If you’re new to me and/or new to my coaching methodology, you may not know this about me.
I’m a huge believer in that the way we talk about our situations, our lives, our feelings, has a great affect on how we respond emotionally, and physiologically.
Oftentimes, when a guy is stung with the words of his wife that she doesn’t love him, or that she’s cheating, or that she wants a divorce, instantly, we go into a defensive posture.
This defensive posture can create a disconnect between her and our own responsibility.
So, guys end up finding other guys and dumping all of these emotions and feelings about how bad their situation is. Nothing wrong with venting, from time to time. But, I will always challenge us to UP our communication skills.
Here’s what that looks like:
#1 – Talk less about her and more about you. When you write your post or question, level up, and tell us how YOU FEEL about what has happened. And then tell us what YOU are doing to take action about this situation.
#2 – Focus your language more on what is possible for you and this situation vs all the negative feelings you have surrounding it.
By constantly talking about your negative feelings, your drowning in sorrow vs taking action that makes you a leader and a real man. I’m going to challenge you to actually articulate what you feel because REAL MEN COMMUNICATE, they don’t GRUNT!
While you are definitely hurt and you are looking for other guys that understand what you are going through. We will validate your feelings, but I will always challenge you to grow up and TRANSFORM.
Validation of your feelings isn’t enough.
That’s just step 0.
Step 1 starts with you owning your own sh*t and moving towards your own personal transformation regardless of what she does.
If you’re in the Facebook group, you will see me challenge guys on this all the time.
(PS – this is NOT meant to shame anyone. All of us, including myself, have experienced immense pain due to the actions of our wives, therefore, we feel justified in our complaining, whining, so i get it.)
Grunt less, communicate more.
Lets go gents!
Thanks,
Mark Santiago
The Empowered Man
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