Author: empoweredman

I decided to create a special, invite only, Facebook group for men whose wives are cheating, say they don’t love you anymore, have moved out, or want a divorce…

This is a safe place where our team post videos and other content to help you get your power back in your life and relationships.

A few group rules:

– This is for MEN only. No women allowed unless they are an administrator/employee of The Empowered Man. If you have a shared account with your wife, you may want to create your own profile or confirm she no longer has access to the profile.

– No judgment. Every man in here is going through something similar. We are all hurting at some level so don’t project or judge other guys.

– Stay focused. Only talk about whats going in your life/relationship as it pertains to becoming empowered. We want to stay way from topics that are polarizing or that have to do with Politics and Religion. If you can’t respect that then you will be gone.

– No MLM, biz opps, or friending someone to sell them something. If you’re not sure, message one of the admins to find out if what you want to do will have you removed from the group.

– Encourage one another. Add value. Share your story so other men can encourage you.

If you can follow those rules, you’ll make a great group member and we would love to have you.

Here’s what you can expect:

– Weekly challenges
– Videos on saving your marriage
– Practical tools and tips to becoming a better man, husband, and father.

If you’re ready to join, here’s the link to the group:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredbusinessmen/

<sub>Here’s where I meet most guys. 

They just found out their wife doesn’t love them anymore, she’s cheating, wants to move out, or has already moved out.

The journey you are on doesn’t just go away. You’re on it now. I decided to lay out the JOURNEY that you are on. Sometimes there’s nothing more comforting than knowing that other people UNDERSTAND you and the journey you are on:

Part 1 – Shock. 

You’ve just found out and this is usually what you feel…</sub>

• _{I’m hurting and I don’t know what to do}
• _{Its her fault.}
• _{I don’t need help}
• _{I just need to vent.}
• _{She doesn’t see my changes}
• _{I don’t know if i can save my marriage}
• _{My marriage might be over.}
• _{I need to start focusing on me.}
• _{Maybe if I fix my issues, she’ll see that and come back to me.}
• _{I need to stop worrying about her.}
• _{I’m going to focus on me now. I don’t know what to focus on, but that’s what I’m going to do.}
• _{I’m exercising, reading books, blogs, buying courses, going to therapy.}

<sub>As you can see in Part 1 of your Journey its very much about her and how she has hurt you. You’re struggling very deeply because it opens up wounds from the past. 

But, what you do now makes all the difference. Will you stay in Phase 1 for days, weeks, months, or years?

Some guys never leave Phase 1 of the journey. Are you that guy?

Phase 2 – Discovery

In this phase, you’ve moved past the initial shock, disappointment, and hurt. And now you’re getting down to business and working on yourself…for real.

This is where guys start reaching out for help.

If you are in this Phase I highly recommend you booking a call with our team so that A) you don’t stay stuck in Phase 2 and B) so you do Phase 3 correctly.</sub>

• _{Its time I get focused. Its time to Up-level with people who have actually experienced what I’ve experience and can go on this journey with me more than a counselor/therapist or even my own friends.}

• _{I need to fix how I communicate, set boundaries, and own my shit. I need to figure out what I want and who I want to be. I got lost in my marriage and its time I remember who I am again.}

<sub>If you’re in Phase 2 I challenge you to reach out to one of our advisors and put you on the path towards Phase 3.

Phase 3 – Empowered

Once you’ve begun Upleveling, this is the next phase of your journey. By leaning into the process and choosing to become Empowered, this is what you can expect to happen.

You are start to realize…</sub>

• _{I am just as much at fault for the destruction of my marriage. I’ve separated the fact that what she has done isn’t my fault, but I take responsibility for what is mine.}

• _{I’ve got my Kingdom back! I feel powerful once again.}

• _{I’m communicating like a leader. I’m direct and listen empathetically when necessary. I focus on using power statements, setting the narrative, and expressing my Big Boy needs.}

• _{I have strong boundaries that fortify my heart from unnecessary pain. I enforce with consequences. I’ve separated my wife from the neutral woman who is now my co-parent.}

• _{I’ve apologized to my wife for the part I played in the destruction in our marriage. I am honoring my commitments. I am showing up every day in a healthy way and I’m responsible for my own needs and desires.}

