Listen up.
Something has come to my attention, that I must address.
Many of you are really struggling with the idea of letting go of your wife and/or making decisions that are HARD.
Nothing about being a man is easy. Being a man is tough. We are leaders. Meant to create and build. Meant to protect our wife and kids.
But, what happens when one day you wake up and realize that your marriage is just a FANTASY?
That the woman you married wasn’t emotionally healthy and you could never possibly have a healthy relationship with her?
A marriage like this is nothing more than living in fantasyland.
This was my reality for 16+ years.
One day I woke up and realized I was living in fantasyland.
I believed that if somehow I stayed longer in the marriage, pressed in more, prayed more, was better to her, that she would become “better.”
That our marriage would somehow survive.
That she would stop abusing me, screaming at me, and making me feel like the worst husband in the world…
That somehow if I gave her one more chance, she would be “ok” and then “we” would be “ok”.
But, I was living in fantasyland. And that fantasy needed to end.
I remember contemplating with my coach about whether I should end the marriage. She said something profound to me that got me thinking about the bigger picture.
She said I was “idealizing” my wife and my marriage. I had lived in fantasyland so long that I was ignoring all the bad in lieu of the few moments of good.
When you are idealizing your wife, you basically see all the good and minimize the bad.
If you’ve ever taken your family to Disneyland you’ll know exactly what I’m talking about.
When you go to Disney, not only are you literally in Fantasyland, but you spend hundreds if not thousands of dollars on a few hours of entertainment. You stand in long-ass lines for over an hour at a time…for two minutes of happiness
You do all of that for the happiness and enjoyment of your kids.
But…when you get home and you reflect on the trip, all you remember is their little smiles, the cute pictures, and the mementos you got from the trip.
You forgot about the long lines and the thousands of dollars you spent. You think to yourself that all of that was worth it.
Gentlemen, many of you are currently living in fantasyland and you somehow think its worth it to stay in an abusive marriage that will never change.
Whether its because you feel an obligation to her, the kids, or whatever…
Your staying because you’re living in FANTASYLAND.
And here’s why…
Because you’re reflecting on the past, forgetting all the bad stuff, and projecting a future fantasy where none of those issues exist.
This is dangerous. For you. And your kids.
I don’t know your exact situation, but if I had to guess, you’re afraid of making the really hard decisions.
I work with guys everyday who struggle with this EXACT issue. They live in fantasyland and they know it.
The difference between them and you is that they are doing something about it.
They’ve chosen to work with our team at the Empowered Man and not just reflect on the past, but to begin creating a future that THEY want. Whether their wife is with them or not, they have determined that they will be happy regardless.
Look…if you’re trapped in fantasyland, I’ve got something for you. Its our VIP mastermind for married business owners in a toxic relationship. Over an 8-10 week period of time, we help you get a grip on reality, not by shaming you, but by encouraging you.
We work together to create a new FUTURE based on the values you have, a new identity that is bigger than being a husband and father, and help you GET YOUR POWER BACK.
If that sounds intriguing to you, Andrew, my Enrollment Advisor, and I have opened up a few slots over the next few days for guys just like you.
On our call we’ll help you identify:
- What’s stopping you from getting your power back
- Help you decide on your game plan for moving forward
- And give you the clarity you need to never settle again.
If that’s you, I want to encourage you to book a confidential call on our calendar here: https://go.oncehub.com/empoweredman
Thanks,
MarkThe Empowered Man
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