiago discusses the importance of respect in relationships.
- Mark identifies lack of self-respect as the root cause of disrespect in relationships.
- Self-respect and empowerment in marriage. 3:09
- Mark discusses how some men don’t value themselves in their marriage, leading to them not setting boundaries and allowing their partner to cheat.
- The importance of taking care of emotional wounds and setting boundaries to move forward in a healthy relationship.
- Mark argues that men are hardwired to feel respected and that disrespect can lead to disempowerment and fighting.
- Mark believes that men should focus on respecting themselves rather than blaming their partners for disrespect.
- Self-respect and empowerment in relationships. 8:11
- Respect yourself, act like a man, and earn respect from others.
- Men often act like children when they should be acting like adults, disrespecting themselves and their potential.
- Mark encourages men to respect themselves and take ownership of their lives to change the dynamic of disrespect and empower themselves.
- Personal growth and taking ownership of one’s life. 11:49
- Lack of leadership, vision, and proactiveness can lead to disrespect in marriage.
- Mark emphasizes the importance of taking ownership of one’s life and circumstances to overcome victim mentality and achieve personal growth.
- Empowerment and self-respect in relationships. 15:03
- Mark emphasizes the importance of self-respect and empowerment in personal growth, particularly in the context of a difficult divorce.
- Mark encourages others to take ownership of their actions and decisions, rather than blaming others or feeling disrespected.
- Mark shares his personal journey of transforming from a “disempowered” man to an “empowered” one through self-reflection, emotional healing, and taking decisive action.
- Mark thanks listeners for tuning in and encourages them to visit earlier episodes of the podcast and join the Empowered Man group for further support.
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In this episode, Mark and Joey dive deep into the cycle of disempowerment, engaging their audience by prompting them to share their experiences. They explore the impact of guilt, blame, and the tendency to fix things in relationships. They challenge conventional narratives and encourage you to take ownership of your actions, fostering personal growth and the pursuit of authentic connections.
Episode Summary:
- Feeling disempowered and the cycle of guilt. 0:03
- Mark Santiago introduces the topic of empowerment and invites listeners to share their experiences with disempowerment.
- Joey discusses the cycle of disempowerment, including feeling stuck, overanalyzing, and hiding behind achievements.
- Men often turn to unhealthy coping mechanisms, such as drugs or alcohol, to deal with feelings of inadequacy and shame.
- Feeling guilty about not being able to fix a problem or figure out what’s going on, which Joey calls “the dogma.”
- Divorce, toxic masculinity, and personal growth. 5:49
- Mark shares their experience with divorce and how it affected their children, emphasizing the importance of owning one’s “stuff” and creating a healthy environment for kids.
- Mark believes that divorce doesn’t have to be destructive and that there is a path through it that can help children thrive, with the help of a supportive stepparent.
- Mark discusses how men are socialized to fix problems, but often end up fixing the wrong problem, leading to unhealthy patterns and relationships.
- Mark argues that taking ownership of one’s actions and emotions is key to personal growth and healthy relationships, rather than sacrificing oneself for the sake of a marriage.
- Blame and responsibility in marriage conflicts. 11:04
- Joey acknowledges that men often blame external factors for their relationship problems, rather than taking responsibility for their own actions.
- The importance of taking ownership over one’s marriage and personal growth.
- Mark emphasizes the importance of both partners wanting to work on a marriage, stating that one person cannot save a marriage alone.
- Mark criticizes the idea that one person can “get their spouse back” and then six months later, they’re cheating again, highlighting the need for self-reflection and personal growth.
- Taking ownership and responsibility in relationships. 15:28
- Men taking ownership of their roles in failed marriages and blaming themselves for not being a “safe place” for their partners.
- Taking responsibility and ownership to break free from guilt, shame, and blame cycles.
- Men are encouraged to join the Empowered Man group for further support and knowledge on how to be an empowered man in their relationships and various aspects of life.
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In this episode, Mark and Joey discuss the concepts of guilt, shame, and blame, urging you to move away from the cycle of misery and toward ownership. They emphasize the transformative power of taking responsibility and of choosing one’s interpretation of life events. They also talk about the freedom that comes with radical accountability and the journey toward empowerment and unshakable futures.
Episode Summary:
- Guilt and shame cycles among men. 0:03
- Mark Santiago introduces the next level of his podcast, Empowered AF 2.0, where he delves deeper into what it means to be an empowered man.
- Guests share their reasons for joining the call, including wanting to become a better man, dealing with separation, and seeking advice on how to improve their lives.
- Joey acknowledges the cycle of guilt, shame, and blame, recognizing the need to take responsibility and break the cycle.