• _{I’ve created a new plan of action based on my own values, not that of anyone else. I am clear and confident in what I want in a woman to meet my needs. I am also clear in the type of woman I want to be with for the rest of my life and I made a decision as to whether that is my current wife or not.}

• _{I have processed the pain of the failures in our marriage and have opened my eyes to the pain I allowed for myself. My confidence is back and I no longer feel sorry for myself, but take ownership of the pain I both caused and allowed.}

• _{I have grieved the death of my former wife and marriage.}

• _{I am trying new things and reestablishing childhood dreams that make me come alive again. I have a bucket list that I am working on and have designed a new life for me with my wife if she chooses to join me on this adventure.}

<sub>If you’re in Phase 2, you should highly consider getting on a call with one of our advisors. We’ll lay out the plan that you need to move to Phase 3 of your journey and get unstuck.

You ready?

Book your Empowered Man Strategy call here –> https://go.oncehub.com/empoweredman


Thanks,

Mark

The Empowered Man

*****

If you’re ready to talk about how we can help you get your power back, book a time here —> Https://go.oncehub.com/empoweredman</sub>

<sub>The other day I was getting ready for a strategy session with a guy who was interested in our Empowered Man VIP Private Coaching program. 

Prior to getting on EVERY SINGLE call I have a routine.</sub>

• _{I get into a quiet place. Make sure there’s as little noise as possible to distract me.}
• _{I do some breathing exercises.}
• _{I look at the guys application.}
• _{I visualize him and what he has been experiencing the pain his wife has caused him.}
• _{And I lock in for the call.}

<sub>I show up…every day for my guys.

Because every day, I am honored with the opportunity to hear other men’s stories. Stories, they don’t have to share with a soul, but they choose to. They reach out because they are hurting in a ton of pain.

I know that I cannot help every one of them.

I know that we can’t solve every single problem.

But, I also know that we are called to impact thousands, if not millions of men, who are struggling with this pain of losing the woman that they love.

What I often find odd though, is how so many men will book a call with us, fill out an application and either:

A. Miss the call completely.
B. Not bother to really show up emotionally for the call.

I call this the “fix-me” attitude. 

They see the opportunity to talk to someone. But, instead of taking it upon themselves to get ready for the call, they expect me to just wave my little magic wand and make everything go back to normal.

Guys, it don’t work like that.

Because…

How you show up…says everything about you and your priorities.

Heck, I know guys, who when its NFL season (hopefully we’ll see modern day football sometime this year, rather than watching all the highlights from the past), will spend hours getting dressed in their favorite teams outfits, wearing makeup, and sitting outside a stadium 3 hours before it starts.

They know how to show up for a football game…but they can’t SHOW UP for their wives or their children???!!!!

Imma be real here.

Most men don’t give a F*ck about showing up for their wives because emotionally they are like children.

If you watch most men communicate with their wives, its almost like they are talking to their mother. 

They feel like shes scolding them. They feel like shes holding them by the balls.

And that’s because she is! She owns you right now!

You’ve given away your power so you act like a 2 year old sometimes. 

And now that she’s left you, says she doesn’t love you, cheating on you…

Instead of owning up to YOUR side of the equation, you dodge bullets. Some guys head for the hills and others grovel at her feet.

But, some guys own up to their side. 

These are the REAL MEN.

They begin to look at what they can do to become a better man an EMPOWERED MAN.

They realize that regardless of what she does, they can WORK on themselves.

Too many guys have an opportunity that is standing right in front of them…but all they can see is their pain, their tears, and their fears.

Stop making this about YOU. And start making this about how YOU can become the best Empowered Man you can be.

Something I learned while going through all the pain of infidelity is…

Don’t waste your pain.

I can’t stress this enough. While it does NOT feel like a blessing, it really is. Its a huge opportunity for you to learn how to SHOW UP.

But, you’ve gotta decide if you want it.

You’ve gotta decide if you’re willing to get your hands dirty. 

You’ve gotta decide if you’re willing to face the truth about who you’ve been so that you can finally become who you were meant to be!

My team and I can go with you on this journey, but ultimately, you have to do the work. 

Our most successful clients are the ones who realize they have to SHOW UP and they have to do the work!

Look….if you’re ready to do the work, then lets talk.

If not, you can hang out for awhile. But, I can GUAR-ON-TEE you that you will NOT survive this environment if you are NOT willing to do the work.

Because I’m gonna call you out. 

Every day, guys are telling me how their wives have been saying the SAME THING I am…

Crazy, huh?!

The first step to DOING the work…is SHOWING UP!

Whose gonna show up today? How are you gonna show up?

Let’s go!

Mark
The Empowered Man

PS – If you’re ready to SHOW UP and do the work, we should chat. Schedule a time with my team, fill out the app, and we’ll show you what the work looks like and whether we think you are ready to go on that journey. 

Book a time here to start showing up for your wife —> Https://go.oncehub.com/empoweredman</sub>

So, I was talking to my client Dustin (changed his name to protect his privacy). He’s been married for about 7 years with two kids and his wife, last year, decided she was done and moved out.

Dustin was crushed. He didn’t understand!

He worked hard.

He ran a business and was focused on providing for his family. 

Yeah, he knew there was some issues, but he was totally blind-sided by this.

At first, she said it was because she needed her own space. 

But, as well know, many times there’s something beyond that.

Eventually Dustin decided to take matters into his own hands and hire a private investigator.

Lo and behold, the PI gave Dustin the evidence he did NOT want to see.

His wife was cheating on him.

For weeks and months, Dustin struggled with communicating with his wife.

He didn’t know how to set boundaries. She walked all over him. And every time he tried to put his foot down, she would somehow manipulate him.

Dustin wasn’t ready to give up on his wife and his family. He wanted to reconcile. But, he knew this wasn’t working so he decided to do something completely different.

One day while trying to stalk her on Facebook he came across one of my ads. After watching the training on getting your wife back, he decided to hop on a call with me so I could help him with his situation.

Instantly, Dustin connected to the message of the Empowered Man and became a client by the end of our call.

Within the very first week of Dustin becoming a client, his feelings were validated, he had a game plan, and he was no longer “winging” it.

Suddenly, he found himself being a leader, standing firm in his boundaries, and getting his power back.

So many guys that are on this list, in my Facebook group, or that I talk to, have NO PLAN.

They are just winging it based on what “they think” or “their buddy” thinks they should do.

This is dangerous thinking because it leads us down some dangerous paths.

What got you here won’t get you the breakthrough you need. 

And honestly, most of our “buddies” have never experienced what we are going through or they give us BAD advice!

Stop listening to bad advice and get a game plan for getting your power back, taking control of your situation again.

Look…

I work with guys, 1 on 1, in a coaching capacity. I’m not a therapist. That means I help you move forward instead of looking back.

We don’t have time to look back right now. If you want to see a therapist later, fine. But, right now, time is of the essence.

There are skills you must learn.

There are boundaries you must put into play.

And you don’t have time to waste “guessing” at what you should do.

You need a game plan right now!

When you work with me as a client, you’re not getting a bunch of information.

You are getting TRANSFORMATION.

I will quickly take you from being a push-over, with no boundaries, no communication skills, who doesn’t know who he is or what he wants…

To a man who leads with confidence. Who communicates like a leader. 

Who sets boundaries that earn him the respect he deserves.

And starts taking responsibility for his own self to the point that SHE NOTICES.

Look, working with me is NOT for the faint at heart. 

And its NOT cheap. 

If you want to just buy some videos from guys who have NEVER gone through what you are going through or who have the actual experience of being cheated on, by all means, go do that.

BUT…

If you want to experience life-altering transformation, then I’m throwing down the GAUNTLET.

I’m inviting you to APPLY for a call with me and my team. 

Here’s how it works:

1. You find a time on our calendar here. We only take 5-7 QUALIFIED calls per day based on availability. So, if you find a time, make sure you select a time you know that you can make.
2. Fill out the APPLICATION. This is crucial piece because it helps us understand whether we can help you right now or in the future. If we can help you right now, we will take your call. If its the future, we’ll give you some resources and ask you to reschedule at a later date. We have to do this as there are too many men in need of our coaching and we only have so much time to take those calls.
3. SHOW UP for the call. Make sure you that you are emotionally, spiritually, and physically ready for our call. If not, I’ll call you out on it. That means you’re not going on an errand or the drive through. It means, your sitting somewhere you can take notes, and is preferably quiet.

Bro…

Be like Dustin. Raise your hand and get help. It doesn’t make you any less of a man. In fact, in my book, it takes a real man to admit he needs help.