- Taking ownership for personal growth and freedom. 4:43
- The importance of taking ownership and responsibility for one’s life, rather than simply feeling guilty.
- The group discusses the concept of “bridging the gap from guilt to ownership” and how it leads to true transformation.
- Men struggle taking ownership due to fear of vulnerability and accountability.
- Men’s emotional struggles and empowerment. 9:04
- Men often struggle with asking for help due to pride and fear of being judged as lesser men.
- Men’s inability to ask for help can stem from a lack of self-awareness and a fear of vulnerability, leading to feelings of inadequacy and arrested development.
- Guilt and shame can be avoided by taking ownership and leaning into pain.
- Mark emphasizes the importance of taking ownership and responsibility in life, rather than blaming others or external circumstances.
- Mark encourages listeners to adopt an empowered mindset, where they see obstacles as opportunities for growth and development, rather than as sources of shame or blame.
- Taking responsibility and personal growth. 15:40
- Joey emphasizes the importance of taking responsibility and living from a place of leadership to achieve freedom.
- A man reaches out to Joey for help reapplying the discipline he learned from him, feeling stuck and unfulfilled in his current state.
- Taking ownership and accountability in life after divorce. 19:46
- Taking ownership of one’s life after a divorce.
- Mark reflects on their divorce and how they chose to interpret it as an opportunity for growth, rather than just a negative experience.
- Mark encourages others to take ownership of their actions and set themselves up for a future that is unshakable.
- Mark shares their personal journey of self-discovery and growth, refusing to accept a negative fate for their children due to their own past experiences.
- Mark invites listeners to explore previous episodes of the podcast for additional insights and to join the Empowered Man group for further support.
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In this episode, Mark and Joey discuss the impact of personal narratives on relationships and challenge you to confront the lies you tell yourself. They share personal stories, debunk common myths, and emphasize the power of owning your truth. The episode encourages you to embrace accountability, reject societal dogmas, and embark on a transformative journey towards becoming the authentic, empowered man that you aspire to be.
Episode Summary:
- Truth and lies in personal beliefs and practices. 0:03
- Empowered AF host Mark Santiago explores truth vs. lies with guests, delving into personal growth and self-discovery.
- Mark passes down a family tradition of cutting off both sides of a ham, but the reason is revealed to be a lie passed down through generations.
- How many of our beliefs and practices are rooted in unverified stories and traditions, and how important it is to question and seek the truth?
- Military deployment and relationship dynamics. 3:46
- Mark and Joey express frustration with the pattern of losing someone and then trying to get them back, only to lose them again.
- Mark asks the group to share their thoughts on this pattern and what they are holding onto.
- Mark and Joey recognize a pattern of detaching and reattaching in their relationship, indicating a need for change.
- Joey describes a cycle of detachment and attachment in military relationships, with a breakdown occurring after periods of time apart.
- Self-defeating beliefs in relationships. 8:54
- Joey identifies the lie as the pattern of getting stuck in a false hope, while Mark emphasizes the importance of recognizing the truth behind someone’s return or absence.
- Lies about self-worth are repeating relationship patterns.
- Personal growth and relationship healing. 13:04
- The importance of personal growth and self-awareness in saving a marriage, rather than solely focusing on changing one’s partner.
- Mark asserts that they are truthful and transparent in their approach, even if it means losing clients.
- Men need to take control of their own personal growth to save a struggling marriage, rather than relying on their partner to do the work.
- Personal growth and transformation after a divorce. 16:36
- Mark describes feeling trapped in a marriage and experiencing a turning point where they realize they need to make changes for their own happiness.
- Mark shares their decision to file for divorce and the emotional journey that followed, including feeling liberated and relieved.
- Mark and Joey acknowledge the need for change and conviction rather than relying on “band-aid” solutions.
- Mark emphasizes the importance of conviction in driving transformation, highlighting the gap between guilt and conviction.
- Personal growth and self-awareness. 20:53
- Ownership is acknowledging guilt and raising personal standards, not just once but every day.
- Mark emphasizes the importance of healing and becoming one’s true self, rather than fixing or changing.
- Mark uses the story of Michelangelo and the statue of David to illustrate the idea of removing everything that is not the true self, allowing for transformation and growth.
- Masculinity and personal growth. 24:43
- Mark emphasizes the importance of being a “real man” with “real cotton balls” in relationships, while Joey highlights the ongoing effort required to achieve this goal.
- They encourage listeners to take action if they’re feeling stuck, offering a strategy session link for those ready to make a change.
- Mark thanks listeners for tuning in and invites them to explore earlier episodes and connect with him in a private group.
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