If you are ready to be challenged and transformed into the kind of man your wife would want to come home to, I want to invite you to book a call with our team and lets get you going on that path right now.

Thanks,
Mark Santiago
The Empowered Man

Book your Empowered Man Strategy Call here –> https://empoweredman.co/book

<sub>If you’re new to me and/or new to my coaching methodology, you may not know this about me.

I’m a huge believer in that the way we talk about our situations, our lives, our feelings, has a great affect on how we respond emotionally, and physiologically. 

Oftentimes, when a guy is stung with the words of his wife that she doesn’t love him, or that she’s cheating, or that she wants a divorce, instantly, we go into a defensive posture.

This defensive posture can create a disconnect between her and our own responsibility.

So, guys end up finding other guys and dumping all of these emotions and feelings about how bad their situation is. Nothing wrong with venting, from time to time. But, I will always challenge us to UP our communication skills.

Here’s what that looks like:

#1 – Talk less about her and more about you. When you write your post or question, level up, and tell us how YOU FEEL about what has happened. And then tell us what YOU are doing to take action about this situation.

#2 – Focus your language more on what is possible for you and this situation vs all the negative feelings you have surrounding it. 

By constantly talking about your negative feelings, your drowning in sorrow vs taking action that makes you a leader and a real man. I’m going to challenge you to actually articulate what you feel because REAL MEN COMMUNICATE, they don’t GRUNT!

While you are definitely hurt and you are looking for other guys that understand what you are going through. We will validate your feelings, but I will always challenge you to grow up and TRANSFORM.

Validation of your feelings isn’t enough. 

That’s just step 0. 

Step 1 starts with you owning your own sh*t and moving towards your own personal transformation regardless of what she does.

If you’re in the Facebook group, you will see me challenge guys on this all the time.

(PS – this is NOT meant to shame anyone. All of us, including myself, have experienced immense pain due to the actions of our wives, therefore, we feel justified in our complaining, whining, so i get it.)

Grunt less, communicate more. 

Lets go gents! 

Thanks,</sub>

_{Mark Santiago}

<sub>The Empowered Man

PS – Have you had your call with our team? Ready to get your kingdom back? Book your call here –> https://empoweredman.co/book</sub>

<sub>If you haven’t figured this out yet, Divorce is expensive.Sometimes trolls will bash my ads because they can’t fathom why someone would take back a cheating wife or a wife that says she doesn’t love you anymore.

For some men, they know that saving their marriage is possible and they’re willing to take the hard look in the mirror and take responsibility for their side of things.And while we know that divorce can COST you a lot of money, lets look at what else it can cost you:</sub>

1. _{Less time with your kids. Going from seeing your kids every day to only half-time or every other weekend is a serious cost. While you might like the bachelor life it absolutely sucks not seeing your kids.}
2. _{Loss of love. While she may have hurt you, and did you wrong, are you ready to give up on the love of your life? You sacrificed so much to get to this point. You’ve had kids together, Christmases, family dinners, intimate moments, dates that can never be repeated with anyone. Is it worth giving up on her because she hurt you?}
3. _{Loss of self. While you can lose yourself in a marriage, you can also lose yourself outside of your marriage. When making the big decision towards giving up on her, you must realize that you will lose yourself for a time.}

_{Either way, you look at it, DIVORCE is expensive. It will COST you and it will COST YOU BIG!
And that’s why you must put on your big boy pants and make some tough decisions.}

_{But, don’t make the mistake of trying to do this on your own. None of us can do this alone. We need people, specifically, other men to walk with us on this journey.}

_{That’s what I do. I get in the corner with other men. Together, we get down in the dirt and find the answers and create a path forward for a man who is hurting, confused, distraught, embarrassed, and doesn’t know which way to turn.}

_{We turn men, who feel like boys, into grown men again. When we work with our guys, we help you communicate with power, create boundaries that demand respect, cultivate responsibility that demonstrates leadership, identify your identity so you know who you are, and discover your values so you KNOW WHAT YOU WANT.}

_{Gentlemen, divorce is expensive, not only financially, but emotionally, physically, and spiritually. Whether your wife files for divorce or not, doesn’t matter.}

Wouldn’t it be great if you had a man on your side, rooting for you, keeping you accountable? Wouldn’t it be great if you were investing in yourself and growing as a man, regardless of what your wife does?

_{And wouldn’t it be incredible if you finally developed the skills necessary to attract and keep your wife? We don’t have much time to waste. We’re not promised tomorrow. Don’t delay another minute getting the help you desire.}

When your ready, click on the calendar link below to schedule a time with me or my team.
https://go.oncehub.com/EmpoweredMan

On this confidential call, we’re going to help you discover your path forward.
And if we think you’re a fit for our program, we will invite you to join so that you can become an Empowered Man.
Our program isn’t cheap. But, its much cheaper than divorce.
Remember divorce is expensive, but that doesn’t mean you have to settle for it.
Get proactive. Get on this call. And lets get you going in the right direction.
Thanks,

Mark Santiago
The Empowered Man

PS – We’ve been super booked up all week so if you see an opening grab it and make sure you fill out the application or we will cancel your call: https://go.oncehub.com/empoweredman

If your’e like most guys, you’ve hit a cross road in your life and marriage.

<sub>Your wife left, shes cheating, or she says she doesn’t love you anymore.

So you’re talking to buddies, parents, uncles, people in FB groups.

And they’re all giving you advice. 

And most likely…BAD ADVICE!

Most men in these situations are looking for advice because they need some sort of validation.

You need someone to tell you what to do because quite frankly you have no idea what to do and know one ever gave you the skills to learn how to respond in these situations.

Look, its not your fault that you don’t know what to do. We aren’t wired to deal with rejection very well.

In fact, most days you’re probably falling apart inside and have no idea how to make it to the next day.

I’ve been there. I’ve hurt like you hurt. I’ve cried like you’ve cried. 

You either GO through what you’re going through or you GROW through what you’re going through.

Getting advice, especially bad advice, is NOT going to help you GROW through this situation with your wife.

You have to step up your game. In fact, you have to setup up your INTERNAL game.

This is where most guys go sideways.

Instead of leaning into the pain, facing the possibility of divorce, they retreat to somewhere safe.

Whether its porn, another woman, the bottle, work, etc.

We retreat because we feel sorry for ourselves and we have no idea how to GROW through this situation.

Guys, the only way you’re going to GROW through this is to stop listening to bad advice and become committed to working on your internal game.

Your internal game is where transformation occurs. Its where new decisions are made from a healthy and strong place. 

This is what I do. 

I don’t help men trick their way into getting back with their wife. I help them grow up and grow a pair. 

I help them fix their internal game so that whether they win their wife back or NOT they’ve become a much better, happier, stronger, and more attractive man.

If you’re ready to become that kind of man, I want to challenge you to have a call with my team. I’ve got to warn you though. We don’t pull punches and we’re not going to allow you to get away with bullshit.

If you’re ready to step up to the challenge and become a better, happier, stronger, and more attractive man to your spouse, then click here to schedule a call with my team:

Schedule your call here –> https://go.oncehub.com/empoweredman

Thanks,
Mark SantiagoThe Empowered Man

PS – We’ve been super booked up all week so if you see an opening grab it and make sure you fill out the application or we will cancel your call: https://go.oncehub.com/empoweredman</sub>

<sub>Both in my personal experience in being married as well as the experience of tons of men I have worked with over the years, there is something we all have in common.

When guys talk about their wife leaving them, cheating on them, or saying they want a divorce…

Most of the time, not all, but most of the time…

They were CLUELESS it was happening.

So, when it happens you feel like you’ve been hit across the face with a 2×4.

Its all of a sudden, out of the blue.

Many of you are hurting. You are in situations that are pretty bad if you’re on this email list.

So, while you’re in quarantine, if your wife is got one foot out the door, cheating on you, or has said she doesn’t love you anymore, I got something for you.

I’m going to give you the top 3 things you need to be thinking about to maintain sanity as well as get your power back while in QUARANTINE!

Thinking thing #1 – Don’t worry about tomorrow, tomorrow will take care of itself. 

The first time my wife told me she wanted out of the marriage all I could think of was being alone, not seeing my kids every day. My mind wandered out to the future that I had NO control over. 

Don’t do that. Don’t waste your time thinking about a future, crying over a future, that you have zero control over.

Instead focus on TODAY. Focus on what you can control today. And that doesn’t mean your wife.

Thinking Thing #2 – Give her SPACE!

If your wife is seriously considering divorce, moving out, cheating, or whatever, the last thing she needs is you all up in her face!

Instead you need to give her space. Let her make her decision. I don’t mean you can’t protest her decision, but you must not continuously bug her and keep talking about “getting back together” if that;s what you want.

Thinking Thing #3 – Focus on the BIG PICTURE

Some guys get really focused on all the little things that she does or doesn’t do. Don’t do this. Please don’t do this. You will have your head spinning in circles wondering if she wants to stay or go.

Some guys do this to keep the hope alive. So, they get obsessed with every little thing she does or doesn’t do that APPEARS like she is coming back to the marriage.

This.will.drive.you.insane!!! Stop it!!

You cannot control her or what she does. So, as best as you can, stop focusing on what she is doing that looks like she is coming back to the marriage.

Most wives don’t just come back to the marriage and then everything goes back to normal. 

It doesn’t work like that. They usually struggle, go back and forth in their mind. And thats because for a woman to leave a marriage it takes a lot of emotional turmoil. They don’t just up and leave. They plan it, think about it, and then make their decision.

So, while you’re stuck in your head right now, thinking about all of this stuff, remember that there are guys out there who are ready to help you get back on track with your marriage.

We have a program for guys like you who are married to a woman who is cheating, said they don’t love you anymore, or who has already left you/asked for a divorce.

If that’s you, I want to encourage you to NOT waste this time you have. Lets work together to help you build a proper foundation and become a man that your wife would want to come back to.

I don’t know what the future holds, but I do know that no matter what, you are responsible for you. When the chips are down, I would much rather my guys, my brothers, be able to say they gave it their all.

So, if you’re ready to get back on track, I want to invite you to a special phone call with myself or Andrew to chat with you about your specific situation and whether we can help you get your marriage back on track.

Click here to book your time –>


Thanks,
Mark Santiago</sub>

_{The Empowered Man}

PS – We don’t have time for excuse-makers<sub>.  If you book a time, please make sure you show up and are ready to get the breakthrough you need on the call to go to the next level.

Get your Empowered Man Breakthrough Session here —> https://go.oncehub.com/empoweredman</sub> 

<sub>Listen up.

Something has come to my attention, that I must address.

Many of you are really struggling with the idea of letting go of your wife and/or making decisions that are HARD.

Nothing about being a man is easy. Being a man is tough. We are leaders. Meant to create and build. Meant to protect our wife and kids.

But, what happens when one day you wake up and realize that your marriage is just a FANTASY?

That the woman you married wasn’t emotionally healthy and you could never possibly have a healthy relationship with her?

A marriage like this is nothing more than living in fantasyland.

This was my reality for 16+ years. 

One day I woke up and realized I was living in fantasyland. 

I believed that if somehow I stayed longer in the marriage, pressed in more, prayed more, was better to her, that she would become “better.”

That our marriage would somehow survive. 

That she would stop abusing me, screaming at me, and making me feel like the worst husband in the world…

That somehow if I gave her one more chance, she would be “ok” and then “we” would be “ok”.

But, I was living in fantasyland. And that fantasy needed to end.

I remember contemplating with my coach about whether I should end the marriage. She said something profound to me that got me thinking about the bigger picture.

She said I was “idealizing” my wife and my marriage. I had lived in fantasyland so long that I was ignoring all the bad in lieu of the few moments of good.

When you are idealizing your wife, you basically see all the good and minimize the bad.

If you’ve ever taken your family to Disneyland you’ll know exactly what I’m talking about. 

When you go to Disney, not only are you literally in Fantasyland, but you spend hundreds if not thousands of dollars on a few hours of entertainment. You stand in long-ass lines for over an hour at a time…for two minutes of happiness

You do all of that for the happiness and enjoyment of your kids. 

But…when you get home and you reflect on the trip, all you remember is their little smiles, the cute pictures, and the mementos you got from the trip. 

You forgot about the long lines and the thousands of dollars you spent. You think to yourself that all of that was worth it.

Gentlemen, many of you are currently living in fantasyland and you somehow think its worth it to stay in an abusive marriage that will never change.

Whether its because you feel an obligation to her, the kids, or whatever…

Your staying because you’re living in FANTASYLAND.

And here’s why…

Because you’re reflecting on the past, forgetting all the bad stuff, and projecting a future fantasy where none of those issues exist.

This is dangerous. For you. And your kids.

I don’t know your exact situation, but if I had to guess, you’re afraid of making the really hard decisions.

I work with guys everyday who struggle with this EXACT issue. They live in fantasyland and they know it.

The difference between them and you is that they are doing something about it.

They’ve chosen to work with our team at the Empowered Man and not just reflect on the past, but to begin creating a future that THEY want. Whether their wife is with them or not, they have determined that they will be happy regardless.

Look…if you’re trapped in fantasyland, I’ve got something for you. Its our VIP mastermind for married business owners in a toxic relationship. Over an 8-10 week period of time, we help you get a grip on reality, not by shaming you, but by encouraging you. 

We work together to create a new FUTURE based on the values you have, a new identity that is bigger than being a husband and father, and help you GET YOUR POWER BACK.

If that sounds intriguing to you, Andrew, my Enrollment Advisor, and I have opened up a few slots over the next few days for guys just like you.

On our call we’ll help you identify:</sub>

• _{What’s stopping you from getting your power back}
• _{Help you decide on your game plan for moving forward}
• _{And give you the clarity you need to never settle again.}

<sub>If that’s you, I want to encourage you to book a confidential call on our calendar here: https://go.oncehub.com/empoweredman

Thanks,
MarkThe Empowered Man

PS – After you book a time, make sure you fill out the application on the next page. This helps us ensure we can actually help you on the call. If you do NOT complete the application, your call will be canceled.

Book your Empowered Man Strategy Session here —> https://go.oncehub.com/empoweredman</sub>

_{One of the biggest issues I see with men either in the midst of divorce or facing a failed marriage…especially one that involved a lot of toxicity.}

_{Is the STORY they are telling themselves. When trauma hits us the first thing we do is search for meaning. Humans are storytellers. There is a constant dialogue of STORY happening in our minds. We use stories to interpret the world around us.}

_{Think about the last time somebody cut you off while driving. You probably attached a MEANING through STORY to what happened. You tell yourself, “That guys a jerk! He’s just in a rush…PROBABLY because he’s late for work!” That story makes you feel better in some ways.}

_{You feel justified in your anger. But, what if that wasn’t the TRUTH??}

_{What if that guy was racing to his dying wife’s bedside? What if he just got the word she was badly injured in a car accident and the doctors didn’t know how much longer she would live?}

_{Does that change the STORY you’re telling yourself about this “jerk”? If so, you’re not alone. Most of us are willing to change the story we tell ourselves with the more “facts” we have.}

_{But, again, these FACTS can distort the TRUTH.}

_{Here’s the real fact. While that guy may be in a rush to get to his wife, he still has a responsibility to drive carefully and not cause another accident. This is the same way we must view our emotionally abusive and toxic wives.}

1. _{She is treating you unjustly. But…there is NEVER an EXCUSE for ABUSE.}
2. _{She has childhood trauma and is ill-equipped to handle the pain in her life. So, empathy is needed. BUT…there is NEVER an EXCUSE for ABUSE.}
3. _{She still needs to be held accountable for how she treats you.}
4. _{AND…you need to be held accountable for HOW you respond to her.}

At the end of the day, <sub>we are all flawed. Whether you’re trying to shoulder ALL of the blame or NONE of the blame, we both have a part to play in any relationship.

You have a choice. You can play the part of VICTIM or the VICTOR. 

Victims enable abusive behavior (not in all situations like children or people with disabilities). They play the whiner, complainer, and no-action-taker. They are the first to tell everybody about how unfair their life is, but the first to shun responsibility.</sub>

<sub>But, VICTORS, disempower abusive behavior with clear boundaries. They don’t complain about the abuse, they take action to end it. They make commitments and they stick to it. They don’t make excuses for what is happening. They find a way to safely end it.

That’s the part you have to play.

Whether your relationship “makes it” or not, you will more than likely always have some relationship with this woman.

And, if thats the case, the part you have to play is that of either a VICTIM, who enables her, or VICTOR who changes the story and sets healthy boundaries.

So, which part are you gonna play…VICTIM or VICTOR??</sub>

_Thanks,
Mark

_{PS – If you’re ready to start playing the part of VICTOR you should book a call with my Enrollment Advisor and he’ll hook you up with the clarity and direction you need to stop playing the VICTIM and start playing the VICTOR.}

_{Click here to book a time —> https://go.oncehub.com/empoweredman}